Men Who Can't Love

How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart

De: Julia Sokol, Steven Carter

Narrado por: Kevin Young

The million-copy New York Times best seller and classic relationship book.

Featured on Oprah and Sally Jesse Raphael, this definitive look at the dynamics of male-female communication gets to the heart of the all-too-common phenomenon: women who are ready and willing to commit, and men who back off just as the relationship moves toward the next level.

This audiobook can help you:

• Recognize early warning signs of the commitmentphobic man
• Determine the extent of his fears - and his willingness to change
• Analyze your own role in the situation
• Avoid unnecessary stress and heartache

©1987, 1996 Steven Carter and Julia Sokol Coopersmith (P)2012 Audible, Inc.

Perfectly described my situation

I purchased the book & became so intrigued by its context I couldn't put it down. That's when I looked into audio version & am I glad I did.
I'd love it even more if I could gift this to a few men in my life. I felt I was going crazy with different emotions, mixed signals, I even broke up with my boyfriend of 6 yrs. when my friend of 20+ yrs. strongly pursued me....
Not realizing he's commitment phobic. I wish I'd know sooner. Now our friendship has suffered tremendously, I regret getting involved with him. Honestly this. Book was a huge and complete eye opener. I'm going to follow my instincts and to & pay attentions to a man's behavior patterns, their attitude, and their engagement.
Definitely recommend this to women out their going through a relationship where you feel your giving more than you are receiving, allowing a man to disappear and reappear with no questions asked, any woman feeling like she's always walking on egg shells afraid to say anything when mistreated, a guy that never called you back when he said he would. A guy that said he'd change & beg for another opportunity. Even someone going through a breakup. It will definitely give you fulfillment after listening/reading this book that we the women did nothing wrong. Loved it. Now want to get into reading "he's afraid, she's afraid "...

Aha moment!

This book is an eye opener! Makes you do a self evaluation of your relationship and yourself. Thank you!

a must read for those that fall 4 Mr.unavailable

loved it, hit really close to home , was able to relate and reflect from my own experiences

LIFE CHANGING!!

This book opened my eyes, mind and soul, but it also broke my heart. I didn’t even know that men like that existed, yet I have been with one like that for 7 long years. While listening to this book, I had mixed emotions—I was in denial, Then I was hurt, then I wanted to cry because I felt played. It was like this book was written about the man I have been with. Everything described him 100%. How can I be so naive? Now I understand many things he told me before—that I was too good for him, that he loved me, but when he left my house I didn’t hear from him for days, sometimes weeks. So now that I learned all of this, I have the tools and the strength to end it and end it for good. To the writers of this book THANK YOU! Know that you have saved a life. Please keep writing. Because of you, I know now the do’s and don’t’s and will fight with all my power with the wisdom you both gave me.
Forever grateful,
Lucia.

One of the very best.

For me, the most helpful narrative of what unfolds in the mind of those who pull sudden u-turns on commitment, love and loyalty. And how profoundly disturbing it is to the person left wondering “what on earth happened”to the strong bond, trust and connection they believed would last forever.

I’ve listened numerous times, especially chapter nine. Thank you from the bottom of my healing heart.

JL,
Retired Librarian

Feel like hell... but this gave me hope

I just realized this really describes my last 6 years. I made it through all the stages to the very end. Depressed, anxiety through the roof, wild insomnia in past 4 to 5 months. What a ride! like a pendulim, total comfort and support to questioning my sanity and wrong doing. So ashamed of myself for staying for so long. So done with it. Great advice and explanation of what is happening on both sides of the equation. Ended said relationship today. Feel like I have some very useful information about moving past this.

Eyeopener

This book is an eye-opener that offers valuable insights and fresh perspectives, making it well worth the read.

This book restored my sanity!!!

If you could sum up Men Who Can't Love in three words, what would they be?

Set me free.

What did you like best about this story?

This book helped me to put together all of the pieces of the puzzle. The puzzle being, I just ended a relationship with a commitment phobic. A man that treated me so badly, but that I was sitting around crying for. I thought I was going crazy. How could I yearn to be with someone that treated me so badly. Someone so mean and cruel and heartless. But this book helped me to understand it all. The beginning, the middle, the end and the bitter end. It helped me to understand what to look for in the future so that I never become involved with a commitment phobic man again.

Which character – as performed by Kevin Young – was your favorite?

I related more to the stories in "The Bitter End".

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Men Who Can't Love?

I will be much more cautious of a man that comes on so strong in the beginning. I will never allow the relationship to proceed too quickly. I will never compromise my needs for the needs of any man again. I will never allow a man to treat me badly again. I will love myself enough to trust my instincts. Instincts that I know God gave me, but I didn't listen to with this man. If I had listened to my instincts, I could have saved myself a great deal of pain and heartache.

Any additional comments?

I can't begin to tell you how much this book helped me. Being in a relationship with a commitment phobic created so much confusion, and self doubt. I got to the point where I couldn't even focus on my own needs. It is a paralyzing relationship. But this book restored my sanity and it restored my belief in myself and my self worth. I don't think I would have ever have found closure without this book. Also, I found the narrator's voice to be so caring and soothing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing this book.

Best audiobook I have ever listened to!!!!

Would you consider the audio edition of Men Who Can't Love to be better than the print version?

I have never written a review on any book before, however, I highly recommend this book for anyone that has a habit of getting involved with men that come on very strong in the beginning to win you over and then decide that they don't want a serious committment. If you have been left confused by this in the past, believe me, this book will help you to see the signs of a committment phobic man from the very first date and help you to set the ground rules for the relationship right from the start. No more confusion or broken hearts for me. Now they play by my rules. And I can finally say that I can spot a player a mile away and know now what a healthy relationship is.This is seriously the best audiobook I have ever listened to and I am now buying the second book....He's Scared She's Scared. I will write a review on that one when I finish it.

2nd time through!

This book is a life saver. Literally, brought me out of my own hell. Just because they are kind to your face, does not mean they aren’t hurting you.