Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, Revised Edition

Relationship Repair in a Flash

By: Nancy Dreyfus PsyD

Narrated by: Gabra Zackman

Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love is a brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing. Couples therapist Nancy Dreyfus hit upon this revolutionary practice during a particularly angry couples-therapy session in which a wife's unrelenting criticism of her husband was making him more and more emotionally withdrawn. Suddenly, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, "Talk to me like I'm someone you love," and gesturing to the husband that he should hold it up. He did, and within seconds, the familiar power differential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged.

This revised edition features two new sections—one on making love and another on deepening trust—containing over twenty-five statements that hold the power to express what we wish we could say to the person we love but for which we can't find either the right words or the right tone in which to say them. Each of the statements in this book is accompanied by "field notes" from the author that explain when, why, and how to use the statement, as well as real-life stories from the author's practice.

©1993, 2009, 2013 Nancy Dreyfus (P)2021 HighBridge, a division of Recorded Books

Really excellent.

I recommend purchasing the physical copy as well so you can reference the cards as she suggests

Very insightful.

I feel like I learned a lot about how to communicate better with my spouse or even family members and friends.

Relational must

80-90% of this book I could have used in marriage, and strongly feel it would made a world of difference. These strategies should be memorized and used in a loving, authentic manner. The potential improvement in your marriage is huge.

Worthwhile with a few caveats

There are many worthwhile and useful items in this book. I do believe that she overgeneralize when it comes to men and sex.
Absent that is a worthwhile and useful listen

Great listen, but...

The book as a whole was well delivered. my only real issue, but to me it's a big one of that it didn't come with a PDF file so that we can have the flash cards she speaks about. in order for you to utilize them at all you literally have to have a piece of paper and a pen at all times listening to this so that when she says them, you can jot them down quickly. there's so many and it's very difficult to get them all.

Is there a companion PDF with the flashcards one could print?

I am loving this but would feel it can only be beneficial in my relationship if I had the printable cards.

What it means to be seen

I’ve spent the last year and a half completely showing my life, aspect and scenario after aspect and scenario piece by piece all due to the fact that the people I chose to have in my life or polar – opposite each other on any spectrum, whether it be finances, shuffle, wireless shelf, mastery growth as a human or just love in general and it’s understanding even more so different. What is the language used to communicate back-and-forth where I would say what I believed to be a common phrase and she would say which she believed to be a common retard, and somehow we ended up every single time at each other’s throats in the most ferocious of ways, though I am single now I feel this book has given me an immense insight to myself, and the way my language has come across or not come across I absolutely
100,000% recommend this book in fact I just sent it to my ex girlfriend

Knowledgeable

Very knowledgeable. A lot of different strategies altho long and drawled out. Overall it is good !!

I have a greater understanding of what a relationship should be

I listen often and would love to have those cards but with the audio book I can’t find them sadly

Practical language to use in a real relationship

Great book for offering practical language to use in a real relationship conversations. The list does seem excessive, and I'm unable to find the list or cards available.