Attached

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

Narrated by: Robert Petkoff

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read, and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or—as in my case—even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse." (Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American)

"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures—finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on 25 years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader." (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)

5 Stars

This book was eye opening and life changing. I hope it can help others as it has and will help me.

Best relationship book I’ve listen to so far.

Easy to understand with no fillers. Straight to the point. I highly recommend this book!

message I needed to hear for relationship health

interesting concepts about adult attachment theory that I had not heard before. lots of good examoles to help the reader relate and identify which attachment styles they have and are interacting with. the opening chapters were a bit slow to listen to but if you stick with it, the book goes from diagnosing to exploring applications of effective communication

A must Read!

This book has helped me immensely- eye opening! It has truly changed my life! I only wish I had known this information years ago. It would have saved me much heartache! I can’t say enough about this book and the clear and concise information. Highly recommend!

Great book

This book was really helpful. It is very in-depth in that it explains in detail each attachment type and then goes into detail explaining how to manage relationships in a healthy way based on which category you fall in. I would recommend this book to anyone who has trouble finding healthy relationships or even just in general to people who want to know why they are the way they are in relationships. There are also a lot of examples included in the book that help to demonstrate the information.

I needed this.

This book is so necessary. It debunks several myths of codependency and has helped me voice my needs better. Therapy helps too.

PLEASE READ

I’ve never written a review before but this was worth it. I’ve learned so much about myself and those around me. The most encouraging and motivating book I’ve ever read. Please read!

Very informative

This book helped me to understand another situation that might be at play. This totally open my eyes to certain things and I'm going to do a podcast episode on this topic

Best book I have read since divorce

I wish I would have read this book while I was still married but I’m thankful I have it as a tool moving forward. So many ah ha moments. By far the best book I have read since getting divorced.

Should be taught in HIGH SCHOOL

Excellent synopsis of attachment science, I wish I knew this information 20 years ago. Highly recommended for all couples, singles, and seekers. Get your pen and notepads ready!