Episodios

  • 30 Questions About Anxious Attachment—Answered!
    Mar 9 2025

    In this episode of the Needy No More podcast, I answer the top five most common questions I get from folks when it comes to the anxious attachment style:

    1. Where does the anxious attachment style come from?
    2. Why do I feel this way?
    3. How can I "fix" it?
    4. Will I always feel this way?
    5. How long does it take to heal?

    • From there, I answer 25 questions from my audience, which are as follows:
      1. Currently enmeshed and I can’t end it. I have self-abandoned and know it’s irrational. What do I do?

      2. Can I heal and still be enmeshed?

      3. I trust my partner but not his ex. How to deal?

      4. Is it common for an anxious attacher to push their partner away when being pursued for sexual intimacy if needs are not met? If so what can be done to prevent/change this?

      5. How do you heal after breaking up with an extremely avoidant partner? Feels like my all time high anxiety levels were hit.

      6. Started a relationship after divorce with great communication, over a year into it and seeing so many avoidant tendencies with them. Is my anxious attachment contributing to this? I have done lots of work, now feels like I’m heading backwards fast.

      7. What are some healthy ways to navigate the fear of abandonment without seeking external reassurance?

      8. How can I tell the difference between a valid relationship concern and my attachment anxiety?

      9. How do I balance being emotionally available while maintaining my own boundaries?

      10. What strategies can help me break the habit of overthinking or assuming the worst?

      11. How can I create more emotional security within myself so that I don’t rely so heavily on my partner’s responses?

      12. How can I practice healthy detachment without feeling like I’m abandoning my partner or giving up on love?

      13. How do I know if I’m engaging in protest behavior or simply standing up for myself?

      14. How do I handle moments when I feel the urge to reach out for reassurance but know it’s coming from anxiety rather than genuine need?

      15. How can I set realistic expectations for myself while I’m healing?

      16. How do I stay present in my relationship without letting my fears dictate my actions?

      17. How can I approach my partner’s avoidant tendencies without triggering my own anxiousness?

      18. How do I balance patience with my partner’s healing journey while still honoring my own needs?

      19. What are some signs that I’m making progress in my attachment?

      20. What are some tips on how to heal the abandonment wound and how to manage when you feel such a horrible loss from relationships that don’t meet your needs?

      21. How do you slow pace a relationship and at the same time feel comfortable moving slow?

      22. How do you find peace with being alone?

      23. How to heal the abandonment wounds so that if or when you get into a relationship with a fearful avoidant or dismissive avoidant, you don't freak out when they pull away? How to be secure in yourself and alone time. To not want or need them so badly ??

      24. Is anxious - avoidant a really bad combo? I keep attracting and being attracted to emotionally unavailable people. How do you break this cycle? I would really love to know a way to set some boundaries for myself so I don’t get hurt this much again in the future.

      25. When is a relationship over or bad enough to leave?


    • Here are some resources I mention in today's episode as well as other places to get further support on your healing journey:
      • Read my blog, 9 Signs You're Healing Your Anxious Attachment Style, at crackliffe.com/signs
      • Grab a copy of my new book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment, at crackliffe.com/needy
      • Explore my downloadable healing toolkit for anxious attachers at crackliffe.com/starterkit
      • Learn more about the Needy No More coaching program and set up a free consultation at crackliffe.com/coaching
      • Follow @crackliffe on Instagram and TikTok for tons more content on all things healing anxious attachment
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    59 m
  • How Fear of Abandonment Pushes People Away
    Mar 2 2025

    In the fourth episode of the Needy No More podcast, we unpack everything related to a fear of abandonment, including:

    • What is abandonment? How do we define it? What about a fear of abandonment?
    • What are various types of abandonment? How has it shown up in my own life?
    • What is the worst form of abandonment you can experience?
    • How does abandonment relate to the other steps in the cycle of anxious attachment?
    • How can a fear of abandonment become a self-fulfilling prophecy?
    • What can you do to heal your abandonment fears and wounds?


    Healing resources for anyone struggling with anxious attachment:

    • Read dozens of free blogs on how to heal the anxious attachment style on my website, crackliffe.com
    • Grab a copy of my new book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment, at crackliffe.com/needy
    • Explore my downloadable healing toolkit for anxious attachers at crackliffe.com/starterkit
    • Learn more about the Needy No More coaching program and set up a free consultation at crackliffe.com/coaching
    • Listen to my free inner child visualization at crackliffe.com/innerchild
    • Follow @crackliffe on Instagram and TikTok for tons more content on all things healing anxious attachment
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    27 m
  • How to Conquer Codependency
    Feb 23 2025

    In the third episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following:

    • What is codependency?
    • How does codependency relate to anxious attachment?
    • How is codependency similar to and different from addiction?
    • What are some early warning signs that you might be slipping into a codependent dynamic?
    • How can you address and interrupt your codependent tendencies?


    Healing resources for anyone struggling with anxious attachment:

    • ⁠Read dozens free blogs on healing the anxious attachment style here⁠
    • ⁠Read my new book:Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment
    • ⁠Explore my anxious attachment style healing toolkit⁠
    • ⁠Learn more about the Needy No More coaching program and set up a free consultation here⁠
    • ⁠Check out my Instagram for lots more healing content⁠
    • ⁠Peruse my TikTok for hundreds of videos on the anxious attachment style
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    34 m
  • Trauma Isn’t Just What You Experienced
    Feb 16 2025

    In the second episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following:

    • How is trauma defined?
    • What are some different frameworks for understanding the nature of trauma?
    • How does trauma relate to the experience of anxious attachment?
    • What are some avenues to explore when it comes to healing trauma?
    • How can forgiveness help and how can I practice it?


    Healing resources for anyone struggling with anxious attachment:

    • ⁠Read dozens free blogs on healing the anxious attachment style here⁠
    • ⁠Read my new book:Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment
    • ⁠Explore my anxious attachment style healing toolkit⁠
    • ⁠Learn more about the Needy No More coaching program and set up a free consultation here⁠
    • ⁠Check out my Instagram for lots more healing content⁠
    • ⁠Peruse my TikTok for hundreds of videos on the anxious attachment style
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    33 m
  • We Have to Stop Using the Word Needy
    Feb 9 2025

    In this inaugural episode of the Needy No More podcast, I cover the following:

    • Who is this Chris Rackliffe guy, and why did I get into being a coach for people with an anxious attachment style?
    • Why did I name the podcast Needy No More?
    • Why you should never, ever call anyone needy—most of all yourself!
    • What is attachment theory and what are the four attachment styles?
    • What is the cycle of anxious attachment and how do you break it and heal from it?
    • What will I address in the coming episodes of the podcast?


    Healing resources for anyone struggling with anxious attachment:

    • Read dozens free blogs on healing the anxious attachment style here
    • Read my new book:Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment
    • Explore my anxious attachment style healing toolkit
    • Learn more about the Needy No More coaching program and set up a free consultation here
    • Check out my Instagram for lots more healing content
    • Peruse my TikTok for hundreds of videos on the anxious attachment style
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    40 m