The Tao of Fully Feeling

Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame

De: Pete Walker

Narrado por: Christopher Grove

The price of emotional renunciation is a constant, wasteful expenditure of energy that leaves us depressed and taciturn, imprisoned in the apathy and ennui of the "seen that, been there, done that" syndrome. When we surrender and soften to our feelings, we reconnect with our inborn vitality and with the invaluable instinct and intuition that our feelings naturally carry.

The Tao of Fully Feeling describes the middle ground of emotional aliveness that lies between emotional deadness and emotional explosiveness. It helps us to soften and relax into our feelings without exiling them or enshrining them. It guides us to be emotionally expressive in benign, intimacy-enhancing ways.

The Tao of Fully Feeling teaches us to respond to our painful and potentially disruptive feelings in healthy ways. It illustrates the enriching aspects of the so-called negative emotions and helps us achieve the emotional flexibility whereby sadness easily mellows into solace, anger unfolds into laughter, fear evolves into excitement, jealousy opens up into appreciation, and blame gives way to forgiveness.

The Tao of Fully Feeling refutes the black-and-white notion that blame is never justifiable. It describes safe, nondestructive ways of feeling and expressing blame - ways that ironically enhance our capacity to feel genuine forgiveness.

When we authentically forgive our parents, we know what we are forgiving them for and what specifically was blameworthy about their behavior in the first place. When we forgive before we blame, we risk dragging the full weight of our childhood hurt and anger around forever, like an exhausted backpacker who is too dulled and over-trusting to notice that someone has put a boulder in his/her pack.

©1995 Pete Walker (P)2019 Tantor

Powerful

Everyone should read this book!! It was very well spoken and such great healing content!

Libro para sanar y soltar.

impecable manera de expresar con palabras sentimientos, y situaciones que mentalmente han dejado marca en nuestras psiquis.

Monotone Narrator Kind of Ironic for Fully Feeling

I love Pete Walker and have benefitted immensely from his work. I wish he'd narrated this audio book himself or had chosen someone who was more skilled at emoting while reading. The narrator's monotone wasn't just less than ideal, it interfered with my ability to track the material, understand it, and to retain it afterward. I'm glad that I also got the text edition of this work so that I can more fully absorb it by reading it.

The voice

I literally can’t get past the voice actor. Please make options available, I legit got a headache.

Very necessary

It was difficult to here what the narrator said sometimes. Don't know if it is the accent I had trouble to understand.

So, SO Glad I Read This…(Not About Taoism)

This is one beautifully, thoughtfully written book. Initially, I didn’t think I was going to like the sometimes nasal voice of the reader. However, he grew on me, and I saw he really understood the important things to emphasize emotionally. He knew when to speak authoritatively.
Anyway, there’s not going to be enough room for the good I can say about this book! I had no idea how emotionally stunted I really was, even as a woman. This book explains how you can be healed and have a soft heart again through grieving your losses—especially the losses of your childhood. Grieving sounds terrible, but by the end of this book, it’ll be a welcome friend. I will read this book over and over, at least once a year for the next decade. There’s just so much here to learn about healing and enjoying life again. You will know that it’s possible to be a “normal”, healed, and whole human. With the self-compassionate telling of his own painful childhood story, Mr. Walker is a hero to me now. I felt like an eye-witness to his strength in overcoming all kinds obstacles. Shame and self-hatred had been ground into him from the womb, which many of us are haunted with. But Mr. Walker is proof that you can recover to live a healthy, productive life; and that it is worth it to fight for yourself. He does not claim to have reached perfection, but he’s obviously come so far.
Lastly, Mr. Walker, if you ever get to read my review, I want to thank you most of all for dealing bravely and sensitively with spiritual abuse—especially in the name of Christianity. Your honesty with God was inspiring and healing. Not many people would dare praying that way, and even fewer would actually admit it! So, thank you. Most throw the baby out with the bath water after being spiritually abused. I’m glad you didn’t give up on the joy and comfort of a higher power.

Courageously written filled with deep insights.

The book is about love, grief and forgiveness. Pete Walker really put everything he could into this book. I can tell he deeply cares for other people and has truly deep insights into the process of healing from truama and reconnecting to our most valuable gifts. Thank you to the writer and I hope this book finds it way to anyone hoping to reconnect with self.

profoundly impactful

This book took me on a profoundly intense and valuable journey, gave me more insight into my traumatic childhood than I ever thought was possible.

Better then therapy

Pete walker taught me things that no therapist ever did. This few ours listening two his 2 books made a greater impact on understanding my traumas and behaviors then all the expensive treatments with professionals.
But keep in mind that this is a textbook, one has to listen to it again and find ways to apply it in your own lives, probably combine it with other methods and have a journal, otherwise is just a feel good book.

Excellent book with a good breakdown

Highly recommend it! I noticed myself getting better at feeling each day. I’ll definitely listen to this 2-3 more times to make sure I absorb and practice everything.

Forgiveness
Compression
Healthy Anger
Resentment

I thought they were covered really well.