Trauma Bonding: Understanding and Overcoming the Trauma Bond in a Narcissistic Relationship

Narcissistic Relationship Recovery, Book 1

De: Lauren Kozlowski

Narrado por: Stephanie Murphy

"If your relationship is so bad, why don't you just leave them?"

"If you were in such an abusive relationship, why did you stay with them for so long?"

"If you knew you were in a relationship with such a toxic person, why didn't you ask people for help?"

If you've ever been asked these questions, aside from being ignorant and hurtful, you'll know it's beyond frustrating. The answer to the above questions, whilst it's complex and often confusing, can be given with two words: trauma bonded. If you find you're in a relationship that you know is so toxic that it's crushing your very being, but you can't bring yourself to leave, you may be in the clutches of a tight trauma bond.

If you're constantly feeling on edge, forever working to appease your spouse to little avail and feel like you're constantly being chipped away at with their abusive behavior, then I can understand how emotionally shattering it feels to live this way.

If, in the same breath, it breaks your heart to even consider leaving them because you can't imagine life without them, then I can understand that feeling too - because I was trauma bonded to my abusive ex.

From my own personal experience and from the experiences other survivors have opened up to me about, this book will cover the following:

• What trauma bonding really is
• The seven stages that lead to you becoming trauma bonded
• The parallels that Stockholm syndrome has with trauma bonding
• The five stages you go through when you come to accept you're trauma bonded - the cognitive dissonance a trauma bond can cause
• Breaking free from the traumatic bond

This book will also include my own experiences and I'll draw upon those to help you really understand trauma bonding, and let you know that you're not alone in being shackled by this emotionally crippling bond. More importantly, this book will help you understand that the invisible chain that tethers you to your abuser can be broken.

©2020 Escape The Narcissist (P)2020 Escape The Narcissist

very informing and understanding

everything she said is what I'm going thru or what I been thru this book is very beneficial it definitely confirms what I thought I'm not crazy it's not me I'm not the problem n neither r u

Crying

To be fair I’m only five minutes in and crying. I’m proud of myself for getting out (it’s been two years) but I am extremely damaged even with therapy, I hope this helps. All I can say is she nailed it.

wow

holy sh*t, this couldn't be more spot on. I'm current going through a trauma bond relationship and this book is inspiring! it also let's me know I'm not alone/crazy! thank you.

hard topic... gentle approach

The subject matter is not discussed in a lot of circles. Needs to be shared.

Wish people could see the truth

It was like hearing a play by play of my life the last 3 years with my abusive covert narcissist spouse & his toxic family. Everyone puts the blame on me so he can play the victim to fill his desperate need to be the constant center of everyone's attention. 17 years of prison helped perfect his skills to feed the black evil living inside him! His family just feeds the flames to hide what all or them really are

Clear understanding

This book gave me a clear understanding of trauma bonding. Thank you for writing this book.

Must listen

Thank you for the book it was eye opening to know I was married to a narcissist. I could reflect with this book.

Very Informative

The book was quite short and straight to the point. I learned quite a bit from it. Thank you. The narrator was very good.

Very educational

I loved how the concept of being addicted to the abuser is very well explained; and how I feel about still feeling attached to someone who have been hurting me for so long, and still stuck in a dark world.

Informative and Relatable

Did an excellent job detailing the reality of narcissistic abuse, so I found it, a great support and resource.