How to Stop the Pain

By: James B. Richards

Narrated by: Jim Denison

We all experience pain! Every day millions of people live in a world of heartache. We're forced to smile and pretend that everything is all right. You've been wounded, and you just can't seem to heal. You try to get on with your life, but you just can't move on. You forgive, but you can't forget! Every day exhumes the pain you try to bury. It cripples your relationships with people, God, and life itself. It destroys your ability to pursue your dreams.

This paradigm-shattering book will free you from the forces that would turn you into a victim. It will lead you step by step through a simple process that will free you from the pain of the past and protect you from the pain of the future.

How to Stop the Pain will help you discover the emotional freedom that everyone wants but few experience; break the secret link to the pain of the past; identify the number one source of suffering; never be hurt by another insult; learn the only biblical way to prevent pain; free yourself from the need to judge others; and experience freedom from criticism.

©2001 James B. Richards (P)2021 Tantor

Wow

Judging good or bad is wrong and causes me pain. Wow! So much good truth I've never thought about. A great challenge. I will read again and again until my mind is renewed.

We truly are our own worst enemy

This is a fantastic book to help us we beneath the pain to what the real cause is and rectify it there.

Amazingly wise and deep

Amazingly wise and deep revelation on how our own attitudes and judgments cause so much of our problems.

So much more than the title suggests

Eloquently describes the pitfalls of judgment and how it leads to the destruction of self and relationships. The book really helped me understand how I relate to the world around me, mis-placed identity, and reasons why we allow pain to turn into suffering. James consistently used scripture to back up his many points and was incredibly thorough. I would recommend this book to anyone wanting to live in freedom, free of judgement.

Amazingly Simple Truth

The truth in this book will change lives. I needed the simple explanation and gentle guidance of how to not dwell in hurt. When we choose to focus on Jesus and His love for us instead of ourselves and our problems only then can we escape the blindness of being caught up in our circumstances and live our lives for Him and full of love for others.

Great insights and love the Bible references

Great book great nuggets. This is a repeat listen and excellent reminder of how to BE and who to BE … it digs into what’s behind our behaviors and pain. #DocTami

Wow! Just wow!

This book is not for the faint of heart. It is intense and direct. Be sure to start with an open mind. I would have told you I did, but early on I found myself challenged, and maybe a touch defensive, by this fresh perspective on the pain I feel in relationships. The idea that some pain, if not most, is somewhat self-inflicted was kind of off-putting at first. Keep listening!

There will be new concepts and perspective presented that are so valuable! He refers to many passages in the bible that I have heard for years, in a passive or dismissive way, with a new perspective that makes so much more sense in the context of this presentation. I’m not going to defend one perspective over another (as that is between the reader and God), but I can say that for me, I feel more love and less judgement from those verses. He doesn’t shy away from owning our mistakes and actions in any way. In fact, he draws an amazing line between our actions and the judgement we may receive from others or ourselves. It goes the other way too. Actions and our perceptions of those actions are not the same, and to make them the same tends toward judgement and pain. Such a great book.

As a person who has experienced both sides of judgement, given and received, this book is changing me. I will read it many times as the content is that deep. In recovery, safety is often spoken about so we can be comfortable with sharing our struggles. This book deepens and strengthens my resolve to remove judgement from every situation so God can do his work in the lives of us all.

Read this and be prepared for a heart change. I don’t think this can be read and not be affected.

An ever-so-slight minus, as either the sound mixer (or whatever audio person) made the audio quiet and slightly ‘bass’ey. Sure, the reader has a low pitched voice (very soothing), but there are just ‘things’ that tended to be out of balance in the mix. Nit-picky, yes. But just be aware you may need to adjust your volume higher than expected, and may want to adjust your EQ settings to get it just right for you. :)