Loyal to a Fault

How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting

By: Courtney J. Burg

Narrated by: Courtney J. Burg

Read by the author.

Do you find yourself living as the people pleaser or peacekeeper? Do you avoid conflict? Learn how to overcome your fears about setting boundaries and step into a life that's overflowing with love, respect, and healthy relationships.

We are people who love patterns, even if returning to these patterns continues to hurt us or those we love. Some of the most harmful patterns of behavior are passed down through generations and inherited, often without our permission or awareness. The conflict arises when these behaviors are so deeply woven into early family systems that they later become part of our identities, clashing with who God has created and called us to be.

As a child, Courtney Burg quickly learned that remaining loyal to others meant keeping secrets, even if these secrets were keeping those she cared for most sick. Her efforts to sustain the peace followed her into adulthood and slowly left her depleted, discouraged, and drowning in the chaos—until Courtney discovered that not only did God grant her permission to engage in relationships differently, but that he gave her specific instruction on how to do so.

In Loyal to a Fault, Courtney Burg unpacks the various ways we cope with, enable, and participate in unhealthy relationships or generational trauma. Using personal examples and providing practical wisdom, Courtney helps you break free from codependent patterns by:

• Identifying the role you are playing in keeping the dysfunctional patterns going.
• Reframing what it means to love and remain loyal to those who matter most.
• Reminding you that boundary work is a biblical practice.

It is possible to learn how to love others well without losing yourself along the way. People pleasing, complaining, and exhaustion may be today's norm, but at any moment you can choose to do things differently. Begin setting boundaries and start enjoying relationships in all the ways God designed you to.

Reflection questions and charts can be found in the audiobook companion PDF download.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2023 Courtney J. Burg (P)2023 Thomas Nelson

Excellent Resource for Codependency Recovery

Impressive biblical connections and integration to help on this topic along with practical strategies and practices. Excellent for Christians recovering from codependency in their relationships. Courtney shares from her own experience and offers real help

She had me at Loyal to a Fault

After a blow up with one of my sisters that opened a deep wound (which obviously has still not healed,) I searched for something that was going to help me with my
dysfunctional family. Note: I'm 63 and have been in recovery from addiction for 35 years, and a born again Believer for 30 years. I am the one of 6 siblings who is "loyal to a fault"! Your book has so blessed me through this struggle to stop the bleeding.
I know I need to continue to program in the TRUTH every day!!
Stand on the solid ground of Jesus because all other ground is sinking sand. Family dynamics will always shift and sink us.
Thank you for writing your book!!!❤️‍🩹