The Emotionally Absent Mother

How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect, Second Edition

By: Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC

Narrated by: Emily Durante

The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed.

Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships - or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can't quite put a finger on what's missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse - but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains:

• Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful - and what she was unable to give
• The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse
• How to find the child inside you and fill the "mother gap" through reflections and exercises
• How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children)

©2017 Jasmin Lee Cori (P)2017 Tantor

Critic reviews

"This book is a revelation to those of us whose mothering was short of what we needed." (Connie Dawson, PhD, coauthor of Growing up Again)

Wonderfully insightful

I ate this book in a couple of days and feel more in tune not only with myself but with my mother. I had a solider like mother and father that didn't take to kindly to tears or to whining. But now I see it's because they, themselves fear of being weak themselves and screwing me up by spoiling me. Tough parents but honest in their motives.

Enlightening♡

Wonderful read, I have read many on this subject but found information in this book I'd never heard before. It was very helpful and wonderfully narrated.♡

Wow ....

It ... it cured me. I am free now ... finally I am free. thank you thank you very much thank you i am free. guys I would like to give you some parts of my story you know what i am happy now depression-free I used every bit of my power to make this happen. I am from EGYPT and here without any regret it is a MISSED up system I DID NOT FINDA THERAPIST AND I KNEW THAT I WAS SICK SO SICK I KNEW IT IKNEW IT> AT THE END AFTER FIVE THERAPISTS I HAVE DECIDED TWO THINGS
1. TO NOT GIVE A FU** ABOUT EGYPTIAN MEDICAL SYSTEMS

2.TO NOT GIVE UP
I HAVE READ BOOKS A LOT OF BOOKS, REACHED OUT FOR EVERY POSSIBLE OPPORTUNITY OF GETTING HELP THAT ICOULD FIND, DID NOT WASTE MY TIME DID NOT WASTE ANY MOMENT ENROLLED IN A PROGRAM IN SCINCE. GUYS

FIVE YEARS GUYS FIVE YEARS OF PURE STRUGGLING JUST STRUGGLE! I AM TOO TIRED TOO TIRED OF THIS WOUNDS TOO TIRED BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I HAVE SUCCEDED! FINALLY.


TO YOU THE AUTHOR I CAN'T THANK YOU ENOUGH WALLAHY I AM NOT ABLE TO MY WORDS WOULD NEVER CONSIDEREDTO BE ENOUGH. YOUR WORK IS JUST STUNNING!
AND YEAH I GOT EMOTIONALL WHILE WRITTING THIS :"D

narrator sounds very robotic

i cannot stand the reader's voice but the subject matter is life changing and helpful

Must read!

Great book. The exercises suggested are useful and effective. I'm still doing the work but this helps a lot.

Fast track to inner healing

For those having had a difficult mother, this is a necessary book. Doing the work to heal and grow after having had a difficult mother, is a difficult journey, but we must do it. This book has helped me work through things faster than I'd otherwise be able to. Counseling is a necessary and helpful tool. I find that this book helps me heal the roots of the issues faster than I'd otherwise be able to. This book is the fast track to dealing with and healing inner wounds.

Tough and True insights can be gained

Powerful insight into the struggles many adults face daily and the possible source of our struggles.

Ground breaking

I struggled with feeling like I do not belong anywhere and feelings of unworthiness. This book helped me define why I became this way and how it happened.

For all the readers who, like me, had to throw away their childhood and grow up to help provide. I feel for you. I see you. You are accepted and worthy and the world is a better place because of you.

Know that your journey to heal the wounds that decision made is long and hard, but it will be worth it.

Respect.

Enlightening Insight

The Good Mother, illuminated my childhood's unmet needs and inspired a more present parenthood. It also enriched my marriage, fostering deeper understanding and connection. Highly recommended for personal growth and relational depth. Will revisit several parts.

Eye Opening it Makes my life make sense

I survived a sexual trauma in childhood, the perpetrator went to prison. However I was left with all the pieces of that trauma at 11yrs old and my emotional absent and emotionally abusive parents. So to say I had coping mechanism is an understatement, but I had always immediately made the excuse that I had gotten them from the sexual trauma without the consideration that they could be from anything else. I mean both my parents took care of my physical needs just fine; ie roof, food, clothing, attempted to keep me safe thru being a teenager albeit they both considered me to be a wild and out of control one. It didn't dawn on me until reading this book that a parent supplies more than just physical needs to a child. Even after I had my own son 10yrs ago. I still hadn't put that together even though my son's emotional life is equally important to me as his physical and spiritual life.

Strangely I had chosen this book because I am a teacher and I hoped to glean some insight on narratives and life situations that students could be living through to help me be more empathetic and understanding their situations better. It is eye opening for sure. I recommend the book as I gained insight about my own life, others lives, and also The Narrative that societies give "Mother" all through out time.