Stop Hurting the Woman You Love

Breaking the Cycle of Abusive Behavior

By: Charlie Donaldson MA, Randy Flood MA, Elaine Eldridge PhD

Narrated by: Tom Parks

A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking.

End the cycle of abuse - for good. Authors Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood, and Elaine Eldridge uncover a proven action plan that violent men can use to change their behavior. Filled with insightful questionnaires and actual case histories, the essential how-to book Stop Hurting the Woman You Love, will help end abusive patterns in favor of healthier, happier relationships.

©2006 Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood, Elaine Eldridge (P)2020 Tantor

Absolutely amazing

Excellent book that gets in the mindset of an abusive male how they blame and abuse and feel justified. Highly recommended.

Damn I feel terrible

I didn’t think I was abusive, but I do everything they talk about in this books 📚 (except hit women)

eye opening to say the least

I didn't realize the things I was doing were causing so much damage. I wish I found this book earlier in life. If you're ready to stop hurting those you love and those that love you, this is a great place to start.

Every Man could learn/benefit from this read!!

Excellent enlightening, great life lessons to apply. Unlearn the male socialization and truly become a Great Man, husband, father

So grateful for resources like this!

Loved how much this booked covered. Love that it included the abused woman’s perspective. Loved the examples. Loved how straightforward it was. These resources are so important. I’ll definitely be suggesting to others.

I listened to this too late

I am an abuser. I love my wife and children so very much but I have been abusive. I've yelled at my caring comforting wife, My unconditionally loving son (12) and the most beautiful sassy little girl you could ever imagine (10) daily, I've been insecure and controlling., I've done everything I promised myself I would never do because I grew up in a household that was negelectful and abusive. I justified it with, "This is nothing compared too...". I wish I would have listened to this sooner. I wish I would have joined a group, was honest with a therapist and had been given the proper diagnosis before it was too late. I wish I had never put my hands on the most beautiful person I have ever met.
If you yell, if you hit things, if you ruminate daily, I beg you get help and take it seriously before there is no one to help yourself for. Being alone when the people you love the most in the world are no longer with you, is the most pain you will ever suffer. I promise you this. I love you A,Q,S(B) I am so sorry I failed you.

Saved us from a divorce!

We were about to end our marriage in a painful loving way. I was abusive but couldn't see it, untill I searched for: how to stop being abusive (even though not accepting that I was, searching from an implied view)? I found this audiobook and recommend it to anyone that knows he lows their partner, wife's or children but just can't be in a stable relationship. You can change for the better!!

excellent and insightful

the book hits hard in ego but well worth reading from start to finish, will read again

Great book with good narration

I think the narrator was really good. The book itself is great and holds incredibly valuable information. I wish it was easy as "have your husband read this," and everything would be fixed...sadly no book can do that....but this one is pretty awesome when it comes to explaining the dynamics, triggers snd origins of domestic violence and controlling relationships....unfortunately it's up to each abuser to take the information inside and do the work to change their ways- something very few seem willing to do.

Finally! A book to HELP the "abuser"!

I have PTSD--from combat, and from growing up. I didn't have a mother and the poor life i grew up in taught me to be hard and aggressive. I wanted help, i needed to learn how to care, how to be empathetic, but all i could find was help for the victim, not the aggressor. This book is a sigh of relief and a big help. It gives me hope that there are people who want to help and not just lock me up.