If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?

Recognizing and Overcoming Subtle Abuse

By: Avery Neal

Narrated by: Virginia Wolf

Are you a victim of subtle abuse?

Are you always the one apologizing? Constantly questioning and blaming yourself? Do you often feel confused, frustrated, and angry? Aware that something isn't right about your relationship, but can't put your finger on what it is?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you're not alone. Nearly half of all women - and men - in the United States experience psychological abuse without realizing it. Manipulation, deception, and disrespect leave no physical scars, but they can be just as traumatic as physical abuse. In this groundbreaking audiobook, Avery Neal, founder of the Women's Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of subtle abuse. As you are able to identify patterns that have never made sense before, you are better equipped to make changes.

An expert in the field, Neal has guided countless individuals to regain their self-esteem, their joy, and their lives. From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, whether you're gathering the courage to finally leave or learning how to guard against a chronically abusive pattern, If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame.

©2018 Avery Jordan Neal (P)2018 Tantor

Absolutely What I Needed!

This book is exactly everything I needed to hear, learn, and know. Wow! It is as though the author wrote my life story. I have read countless books on abusive relationship and self help. This book is by far one of the best! I am so grateful for the hard truth on how awful I have allowed myself to be treated in my marriage. No more! I deserve better! Ms Avery, I can't thank you enough!!! This book is a gift to all women and I HIGHLY recommend it. I came across this book at the right time. Every woman should read it!

28 year old male just out of a engagement.

loved it. should be recommended and put in a form for kids and teenagers to read, should be apart of graduating high-school. I think this book not only helps people notice abuse but it can show them how this world and economy works and can translate what this book says into a masterclass for young people.

informative

helped me put things into perspective, very insightful in my opinion, very good listen to.

I plan to listen to this again!

Author shared relatable stories which gives the reader/listener a visual of what “ subtle abuse” looks like in various situations. I also enjoyed the journal prompt and the mindfulness thinking.

Desperate to be loved

This is probably one of my favorite books that truly details the nature of an abusive relationship. Themes like core wounds, the inner child are among some of the useful things discussed. The book really opened my eyes to the fact that one's desperation to be loved can become more important to a person than their being abused. I learned a lot about my own psychology reading this book. Towards the end of the book, there is advice for mothers to give daughters to help them recognize red flags early on rather than later on. That was also very helpful! A solid book from start to finish.

Concepts presented well, but…

I thought it was well written and presented. Although, by the title, I thought there would be more focus on the subtleties of manipulation in abusive relationships. There was much mention of more overt, abusive tactics. The biggest oversight was leaving out a chapter on raising sons. It is understood how to train daughters to avoid such relationships is important. But what about protecting our sons from predators and also how does being in the family dynamic as a son affect their future relationships with women? Definitely a missed opportunity.

Please keep politics out of a Self Help book.

I was really looking forward to listening to this book. However, when in the forward digs were made at certain political figures I decided it was not for me. I would like to listen to the message without politics being interjected.