The Disease to Please

Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome

De: Harriet Braiker

Narrado por: Bernadette Dunne

Who are people pleasers? They are the people who say yes, when they want to say no - the perennial nice person whose resentment is concealed behind their public “happy face”. Now best-selling author and frequent Oprah guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers help for anyone who has ever felt the resentment of giving 100 percent of themselves to others and getting nothing in return.

The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that “people-pleasing” is a benign problem. It is the first book to treat people pleasing as a serious psychological syndrome, and it breaks new ground in its approach to offer a cure.

Dr. Braiker offers a 21-day action plan for curing The Disease to Please. A daily psychological workout and skills-training program, it will help listeners replace the compulsion to comply with a more conscious and reasoned choice to care. The Disease to Please includes:

• Extensive case studies
• Diary and journal formats to help recovery
• An effective three-stage short-term therapy approach

©2001 Harriet B. Braiker, PhD (P)2005 McGraw Hill-Ascent Audio

Very helpful advice

I liked how the author used real life examples to back up each positive and negative trait expressed

Informative

The writing was paced very well. The stories were very relatable. This is my first audible book and it was a great first pick.

Very Insightful

This is the book for all my people-pleasers! This book would be very beneficial for those who are going into the mental health field too. It was kinda boring to read but it was very informative and explained quite a bit to me even about myself that I never fully realized. Everything just kinda made sense and the pieces just fell into place.

VERY THOROUGH!

Soothing voice, very thorough and lots of information about the whole dynamics of people pleasing and avoidance that people pleasers do. As a people pleaser I can relate to a lot of this and also implement the language to stand up for myself in a calm assertive way. This author went very in depth and you can tell she has a lot of of experience and knowledge about human behaviors and why we do what we do based on our past experiences in life. Well written!

Awakening

Reader was awesome description of life was exact and it gave me great hope for future.

Hard to balance usefulness

The book is structured in a way that makes people pleasing behaviors out to be almost a pathology or a syndrome. That’s not always the case. While it’s helpful to understand some of the behaviors and backgrounds, I personally felt the ability to manage my relationships were not well served with this book. It’s more interpersonal relationships for couples versus the overall concept that many of us focus on others instead of our selves.

Good but doesn’t feel finished.

I like to book but I was hoping for more tips on how to heal. It felt like the whole book was about the issues from every angle and nothing on how to solve.

Never before.

I have never before been so pulled awake.
I am listening to it again.
The reader,
the statements,
the directness,
even the repetition;
everything is true and what I needed and not a single sentence wasn’t.
It was hard to hear without wondering what life could have been like, had I only known it 4 years ago.

Best book for People Pleasers

As a licensed counselor, I’ve been on the hunt for a deep, helpful book I can recommend to my clients…. I finally found it! This is it!!! I highly recommend this book for anyone who thinks they may have a people pleasing mindset.

very informative and targeted

a out of the info here was not new to me but framed specifically around people pleasing it brought a me awareness and helped me really target the areas I need to work on.