Fight Right

How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

De: Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, John Gottman PhD

Narrado por: Roy Worley, Kiiri Sandy

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLES

Conflict is the top reason couples seek help—but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world’s leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates.

“An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.

Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together.

Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.

©2024 Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD and John Gottman, PhD (P)2024 Random House Audio

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“Conflict is inevitable in any relationship—the trick is knowing how to handle it. Difficulty navigating conflict is one of the most common reasons that couples seek help from books and professionals. They're looking for guidance, but there is surprisingly little practical, accessible information out there. So who better than John and Julie Gottman to give couples the important tools they need? This book will be an indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of the “Dear Therapists” podcast

"Couples need skills to fight better, and FIGHT RIGHT is the book that all couples will want to read. Dr. John and Julie Gottman have crafted a masterful guide about the importance of fighting and the skills needed to grow from having necessary disputes. The Gottmans have spent years studying and teaching couples, and in FIGHT RIGHT, they are teaching couples how to do it right."—Nedra Glover Tawwab, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

“In a relationship, your goal is to help your partner find their purpose. John and Julie Gottman, with their decades of experience working intimately with couples, know that the road to finding your purpose and fulfilling your dreams is often through conflict. If we don’t learn how to do conflict well, we’re going to be stuck, disconnected, and unfulfilled. Couples today really need clear, compassionate, and science-based guidance in this arena, and as the world’s leading love experts, the Gottmans are the trusted voice to guide them.”—Jay Shetty, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk

Great for anyone!

This is a must read for couples, whether they’re having problems or not. It probably should be required reading for everyone. I am definitely going to listen again soon.

This book is awesome 👌

Love the book. It is very informative and very helpful. I would recommend this book to anyone.

Excellent book on the blueprint for dealing with fights with your partner and learning more about them through conflict.

I like that it’s a clear easy read. Steps are laid out which makes it user friendly. The Gottmans take all their incredible research and boil it down to “this is what you do when…”. Perfect!

Great Read

Very helpful - practical. Loved the quick guide provided at the end of the book. Highly recommend.

Must Read

Loved this book.. conflict is part of life.. this book teaches how to use every conflict as an opportunity to strengthen your connection. Will read it again.

A must read for anyone who wants a long lasting romantic relationship

As a scientist I’m all about having the tools to be the best I can be, so this book is a godsend. I also love that the scientists/authors, included their own experiences as a couple in a long relationship show us that despite their expertise, they still occasionally get caught up in their emotions and have fights… but have learned to use their own tools on themselves to be better for each other. I will be recommending this book to all my friends (whether in a couple or single), because it will change their lives for the better.
Thank you Julie and John.

worked well on line, off line

kept my place every time I went to listen again. I was glad it worked offline too.

Helpful and Digestible

Thank you for making this accessible and putting it together. The book was helpful and digestible.

Great for marriage

Really made me aware of fighting habits we have today and gave good ideas for approaching differently.

Every couple should read this!

I have read quite a few of the Gottman's books. This one hit home as a practical and applicable guide for all couples, at every stage in a relationship. I can't imagine the hours, days, and months we could reclaim by knowing how to work through conflict instead of wallowing in our self-pity or self-righteousness. I am excited to take this book into practice.