How to Break Up with Your Friends

Finding Meaning, Connection, and Boundaries in Modern Friendships

By: Erin Falconer

Narrated by: Erin Falconer

Create space for meaningful connections and set healthy boundaries with this much-needed guide to modern-day friendship.

Friends hold an especially valuable role for women — few relationships have such power to fuel us and inspire our joy. Yet even though we pride ourselves on our large networks, we tend to be afraid of rocking the boat and asking for what we really need. As a result, we end up accepting mediocrity in ourselves and our friendships far too often.

But does it really have to be this way?

In How to Break Up with Your Friends, celebrated life mentor Erin Falconer provides a refreshing guide to modern-day friendships — along with deeper principles, assessments, and practices for nurturing them.

“This book is about so much more than going through your contact list with a machete,” Erin shares. “Yes, you’ll learn how to detox yourself from friendships that no longer nourish you, but you’ll also explore the astounding importance of modern friendships and how to be a truly great friend yourself.”

With clear-eyed guidance and a good dose of humor, Erin will help you:

• Take stock of those currently in your life so you can see exactly how you and your friends are serving each other.
• Understand how your earliest friendships impact your current relationships.
• Explore the importance of having healthy friendships — including the many ways we’re influenced by our friend groups.
• Know the main types of friendships we form, the roles they play in our lives, and how to deepen the most essential ones.
• Recognize the signs you’re in a toxic friendship and stop fearing constructive confrontation.
• Rupture and repair — be ready when a valuable friendship hits the rocks.
• Learn how to make new friends as an adult.
• Have the courageous conversations needed when it’s time to “break up” with others.

With a wealth of revelations and tools — including the Six Pillars of Friendship, the Friendship Diagnosis, and sample scripts to help facilitate the hard conversations — How to Break Up with Your Friends is the relationship audiobook you didn’t know you needed.

©2022 Erin Falconer (P)2022 Sounds True

Critic reviews

“Don’t let the title fool you — this is a book about connection, empathy, and finding nourishment through friendship. How to Break Up with Your Friends is an essential guide to creating space for these important relationships in our busy lives.” (Ximena Vengoechea, author of Listen Like You Mean It)

“If you’ve ever been in a situation where ending a friendship felt as painful as a divorce, read this book now. How to Break Up with Your Friends is a manifesto for genuine friendship. Erin sheds light on the qualities of forming deeper connections, prioritizing our well-being, and setting boundaries within our existing relationships, and, ultimately, how to have the courageous conversations needed when it’s time to ‘break up.’” (Justin Michael Williams, author of Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us)

“How to Break Up with Your Friends shows the innate power of one of the most underappreciated relationships — our friendships — and gives a crystal clear map of exactly how to unlock that power.” (Melissa Ambrosini, best-selling author of Comparisonitis and host of The Melissa Ambrosini Show podcast)

Healing

I have broke up with couple friends all in the sudden, after reading this book I learned I did the right thing for myself and my ex-friends. And won’t feel guilty about it anymore.

An absolute must read for 20-something’s

As a 20-something year old this book resonated more than I can articulate. Erin is so honest, genuine, yet heartfelt in her advice and her prose. I cannot wait to read her next book. Thank you for all of the wisdom.

Beautiful

Exactly what we all need! Thank you for doing the work so that we can benefit from it!

Audio issues

The audio kept cutting, the same way it does when you get a text or notification somewhere else but without it.

Epic Validation

This book really hit home in so many ways. not only did it talk about examples that aligned with events I have experienced but it validated that my current journey to I prove myself is completely on the right track toward improving the quality of my relationships. It also helped me accept certain intuitions about needing to let some friends go who I have loved and valued in the past. It made me feel so lifted that my habit of collecting casual friendships is actually healthy and that it is ok for friends to fill certain needs and not all. I loved this one and really feel like all of my friends, of all types, should read this book!!

Good, but woke.

There are some great lessons here! The author seems genuine however don’t love that she opts to show up in her book as a SJW. As a Latina woman, I found it extremely annoying that she kept referencing race and victimizing POC. I understand the sentiment, but it’s extremely flawed. Aside from that, I enjoyed the book.

Loved this book

I truly loved this book and it resonated with me in so many different ways. It really made me think about my role in my friendships and take inventory of my friendshipsZ.

interesting listen

Interesting listen and important in a post COVID world. Can't think of any friends to dump 😆 but excited to discuss this in an online book club! Important life lessons and reminders.

Good advice on friendship, but woke.

The race focus got really irritating,..comments on microagressions, racist society, victimized POC, etc.. I tried to ignore all the woke nonsense and listen to the friendship advice, which was helpful.

So many truths

Thank you for the time you spent writing this book. I could relate to so much and appreciate how you dedicated the majority of it in working on ourselves before giving up on a friendship.