Do you find yourself saying "I don't want to hurt their feelings" while completely abandoning your own needs? You think you're being nice, but you're actually training people to ignore what matters to you—because you're ignoring it first.

In this episode, I break down the hidden cost of people-pleasing and why "being nice" is often just self-abandonment dressed up as politeness. I go over the 5 core types of boundaries (physical, emotional, mental, material, and energetic) and shares exactly what healthy boundary-setting looks like in real life.

You'll learn:

• Why boundaries aren't walls—they're doors that YOU control
• How you teach people to treat you by what you allow, stop, and reinforce
• The difference between being liked and being safe
• What to do when people get mad about your boundaries
• Why the more authentic you is waiting on the other side of the limits you set

Plus, get Terri's Boundary Script Kit with scripts for all 5 types of boundaries at terricole.com/guide.

If you've spent years people-pleasing and managing other people's emotions, this episode will help you reclaim your peace and show up as your full, authentic self.

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Doors to Boundary Bootcamp are open! It's my 8 week Flagship Boundary Course with 8 Live Q&A Coaching Calls. To get more info and sign up got to terricole.com/bb2025

I am so excited to have dating coach and podcast host Sabrina Zohar on the show to talk about dating, relational issues, and what a secure, emotionally safe relationship looks like.

Sabrina shares the work that she did to get out of unhealthy relational patterns, how she navigates her relationship with her narcissistic father, what her and her partner do to make each other feel safe and secure, how she sets boundaries with difficult people, and so much more. 🔥

I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did!

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Do you say yes when you want to say no?

Do you do more emotional labor in nearly all of your relationships?

Are you the one everyone counts on, while no one is there for you? (Maybe you don’t even allow people to be there for you?)

If any of this sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

I had many requests to do another episode on people-pleasing, so let’s cover how people-pleasing and self-abandonment are survival mechanisms, the cost of these behaviors to us and our relationships, and how we can slowly shift into healthier ways of relating.

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I'm so excited to have a new pal, Alana Carvalho, a licensed mental health counselor, on the show to talk about two topics we're both passionate about: codependency and perfectionism!

We talk about why these two things go together, our experiences of being in recovery from both, what inspired Alana to create The Codependent Perfectionist brand, how to ease up on perfectionism and codependent behaviors, and so much more.

I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did!

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Do you notice micro changes in people’s facial expressions and ask yourself, “What did I do wrong?”

Are you able to sit with someone in pain without trying to fix them?

Are you so emotionally attuned to everything and everyone that you feel exhausted?

If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not broken; you just lack the skills (boundaries!) needed to embrace your superpower (being an empath).

You can care, love, and feel deeply without losing yourself in someone’s pain, which is what I’m talking about in this episode. I hope it helps you hit pause on taking on people’s emotions and gives you the tools you need to manage your energy.

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I am thrilled to have Shannon Watts, author and founder of Moms Demand Action, on the show to talk about her new book, Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark Into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age. I was definitely fired up and inspired by what Shannon had to share, and I think you will be, too.

If you've been going through life on autopilot (as many high-functioning codependents do), feel like something is missing, or like you've been playing it small and it's time to stop and do something different, this conversation is for you.

Shannon shares practical tips and strategies for reimagining your life and while we talk about perimenopause and menopause, these tips can apply to anyone in any season of life!

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Every close relationship hits turbulence at some point. Conflict is inevitable.

That’s why the real magic of secure, emotionally mature relationships isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about having the tools to come back together and repair.

Repair requires us to be proactive because the work needs to begin long before it is actually needed. You can’t build a bridge in the middle of a storm (aka, a conflict). Having the ability to repair after disconnection or disagreements is everything. In this episode, I’m teaching you how to create a repair kit so you can prepare to handle conflict much more productively.

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Sometimes, it helps to laugh at life’s problems– Even the real ones. If you could use some help in finding humor in today’s current events, Angie is your gal! Today I’m sharing a relaxed chat with Angie “Pumps” Sullivan, co-author of Life is a Lazy Susan of Shit Sandwiches and co-host of the podcast I’ve Had It. Somehow, the conversation feels light even as we delve into the reality of mourning dreams and expectations, being a role model for your children, and speaking up to yourself without being a “Karen.” I hope you enjoy today’s episode with Angie as much as I enjoyed chatting with her!

Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/727