Love by Design

6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love

By: Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

Narrated by: Nikki Massoud, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh

“Revolutionize your relationship," redefine romance, and build the loving connections you yearn for with this new paradigm for love that will help couples who feel disillusioned, disconnected, or unfulfilled (Dr. Pepper Schwartz).

Many of us were raised with the idea that true love means finding our "other half" and that a spark is the best foundation for successful long-term partnerships and marriages. But what if this understanding is flawed?

Grounded in two decades of original research and work with couples from around the world, Love by Design introduces a groundbreaking new foundation for love: The Emergent Love Model. As Dr. Nasserzadeh knows, successful partnerships do not thrive on love, at least as we know it. Instead of chasing our butterflies we need to cultivate six core relational ingredients that make it possible for love to emerge:

• Attraction: What do you like and value about each other?
• Respect: How do you keep each other’s needs and priorities in mind?
• Trust: Do you know that you will show up for each other consistently?
• Compassion: Can you honor the other’s emotional experience without making it about you?
• Shared vision: Where are you committed to going together?
• Loving behaviors: How do you show your partner they’re special to you?

Offering dozens of exercises and reflection prompts, this groundbreaking book—perfect for fans of 8 Rules of Love or The Love Prescription—will give listeners a new foundation for their coupledom—one that will help your coupledom thrive for a lifetime.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2024 Sara Nasserzadeh (P)2024 Balance

Critic reviews

“A revelatory re-conceptualization of how we create love. No other book so seamlessly blends scientific evidence with diversity and acceptance.”—Dr. Emily Nagoski, bestselling author of Come As You Are and Burnout

“Dr. Nasserzadeh is an important relationship scholar and gifted clinician. Her vision of Emergent Love will revolutionize your relationship.”—Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Professor of Sociology at the University of Washington and New York Times bestselling author

"Love by Design is an essential read for those looking to cultivate connected and fulfilling intimate relationships. Her model of emergent love will transform how you enter your next relationship or enliven the one you are in for years to come."—Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, faculty at Northwestern University, bestselling author of Love Every Day and host of the podcast, Reimagining Love