Awkward

The Science of Why We're Socially Awkward and Why That's Awesome

By: Ty Tashiro

Narrated by: George Newbern

In the vein of Quiet and The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth comes this illuminating look at what it means to be awkward - and how the same traits that make us socially anxious and cause embarrassing faux pas also provide the seeds for extraordinary success.

As humans, we all need to belong. While modern social life can make even the best of us feel gawky, for roughly one in five of us, navigating its challenges is consistently overwhelming - an ongoing maze without an exit. Often unable to grasp social cues or master the skills and grace necessary for smooth interaction, we feel out of sync with those around us. Though individuals may recognize their awkward disposition, they rarely understand why they are like this - which makes it hard for them to know how to adjust their behavior.

Psychologist and interpersonal relationship expert Ty Tashiro knows what it's like to be awkward. Growing up, he could do math in his head and memorize the earned run averages of every National League starting pitcher. But he couldn't pour liquids without spilling and habitually forgot to bring his glove to Little League games. In Awkward, he unpacks decades of research into human intelligence, neuroscience, personality, and sociology to help us better understand this widely shared trait. He explores its nature vs. nurture origins, considers how the awkward view the world, and delivers a welcome counterintuitive message: the same characteristics that make people socially clumsy can be harnessed to produce remarkable achievements.

Interweaving the latest research with personal tales and real world examples, Awkward offers reassurance and provides valuable insights into how we can embrace our personal quirks and unique talents to harness our awesome potential - and more comfortably navigate our complex world.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2017 Ty Tashiro (P)2017 HarperCollins Publishers

Very Enjoyable book, but...

I felt this was a very interesting and enjoyable book. however it was a bit of a struggle towards the end. But still recommend to a listen

enjoyed the book

although I don't feel awkward myself, this book has helped me to understand certain people in my life better. I think I will be able to have most compassion for these individuals as a result.

great book with helpful understanding

love it, great explanation and very helpful for understanding why people are so awkward

didn't grip me

had some great stories but the parts in-between lost me and I found my mind wandering. maybe I read too much gladwell and I wanted this to be more like that. still good and I did learn a handful of interesting things

Insightful but not completely ground breaking.

Not everything in this book applies to everyone, but to those whose awkwardness firs Tashiro's definition of it, it's very enlightening.

I certainly feel like there are some things that apply to me and some that don't quite fit, but overall a good listen.

Excellent

Excellent description of life for unusual personaliies. Should be required reading for college personal development classes.

so interesting

it was great information. it really made me realize some quarks that I do. I recommend if u feel awkward

For socially awkward people

This book wasn’t bad, and the narrator did a fine job, but I was hoping to get more out of the book than I did. This book is written for what I might consider severely socially awkward people and those who care about or for them, such as parents. I am terrible in social situations and dread going to any type of party or social function. My level of social anxiety or ‘introvertness’ doesn’t even hit the scale of social awkwardness that this book addresses, so this book was not for me.

Decent, but nothing groundbreaking

It had some good info, but not enough moments that made me stop and think. The insight wasn't particularly groundbreaking for someone like me who has already taken a few social science classes. If you're a newb though it's worth a listen. :)

Help Children Who Are Socially Awkward

It's only towards the end of the book when the author describes the trade-offs of intelligence and social awkwardness. Much of the book is about children, who are awkward - what are they thinking and why they are behaving differently. There is advice on how to help them navigate the social world, like focusing on three social cues at a time. For example, if a friend greets you, then look him in the eye, smile, and say "hi." If he asks "how are you," then respond "I'm fine" and ask him how he is. These social scripts help children see the pattern in people's behaviors. It is like learning the language and customs of a foreign country for them.