On this episode, Mark Brown is back to talk with me about being intentional in friendships. For most of my life I have been passive in how I approached friendships, so I wanted to have this conversation about what it looks like to navigate friendships with intentionality.

In two weeks, I’ll be back with Becca Berghorn to talk about how to have healthy conflict in a friendship. I hope you’ll check it out.

If you want to dive deeper into the concept of being intentional about your friendships, check out my free download, “7 ways to get more energy from your relationships.” Go to PersonalGrowthSucks.com and click the link for the free download to get your copy.

If you enjoyed this episode and find my podcast helpful, please consider leaving a review so others can discover the podcast and gain new insights for their personal growth journey.

Here are links that might be helpful:

⁠⁠Schedule a free coaching session with Erin⁠⁠

Personal Growth Sucks on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Facebook

Free download - how to get more fuel from your friendships

Learn more about Mark and his services - TruNorth Coaching and Consulting

People Fuel book by Dr. John Townsend

Feelings wheel

Relational Nutrients

This episode is part two of my discussion with my friend Becca about how to fully show up in friendships, versus blending, performing, or hiding. Since we talked for more than an hour, so I split our conversation into two parts, instead of having one giant episode.

If you want to dive deeper into the concept of getting more fuel from your friendships, check my free download, “⁠⁠7 Ways to Get More Energy from Your Relationships⁠⁠.”

Thank you to Becca for being my guest on this episode. In two weeks, I’ll be back with my friend Mark Brown as my guest for episode 9.

Here are links that might be helpful:

⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule a free coaching session with Erin⁠⁠⁠⁠

Personal Growth Sucks on⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠Free download - ⁠⁠how to get more fuel from your friendships⁠⁠

Learn more about Becca and her services - ⁠⁠Becca Berghorn Counseling⁠⁠

Full list of ⁠⁠Relational Nutrients⁠⁠

Johanna Schram article - ⁠"8 Dangers of Being a People Pleaser"⁠

This episode is part one of a discussion with me and Becca about how to fully show up in friendships, versus blending, performing, or hiding. We talked for more than an hour, so I split our conversation into two parts, instead of having one giant episode.

If you want to dive deeper into the concept of getting more fuel from your friendships, check my free download, “⁠7 Ways to Get More Energy from Your Relationships⁠.”

Thank you to Becca for being my guest on this episode. In two weeks, I’ll be back with the second half of our conversation.

Here are links that might be helpful:

⁠⁠⁠Schedule a free coaching session with Erin⁠⁠⁠

Personal Growth Sucks on⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠

⁠Free download - ⁠how to get more fuel from your friendships⁠

Learn more about Becca and her services - ⁠Becca Berghorn Counseling⁠

Full list of ⁠Relational Nutrients⁠

Johanna Schram article - "8 Dangers of Being a People Pleaser"

Brene Brown - fitting in vs. belonging

On this episode I'm very excited to welcome special guest, Katy Harvey. She is a midwest girl, a non-diet dietitian and the host of the Rebuilding Trust With Your Body podcast. She specializes in intuitive eating and helping women ditch dieting, stress less about food and make peace with their bodies so they can feel comfortable in their own skin and live life more fully. Katy is all about eating the foods you love, unapologetically, without going overboard. She fully believes that you can eat for satisfaction while also honoring your health, and that your worth is the same, regardless of the size of your body.

Today, Katy and I are talking about values. While we live according to our values, we don’t often pause to think about or define what those are. Our values lurk beneath the surface of our lives, serving as a (mostly) silent GPS that guides our decisions.

Sometimes, our values can surprise us as we navigate our friendships. This happens when a friend expresses opinions about a topic and we are surprised to find that we think very differently about that topic.

Values can cause internal or external conflict for us in our friendships. Internal conflict is when we feel conflicted and anxious about how to navigate a conversation or situation; external conflict is when we engage in conversation or behavior that brings this conflict into the relationship. And it can feel very tricky to navigate, especially if you are like me and have a lot of anxiety about conflict in relationships.

One thing from my own life that has caused a shift in my values and created some conflict in friendships is my Intuitive Eating journey. So when I had the opportunity to have Katy on the podcast, I wanted to go in depth with her on this topic.

On this epsidode, we talk about navigating friendships when they are disrupted by differing values, and we’ll talk specifically about how Katy helps her Intuitive Eating clients navigate these circumstances as well as my personal experiences in working through these conversations with friends. I have two goals today - the first is to use my Intuitive Eating journey as a real world example of how to walk this out in relationships. The second is to use my voice and influence to help spread the word about Intuitive Eating and challenge the destructive diet culture messaging.

Whether or not this specific health topic interests you, I know you’ll get a lot out of my conversation with Katy as you think about what it is that you value in your life and how it affects your friendships.

Here are links that might be helpful:

⁠⁠Schedule a free coaching session with Erin⁠⁠

Personal Growth Sucks on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Facebook

Free download - how to get more fuel from your friendships

Find Katy Harvey - website, podcast, Instagram, Facebook group

On this episode, Mark Brown joins me to talk about how to make friends. As adults we can judge ourselves harshly if it feels like making friends is difficult for us. So I wanted to take some time and discuss ideas and strategies you can use for developing deep friendships.

In two weeks, I’ll be back with a special guest - Katy Harvey, a non-diet dietician and eating disorder expert. We are going to talk about personal values and how they impact our relationships. We will also talk about something near and dear to my heart, which is intuitive eating. I can’t wait to share that episode with you.

If you want to dive deeper into the concept of being intentional about your friendships, check out my free download, “7 ways to get more energy from your relationships.” Go to PersonalGrowthSucks.com and click the link for the free download to get your copy.

If you enjoyed this episode and find my podcast helpful, please consider leaving a review so others can discover the podcast and gain new insights for their personal growth journey.

Here are links that might be helpful:

⁠⁠Schedule a free coaching session with Erin⁠⁠

Personal Growth Sucks on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Facebook

Relationship Growth Group on Facebook

Free download - how to get more fuel from your friendships

Learn more about Mark and his services - TruNorth Coaching and Consulting

People Fuel book by Dr. John Townsend

On this episode, Becca and I discuss different levels of friendship and why it’s important to have quality friends at each level. For our deepest friendships, we need people with whom we can show up fully as ourselves, even in times when we are feeling shame and vulnerability. For friendships that aren’t as deep, we still need to make sure they are healthy relationships where we are getting our needs met.

We also talk about how it’s not selfish to pay attention to our resources (our time, energy, emotional capacity) and our needs, and orient our friendships accordingly. We don’t have to be friends with everyone, and it is a very healthy, adult behavior to define what we need from friendships and then to seek out people who can fill those needs.

If you want to dive deeper into the concept of getting more fuel from your friendships, check my free download, “7 Ways to Get More Energy from Your Relationships.”

Thank you to Becca for being my guest on this episode. In two weeks, I’ll be back with Mark to talk about making friends. You won’t want to miss it.

Here are links that might be helpful:

⁠⁠Schedule a free coaching session with Erin⁠⁠

Personal Growth Sucks on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Facebook

Relationship Growth Group on Facebook

Free download - how to get more fuel from your friendships

Learn more about Becca and her services - Becca Berghorn Counseling

Full list of Relational Nutrients

Brene Brown - the link between compassion and boundaries

Even though friendship seems like something that should be a no-brainer, I've found that many adults get to a point in their life where they feel like they are missing some big pieces of the puzzle. This is how I felt, until I started learning about healthy relationships and the skills I could practice in order to create meaningful friendships in my life.

On this episode, Becca Berghorn is back and she and I discuss aspects of a healthy friendship. We talk about friendships that are:

Vulnerable (vs. transactional)

Differentiated (vs. blending)

Integrated (vs. all good or all bad thinking)

Adult to adult (vs. one up or one down)

Mutual (vs. unbalanced giving and receiving)

Here are links that might be helpful:

⁠⁠Schedule a free coaching session with Erin⁠⁠

Personal Growth Sucks on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Facebook

Relationship Growth Group on Facebook