ADHD & Us

A Couple's Guide to Loving and Living With Adult ADHD

By: Anita Robertson LCSW

Narrated by: Joana Garcia

Communicating and thriving in a neurodiverse relationship is possible. ADHD & Us gives couples the tools and strategies they need to connect as well as overcome the unique challenges they face on the road to long-term happiness and satisfaction.

Drawing from Anita Robertson's years of practice counseling couples with ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder), this honest and straightforward guide helps couples better understand adult ADHD and how it affects relationships, while also providing the tools necessary for both partners to feel understood and respected. Learn how to avoid common conflicts, appreciate your differences, and meet each partner's needs. Together, you can make it happen.

This relationship guide for people with adult ADHD includes:

• The five pillars of success (learn about the five relationship pillars-praise, acknowledgement, games, growth mindset, and positive acceptance - and how they are essential in a successful relationship)
• A practical approach to adult ADHD (build communication skills and deepen your connection using engaging exercises that allow both partners to share in safe and constructive ways)
• Modern and inclusive guidance

With expert advice based on the most-up-to-date understandings of adult ADHD, this book is designed for use in all kinds of relationships.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2020 Rockridge Press, Emeryville, California (P)2021 Tantor

Great introduction for couples

This was my first book covering ADHD couples. It was easy to follow along and gave great information

Good book for any adhd couple

Really helpful advice for couples struggling with adhd. Book was geared towards one partner with adhd and did not offer a lot of advice for if both partners have ADHD

Very insightful

This was an Excellent listen with very helpful suggestions. They really nailed the dynamic of many neurodivergent marriages.

Fantastic book

Every couple that has one partner with ADHD should read this book together. Life changing!

Painful to listen to

Though this book does not give any bad advice, most of the practical suggestions felt too juvenile for me to have any desire to engage in. I enjoy silly activities, but not lame ones. The bigger problem was the reader, who rarely seemed to understand when she had come upon the end of a sentence. Her inflection was so strange that it made the text more challenging for me to comprehend and became grating on my ears.

Everything

Excellent described me to the T every chapter made me more and more aware of my ADHD

The neurodiverse side

I had not contemplated the problems I was creating in my partner this helped me to have a better understanding & empathy 

Author doesn't have first hand experience with ADHD

I was offended more than once by the author's portrayal of the ADHD person.

Not geared at all for the wife who is the ADHD-spouse

I struggled mightily with this book.

Most books I’ve encountered so far come from the ADHD husband/non-ADHD wife angle, which is somewhat understandable based on not-so-far-in-the-past trends. This one is no different. However I am the wife who is recently diagnosed with ADHD in my forties, and my husband believes he is the non-ADHD spouse. (Which is a whole other issue I am trying to learn about and navigate as well.)

Although everything I am reading stresses how important it is to not fall into a parent/child dynamic … totally agreed … practically every strategy then suggested in this book puts the couple square into a parent/child position.

So many references to helping, leading, guiding, managing the ADHD effects and/or spouse.

This is particularly frustrating as the mom/wife who is already the Family Manager, responsible for helping, leading, guiding, and managing so many minute and overwhelming aspects of the family. I respect that very few books can meet specific, individual needs. However, as this book comes from the ADHD husband/non-ADHD wife tract, there is little to help the increasing number of women/moms being diagnosed with ADHD and how to improve understanding and communication with your spouse and family. Particularly in light of the fact that the responsibilities and minutiae of your daily life are not going to be lessened or simply go away.

Overall, it just felt a bit condescending and unrealistic. I am a fully-functioning adult, and fairly successful one, at that. I just have a few quirks and the need for some better knowledge and communication skills mixed in with my slightly different daily functioning. I do not need to be managed or guided or demeaned, or even excluded from potentially “difficult” situations.

Hopefully this book is helpful for some who may need some basic tips and tricks - to do lists, dividing tasks by who is better at what, and such. Unfortunately it was a miss for me.

Not for me

This was definitely not for me. Felt like the presentation was looking down on people with adhd.