Now It All Makes Sense

How An ADHD Diagnosis Brought Clarity to My Life

By: Alex Partridge

Narrated by: Alex Partridge

'Truly life changing. The perfect antidote for shame' Samantha Hiew PhD, founder of ADHD Girls

'A powerhouse of a book. Deeply validating' Rich and Roxanne Pink (ADHD Love)

Aged just 21, Alex Partridge founded UNILAD and LADBible, social news sites which now have a following of 100 million people around the globe. A legal case over ownership in 2017 tipped him over the edge of the cliff into alcoholism, triggering years of mental health issues until, aged 34, he was diagnosed with ADHD.

Now it all makes sense.

In his chart-topping podcast, ADHD Chatter, Alex has spoken to dozens of experts on ADHD and related conditions in a bid to understand and improve outcomes for the neurodiverse population - and this groundbreaking book brings them all together, for the first time, in one place.

A blend of lived experience and expert insight, this deep dive into ADHD has the power to change your life. If you've ever wondered why you can't remember those critical appointments, how you can be hyper-focused one minute and down a YouTube rabbit-hole 30 seconds later, or why do people walk so slowly? then this relatable and unashamedly honest book is for you.

Written with Alex's trademark raw vulnerability, Now It All Makes Sense distils the essence of all the most important need-to-knows, from parenting with (and for) ADHD, to managing your mental health, your finances and even your shopping list. Most importantly it celebrates the opportunities and strengths, unique skillsets and positive traits of ADHD to remind you that you are NOT broken - and you are enough.

©2025 Alex Partridge (P)2025 Hodder & Stoughton Limited

Helped me understand!

I have been following for a while and I was too excited for this book. I was so eager to read it that I just got the audio book instead so I didn't have to wait. This book has helped me understand myself and with what I'm feeling. As a almost 30-year-old who has yet to be diagnosed with ADHD, this book helped me understand that I absolutely do and it's the reason for how I feel in every day life. Thank you, Alex! You're a true inspiration!

Thank you!

Now that it all makes sense, I mourn my childhood and dream of how different my adulthood could have been!

Inspiring, funny and heartfelt

Alex is very relatable and his personal references make this a very compassionate take on being an ADHDer.

Covers a Large Amount of Information

If not for this author’s social media content I honestly don’t think I would have been diagnosed. But now I am & asked myself “Now what?”
This book helped me make sense of ADHD with information Alex has collected from handpicked experts. Why does this happen & how to lessen the negative outcomes or how to keep it from happening in the first place. There’s so much information to help with Emotional Disregulation as well as help navigating ADHD with your partner.
There’s something here for you. It has helped me tremendously!

Extremely neurotic and insecure, not my experience

Neuroticism and insecurity scream off these pages and that was not my experience at all. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 6 and I am now 46. I was never a people pleaser, I never pretended to like a band I didn't, not a movie or a TV show. I was highly opinionated throughout my whole life and more than vocal.

If I thought what you liked sucked I was going to let you know it. Obsessions? For sure, I am a walking encyclopedia on my interests. I relate to a lot of things in the book and a lot of tips are helpful but they are written from the perspective of someone with ADHD that is also an introvert and highly neurotic.

I've had my share of neuroticism in my life but not on the level I'm reading in this book, it must be unbearable to be around. I also didn't have a challenge maintaining friendships long term. I am still friends with those from going back to when I was 12 years old and I make an awesome friend and an even more formidable enemy.

I think in black and white and I feel in black and white, if I love you I LOVE you and if I hate you I HATE you and I'm was never shy or shy about the way I felt and I made friends very easily.

I was severely abused as a child so yeah, a lot of bad habits and trouble but I was on the offensive not evasive. This book is more for introverts with ADHD than those like myself that didn't struggle with half the things the author did simply because of extroversion.

I've had massive addictions to drugs; IV speedballs, heroin, crack, meth, I went all the way. I am closer to Dave Mustaine than I am Nivek Ogre.

There are a lot of benefits to ADHD but as long as RSD exists I can not frame it as a superpower and mearley a disability only because society doesn't learn in the same manner. No, it's a disorder, it's not functional in any society, What society is my RSD going to be of benefit to me under any societal framework? How can you make it be a benefit? It doesn't add up to me.

There are far more downsides to ADHD than benefits and to force frame it as a superpower seems like a rather simple coping method.

Now onto my biggest issue with this book, "Our Love Languages" (communication primarily in romantic relationships), you can not negotiate desire as Rollo Tomassi says and this is negotiation.

Date night gets mentioned here, not spontaneous monkey sex, date night. In fact affection is not really mentioned at all, it's all about communication which sounds to me as like a transactional relationship rather than one that runs on genuine burning desire.

If you are a guy taking romantic or relationship advice from this book you are probably looking for or have already ended up with a glorified roommate rather than a girlfriend. Sex as a reward not because she wants to tear your cloths off and that is not for me.

Guys reading this book need to read it alongside Frame, Praxeology Vol 1 by Rian Stone. Love languages are a recipe for a partnership not a girlfriend and I am not running a business I am romantically involved.

Also on YouTube look up Come on Man The 5 Love Languages are Bullsh*t with ApexMindset to understand why the love languages are incredibly absurd and counterproductive.

I am fairly uncompromising and drugs got in the way of my relationships not my behaviors off of them.

I fought like hell to maintain my identity as a child, I was not a conformist by any means what so ever and guys like me are not represented in this book.

There is too much demand for accommodation as well, having to inform and onwards. I prefer to force my way in situations and have the surroundings form around me because I'm awesome and people like me not because I'm weak, sensitive, vulnerable and needy

Breeding resentment through incessant requests/demands on those around me, having to hide and when I'm around those around me need to walk on eggshells is not for me.

There is a part of me that hopes the author is wise enough not to read comments and reviews so his RSD doesn't get triggered (and if you are reading this it's not personal) but it's more important to me that guys wake up to particularly the romantic relationship fallacies in this book.

Take what you need and leave the rest but if you don't know what to leave you can end up in divorce court also with ADHD. Hypergamy doesn't care if you have ADHD, society doesn't care, I am not responsible for my having ADHD but it is my responsibility to deal with it.

Perhaps I'm just not financially successful enough to be able to make such demands on my surroundings but I don't think I would if I could.

So why am I reading this book if I was diagnosed at 6 and only Now it All Make Sense? Because I thought ADHD was bullspit my whole life until recently. Everybody insisted I had ADHD but nobody took the time to explain to me what it was.

Constantly hearing people blame loosing their car keys on undiagnosed ADHD I just though it was made up to sell medication. When I learned about RSD just 2 months ago I was DEVASTATED, it was 100% me on the nose, I was crushed and the ADHD podcast I heard was like they read me as a case study.

It was time to accept my ADHD and that's what lead me to ADHD Chatter and thus this book all in a matter of a couple of months this happened and yes, now it does all make sense and this book is helpful in that, but it is too one sided and that side is introversion.

The title fully describes how I felt reading it!

As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 53, I felt empowered and understood after reading this book. It made me want to pat myself on the shoulder and say, "You did well, considering you weren't aware of this information for most of your life." The book provided me with valuable insights not only into myself but also into my role as a mother of two children with ADHD. I hope to support them better in their journey than what was possible for me growing up in the 70s and 80s. I encourage anyone with ADHD or in a relationship with someone who has ADHD to read this book, as it contains invaluable information about ADHD relationships. It was such an enjoyable read that I finished it in just two days!

It really makes sense... Now

I have been getting more familiar, but so many traits and events make sense.

Now it really does “All Makes Sense”

Absolutely worth the read/listen. Alex makes it all make sense and gives practical tips to work in our ADHD strengths.

Late ADHD Diagnosis Bible

Wow. I cannot express how relatable this book is. I was diagnosed approximately 6 months ago (of course I say “approximately” because I have no sense of time 😂), at 37. After being told, since I was 16, that I had GAD and depression. And other than a few details, I could have been the one writing my own experiences in this book. I have never felt more seen and heard. I have to admit, I had to stop listening at times because I was overwhelmed with how true this book is, and crying while driving isn’t easy.

Thank you, Alex, for sharing your story. It is incredible and inspiring for anyone that is neurodivergent in this world. And encouraging for their partners and family members who have also struggled to understand. And thank you to all of the great therapists/ psychologists/ psychiatrists that are advocating for their patients to find answers for their “broken” brains.

This book is a must listen!!! ♥️

Repetitive and simplistic

It’s ironic - it’s so repetitive that as a person with ADHD I struggle to listen to it. A lot of the points are very intuitive and simplistic and I feel it could be written much more efficiently. I was really looking forward to it after watching some promotion for it, but I’m actually not even able to finish it.