When we expect more than we give, love begins to crumble in silence. In today’s episode, Alan and Emilia unravel the quiet damage caused by unrealistic expectations. Through real coaching moments and heartfelt stories, they reveal how resentment grows where understanding should live. If you’ve ever felt the quiet ache of mismatched efforts, this conversation will meet you where you are and gently guide you home.

Show notes:
(2:59) Expectations and resentment
(5:54) Two types of relationship dynamics
(7:11) Everyday examples of unfair expectations
(8:30) How broken expectations hurt trust
(10:26) Generational patterns in relationships
(11:19) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(14:48) Platinum rule and relationship growth
(17:16) Leadership, self-awareness, and competence
(20:10) Conscious communication Vs. Outdated roles
(22:25) Outro

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Do you really know what love means to you, or have you just been guessing all along? In this episode, Emilia and Alan open up about their definitions of love and reveal why so many relationships suffer simply because partners never ask this one essential question. Through heartfelt stories, practical frameworks, and yes, even eagle metaphors, they break down what it takes to experience real connection, growth, and intimacy. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode will help you reflect, reconnect, and grow.

Show notes:
(3:51) Lessons from 46 Relationship Events
(5:08) Love is growing together
(7:09) Emilia’s definition of love
(12:58) Soaring higher than the crows
(14:57) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(17:07) What quality time really means
(19:29) The three pillars of quality time
(22:54) Intimacy and emotional attunement
(25:51) Depth Vs. Surface-level connection
(30:28) Outro

Digital Asset:
The 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/view

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Join us at Relationship Talks #47 on Thursday, May 15th 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “What is Your Partner's Fight Language" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/3w4JwyS0QaSMZ_MiD1GI5A#/registration

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore how self-respect, self-awareness, and inner dialogue shape every aspect of your intimate relationship. Through honest stories, surprising insights, and practical tools, they’ll help you stop outsourcing your happiness and start building a solid foundation within. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will shift the way you think about love—from the inside out.

Show notes:
(2:09) Blind spots and inner work
(4:38) Self-worth and admiration
(6:00) The long list of inner requirements
(9:53) Crossing personal boundaries
(12:58) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(14:31) Outsourcing emotional security
(16:43) Going deeper to climb higher
(23:22) Self-esteem’s impact on relationships
(25:58) Outro

Digital Assets:
1. Pyramid of Fulfillment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/13zkiW6VZ5Rx0m87omHULzCsT8kOmmGf_/view

2. Pyramid of The Self - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1w5p656YRbF4dZ2KfZmU_Z_ROCQSJW-Rs/view

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Competition in relationships can build you up—or break you down. In this episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the hidden effects of competition in relationships. They share real stories, challenge the “zero-sum” mindset, and explore how healthy support and playful competition can make couples stronger. You'll learn how your self-belief influences how you show up for your partner—and what to do if you feel held back instead of lifted up.

Show notes:
(2:32) Childhood experiences with toxic competition
(4:46) Monopoly and the wake-up call
(6:49) Zero-sum thinking in relationships
(8:38) When support turns into control
(10:24) Building a growth mindset together
(13:54) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(16:03) Abundance starts with self-belief
(20:24) Why do you struggle to celebrate your partner
(24:26) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Do you ever turn to your friends before your partner when something big happens? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down why so many couples feel like they can’t talk about certain things—and what to do about it. They share powerful stories and explain the three things every relationship needs to feel emotionally safe. Whether you're struggling to open up or want to build a deeper connection, this episode offers simple, heartfelt guidance to help you grow together—not apart.

Show notes:
(4:32) What is psychological safety?
(6:29) Responsiveness in relationships
(10:13) Why even delayed replies can harm the connection
(13:32) Co-regulation and emotional support
(16:40) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(18:05) Why do we turn to friends instead of our partner
(20:13) Avoiding judgment when your partner opens up
(25:09) How to offer real emotional support
(31:31) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they reveal a powerful tool that helps people worldwide determine whether they’re being mistreated or experiencing something more profound. They walk through the 10 most common signs of mistreatment and how even well-meaning partners can cause harm without realizing it. You’ll also learn how your past may affect what you tolerate now—and what to do if your heart, mind, and gut don’t agree. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this episode will help you recognize red flags early and give you the clarity to take the next step.

Show notes:
(2:18) What is the mistreatment scorecard?
(4:06) Green, yellow, red: Growth skittles and top 10 mistreatments
(7:38) Why your gut often knows first
(10:29) Small mistreatment can lead to abuse
(11:54) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(13:31) Rational lies: Why we stay too long
(17:05) Unseen mistreatment
(20:13) Growth comes from honest scoring
(22:52) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Assuming everything is fine in your relationship might be causing cracks to form. In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan explore the silent relationship killer. They share real-life coaching experiences where couples unknowingly drifted apart due to a lack of communication and self-awareness. Together, they provide practical steps to help couples stay connected, set relationship goals, and ensure both partners grow together, not apart.

Show notes:
(4:05) Why discomfort leads to relationship growth
(5:34) A real-life example of a couple drifting apart
(7:35) The danger of avoiding hard conversations
(10:06) The cycle of ignoring problems until it’s too late
(12:17) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(16:42) How setting goals keeps you humble
(22:42) A simple gratitude habit to strengthen relationships
(24:46) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #45 on Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Top 10 Most Common Ways Partners Mistreat Each Other” -
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

What if you could prevent your relationship from falling apart before it’s too late? Many couples break up not because they don’t love each other but because they ignore small problems until they become too big to fix. In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the two biggest reasons couples struggle. Learn how to recognize early signs of trouble, build emotional security, and take responsibility for your growth so your relationship can thrive. Whether in a committed relationship or preparing for one, these lessons will help you build trust, communicate better, and create a relationship where both partners feel safe, heard, and valued.

Show notes:
(2:30) Why couples wait too long to get help
(5:44) Unhealed wounds and relationship struggles
(7:46) The silent shame that leads to breakups
(9:50) What is psychological safety?
(12:14) Signs you don’t feel safe in your relationship
(14:22) Listen to Jason's and LJason’sestimLisa’son Alan and Emilia’s RelaEmilia’s Coaching.
(16:40) How fights weaken your relationship
(20:26) What safety looks like for each partner
(24:14) The role of personal growth in love
(28:40) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #45 on Thursday, March 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Top 10 Most Common Ways Partners Mistreat Each Other” -
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