You're Not Done Yet

Parenting Young Adults in an Age of Uncertainty

By: Dr. B. Janet Hibbs, Dr. Anthony Rostain

Narrated by: Kirsten Potter

A clear-eyed, optimistic guide for parents with adult children who need help navigating the challenges to launching an independent life.

Times were already tough for young adults looking for ways to start living independent lives after high school and college: rents were up, wages were down, student loan debt was burdensome, then the COVID-19 pandemic hit. A generation of young people were forced out of their classrooms, jobs, and social lives, returning home to live with their parents. Now many of these young adults carry the scars of the internal pandemic, with increased anxiety and depression, poor coping, and the uncertainty of how to restart their lives. Parents want to help, but the old rules of advice-giving can clash with the need to respect their child’s autonomy.

In You’re Not Done Yet, two leading adolescent and young adult mental health experts provide a practical and compassionate path to parents combatting the worry and frustrating isolation many feel when supporting their twentysomethings. Hibbs and Rostain explain when and how developmental markers changed, and invite parents and young adults to learn new, more effective ways of communicating with each other. Part I of the book covers the “new normal,” of young adulthood, with its educational and career changes. The new normal of parent-child relationship asks us to rethink our “shoulds,” and in the process develop a closer relationship based on talking and listening to understand each other, rather than “being right.” Part II addresses the common and challenging problems that arise when mental illness creates a drag on a young adult’s progress, and shows how parents may be engaged in their child’s treatment. Packed with helpful information and step-by-step guides to specific problems, this book will be an invaluable resource for parents and their twentysomething children.

A Macmillan Audio production from St. Martin’s Press.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2024 B. Janet Hibbs and Anthony Rostain (P)2024 Macmillan Audio

Critic reviews

“Hibbs and Rostain excel at explaining large-scale social trends, and the empathetic explorations of how parents and adult children perceive the world will help both find common ground. Not-quite-empty nesters will appreciate the guidance.”—Publishers Weekly

“A must-read guide for parents of grown children who are not yet adulting. Hibbs and Rostain explain what our kids are up against, and the role parents play in helping them continue to grow and ultimately thrive. This book could not be more timely, and it delivers game-changing advice that parents are yearning for.”—Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of Your Turn: How to Be An Adult and How to Raise an Adult

“A compassionate and sensitive look at the mental health challenges faced by twentysomethings in today’s rapidly changing world that will help parents of people this age better understand and communicate with their kids. It’s a terrific resource for parents, and their young adult children will have much to learn from it, too.”—Laurence Steinberg, Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience at Temple University and author of You and Your Adult Child: How to Grow Together in Challenging Times

Helpful advice

Helpful advice but annoying reader. Also PDFs not included as it said throughout the book.

Not alone in this!

Good content, but didn’t offer me much to try that I haven’t already done and will continue to do. If you’re looking to feel less alone in this leg of the journey with your young adult, it’s a great listen. If you’re looking for solutions, keep looking! It didn’t offer me much in the realm of what I’m already doing with the help of years of individual and family therapy.

Priceless references on PDF BUT not available

Examples of situations I could relate to and immediate solutions that can be implemented. I will have to reread this book , at least some of the most relevant chapters a few times. Nice work and thank you for your research into this common yet stigmatized issue. ONLY problem is the accompanying PDF is not available and Amazon customer support was useless. They asked me to provide their content team the timestamps and chapter titles for when the PDF if advertized !!!! This book is 10 hrs long and the PDF is refered throughout. Very disappointing Jeff!