It Begins with You

The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life

By: Jillian Turecki

Narrated by: Jillian Turecki

The beloved relationship coach, teacher, and host of the top relationship podcast Jillian on Love reveals nine core truths about love and self-acceptance and provides powerful self-healing techniques and strategies to help us repair our relationship with ourselves and start building the rewarding relationships we deserve.

Jillian Turecki’s holistic, compassionate, yet no-nonsense approach to love has attracted a devoted following of millions. In her highly anticipated debut book, she makes clear that if you want a meaningful relationship filled with connection, security, and intimacy, you have to look within. The common denominator in all your relationships is you.

Drawing from decades of experience helping clients heal themselves and their relationships, It Begins with You introduces the 9 core truths we must accept in order to change our lives:

• Truth 1: It begins with you.
• Truth 2: The mind is a battlefield.
• Truth 3: Lust is not the same thing as love.
• Truth 4: You have to love yourself.
• Truth 5: You must speak up and tell the truth.
• Truth 6: You need to be your best self (even after the honeymoon).
• Truth 7: You cannot convince someone to love you.
• Truth 8: No one is coming to save you.
• Truth 9: You must make peace with your parents.

Blending therapeutic strategies, somatic techniques, client case studies, practical tools, tips, and guiding questions, It Begins with You gives us a roadmap to finally start doing the work needed to love ourselves and find the love we deserve. It's never too late to choose yourself.

©2025 Jillian Turecki (P)2025 HarperCollins Publishers

It begins with you…

Everything said on this book was very helpful. You must look within, there is hope in healing. One step at a time.

the author narrates the book which even more meaningful.

it's Jillian at her best! I have listen to a lot of her podcast and they have all been very helpful now there's an opportunity to listen to longer version of everything she teaches in her Julian on love podcast which is amazing.

Amazing book

This will forever change my life . Thank you so very much for these beautiful words .

Wow…YOU NEED THIS BOOK

This is an amazing book and exactly what the world needs now. It’s honest. It gives details on how to execute what it suggests to change your life and your relationships. Through the examples of relationship stories in the book, it gives the opportunity to see yourself and to own aspects of your life and take accountability for them. It doesn’t blame or victimize, it shows truth. And I know this book has forever changed my outlook on myself and my relationships. Thank you Jillian. PS-I have also found your podcast and can’t stop listening. I am 41, divorced and recently ended my longest post divorce relationship when I found your work. I am no longer repeating patterns. So thank you again for all the work you do. Much love.

Love yourself 1st by reading this book and really listening.

I love Jillian’s voice as it provided calm encouragement to tune into valuable insights into what I needed to hear and understand about myself present and past. I truly appreciate the steps/suggestions of How or what to do about specific topics. Thank you for writing this and helping me learn how to love myself better.

Authentic and profound

Listening to Jillian felt like I had a friend sitting on the couch next to me, giving me sound and straight forward advice. Going into 2025, her book is giving me confidence in myself to start focusing on myself and healing the parts of me that I thought love could fix. I know now that I need to love myself first.

Must read for everyone . Timeless truths

Jillian delivery and honest truth gave such emotion to empower any decision people feel in there heart they need to make. This book can be timeless since we have to be advocate for ourselves throughout or whole life. Thanks so much for all your hard work. It’s helped so much and grateful for the timing.

Her thoughtful insights and personal transparency

It was cathartic which I liked and at the same time didn’t like when it was occurring.

Do THE SELF-WORK!

This is Emotional Health 101. It gives the basics and discusses the growth to being independently emotionally content. Do the work….

This would save my relationship.

If i listened or read this book a month ago, my relationship would be different. I am going through the most difficult breakup ever and i loathe my mind. Listening to this book for 8 hours straight cleared my mind and helped me to understand why i messed up my life. I hope this will save many other people relationships. Thank you Jillian