The Betrayal Bind

How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst

By: Michelle Mays LPC CSAT-S

Narrated by: Sarah Welborn

What happens when your partner, your primary person, in an instant, becomes a source of danger and pain?

The Betrayal Bind introduces new language, concepts, and imagery to explore the crucial relational dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing.

Discovering a partner's sexual betrayal spins your world out of control. In a split second, your sense of safety is shattered, your trust is gone, and everything you thought you could count on is in question.

Betrayed partners, whether dealing with an isolated infidelity or a pattern of sexual compulsivity, need immediate support to navigate the new terrain of their relationship. They need a clear articulation of betrayal trauma, a thorough education about their normal attachment-based reactions, and a proven path to healing.

By focusing on how a partner's attachment system functions in the wake of sexual betrayal, The Betrayal Bind offers a new, game-changing exploration into an age-old problem and connects the dots from research to the lived experience of betrayed partners.

©2022 Michelle Mays (P)2023 Tantor

A must read

Therapist approved! A must read if you’re healing from betrayal trauma. Providers an thorough understanding of and how to heal from betrayal trauma.

Lifeline

I listened to Mays’ book on audio for my first time through. The Betrayal Bind was recommended by my therapist. It’s one of my lifelines, keeping me as calm tethered as can be when every day is unpredictable. My second time through, I’ll listen, read and take notes.

Good Information

Lots of knowledge in this book and I look forward to guidance to heal from betrayal. I may have to listen to it again.

This makes it make sense.

I have read some amazing books from experts on the subject. THIS makes soo much sense. I’m learning and stuck on this audibly in a way I didn’t think. & Hearing her personal experience is appreciated.

Great Info!

This book was so validating for me! Her story and realness helped me better understand the experience I was having and create a game plan to move forward. The narration is a little slow so feel free to speed it up but I absolutely recommend this book.

Foundational for Betrayed Partners

As an MFT, I recommend this book to all of my betrayed clients and their partners. It gives a solid roadmap to healing and supports our therapeutic process.

Helps me make sense of my story

Breaking down each injury into three categories was insightful and helped me understand the layers of pain I was untangling. Thank you Michelle Mays you have truly blessed me with your experience and wisdom!

Solid advice. Need professional voice

The advice and deep dive into betrayal from a betrayed focus.The voice of the author is soooo distracting because of how robotic, amateurish and unpleasant it is. Her over enunciation is distracting. It’s such good information, I hope Michelle Mays considers hiring a professional voice talent.

Best book on betrayal trauma

I have been dealing with betrayal trauma for over 20 years and have read many books on the subject. Most approach the subject with a co- dependant model which I have not found helpful. Most of the "self-help" books I've wanted to throw across the room (and have.) Michelle Mays "gets it." If you have not been helped with other books on the subject, give this one a try. The author provides a very realistic perspective.

A vital resource when recovering from betrayal

I have gotten more help out of this book than the several counselors whom I have spent a great deal of money to see. This gives you the nuts and bolts for reclaiming your life after a season of darkness.