In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Valentina, a listener at a crossroads in her relationship and living situation. Valentina shares the challenges of navigating her partner’s sudden decisions and their impact on her sense of self. This episode dives deep into how family-of-origin patterns influence current relationships, and offers profound insights for anyone questioning their life direction.

Christine helps Valentina explore her feelings, confront patterns of compliance and codependency, and move toward clarity and empowerment. Together, they unpack the importance of honoring one’s truth, and voice in relationships and in life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself putting others' needs before your own in relationships?
• Are you afraid to speak your truth, fearing it might lead to conflict or rejection?
• Have you noticed patterns in your relationships that reflect your childhood experiences?
• Are you currently in a situation that feels like a compromise of your authentic self?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Valentina recognizes her tendency to prioritize her partner's desires over her own, a pattern rooted in her upbringing.
• Christine highlights the importance of self-honoring choices and boundary-setting.
• Through coaching, Valentina gains clarity on her relationship's dynamics and how they mirror her family history.
• Valentina finds empowerment in understanding that leaving a relationship or staying should align with her soul’s highest good.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reflect on whether your relationships support or suppress your authentic self.
• Notice patterns from your family of origin that might be playing out in your current relationships.
• Prioritize communication and honesty in relationships to foster mutual respect and understanding.
• Seek external support, whether from therapy or coaching, to help navigate big decisions.

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In this transformative coaching session, Christine guides Sarah, a 39-year-old single woman, through releasing guilt, healing her self-worth, and letting go of codependent patterns in relationships. Sarah shares the profound guilt she feels after leaving an abusive marriage, particularly since her ex-husband later passed away. Struggling with feelings of responsibility, she’s found herself repeating self-sacrificing patterns and attracting emotionally unavailable partners. Christine helps Sarah uncover how her childhood experiences of emotional neglect and caretaking shaped her beliefs about love and self-worth.

As they delve deeper, Sarah realizes that her guilt and sense of responsibility are rooted in early family dynamics, where she learned to prioritize others’ needs over her own. Christine encourages her to reconnect with her inner “adult self”—a wise, grounded voice within her that initially gave her the strength to leave her toxic marriage. This part of Sarah is key to rebuilding her confidence, trusting her instincts, and setting healthy boundaries.

The conversation highlights how our subconscious often seeks familiar relationship dynamics from childhood, making it challenging to break-free from harmful cycles. For Sarah, Christine suggests focusing on cultivating self-worth by reframing her inner dialogue and practicing self-care over dating. By pausing romantic pursuits, Sarah can create the inner stability needed to attract healthier connections, and leave behind codependent tendencies.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you been drawn to relationships where your needs are ignored or undervalued?
• Do you struggle with guilt when setting boundaries or prioritizing self-care?
• Are you holding yourself responsible for something that was never truly in your control?

The Guest’s Key Insights & A-HA’s:

• Sarah realizes she has been unconsciously choosing emotionally unavailable partners, mirroring her unmet needs from childhood.
• She understands that her lingering guilt about leaving her ex-husband has fueled codependent behaviors.
• Her “adult Sarah” voice, which led her to leave her marriage, is an essential inner resource she can rely on.
• Sarah sees how the part of her focused-on guilt, and self-punishment needs to make way for self-love and healing.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Prioritize Self-Worth: Reframe your self-image by focusing on your worth outside of relationship dynamics.
• Reconnect with Your Inner Child: Address the needs of your inner child and give yourself permission to release old survival strategies.
• Focus on Self-Growth: Take dating off the table temporarily to focus on self-healing practices.
• Seek Healthy Relational Dynamics: Cultivate relationships where you feel seen, safe, and appreciated rather than diminished.

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

My hubby joins me on the podcast again today where we have a candid conversation about how valuing growth impacts our relationship (and is the reason we are together). We also share tips for those of you looking to call in love and partnership.

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Ariana, who struggles with guilt related to her relationship with her mother and aunt. Ariana grew up in an emotionally challenging environment with caregivers who struggled with alcohol dependency. As an adult, she experiences guilt around maintaining boundaries, especially as her mother and aunt react negatively to her attempts to stand up for herself. Christine helps Ariana understand that her guilt is tied to deep-rooted patterns from her childhood and supports her in releasing feelings that no longer serve her well-being.

Through their conversation, Christine guides Ariana to recognize that she’s breaking a generational pattern. She encourages Ariana to focus on the family she’s building, rather than being consumed by the dynamics she grew up with. This episode explores healing, setting boundaries, and the journey toward liberation from generational patterns.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel guilty when you set boundaries, especially with family members?
• Have you ever felt responsible for the emotional well-being of a parent?
• Are you at a point in your life where you’re ready to break free from family patterns that no longer serve you?
• Do you struggle with guilt about prioritizing your own well-being?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Ariana’s guilt stems from a desire to feel like a “good daughter,” even at the cost of her own peace.
• Christine highlights that Ariana’s guilt is unproductive and rooted in her past survival mechanisms.
• By releasing guilt and setting clear boundaries, Ariana can create a healthier, more peaceful life for herself and her future family.
• The session emphasizes the importance of breaking generational patterns, and choosing to prioritize one’s own emotional well-being.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reflect on whether your guilt serves a productive purpose or if it’s keeping you tied to unhelpful dynamics.
• Practice boundary-setting with compassion, knowing that prioritizing yourself is not selfish.
• Consider what kind of family environment you want to create and work toward it, regardless of past experiences.
• Release attachment to controlling others’ emotions or well-being, focusing instead on your own growth.

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Kim, who opens up about her struggles with self-worth, trust, and negative self-talk stemming from childhood emotional neglect. Through the session, Christine guides Kim in exploring how childhood neglect shaped her present-day beliefs and behaviors, emphasizing the importance of connecting to a higher power for healing and self-acceptance.

Christine introduces a spiritual perspective to help Kim release the weight of her past and reconnect with unconditional love from the universe, offering her a powerful reframe to live a more fulfilled, connected life. This episode serves as an inspiring reminder that healing is a journey and that self-compassion is essential in managing unresolved wounds from the past.

Consider/Ask Yourself:
• Do you feel emotionally neglected in your past, leaving you with lingering self-doubt or negative self-talk?
• Are you seeking ways to reconnect with yourself and your inner child?
• Do you struggle to find confidence in expressing yourself in personal or professional situations?
• How do you nurture your spiritual or higher self?

Key Insights & A-Ha’s from Kim's Session:
• Kim realizes that her struggles with confidence and expression stem from a need for external validation that was absent in childhood.
• Christine reframes Kim's childhood experience as an opportunity to learn deeper self-compassion and connection to her spiritual self.
• Kim acknowledges that her journey involves seeking love and validation from within, especially through spiritual practice.
• The session highlights that healing doesn't mean "fixing" the past but learning to thrive despite it, embracing spirituality as a source of unconditional love.

How to Get Over It & On With It:
• Recognize when past wounds surface in current situations and meet them with compassion instead of judgment.
• Reconnect with your inner child through self-kindness and by seeking nurturing practices that feed your soul.
• Explore spiritual practices that resonate with you to feel loved, seen, and held by something greater than yourself.
• Practice self-acceptance, knowing that thriving despite past experiences is a powerful form of healing.

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author of Second Firsts (Hay House, 2013), Where Did You Go? (Harper One, 2018), and Invisible Loss (Sounds True, 2024). In 2010, four years after her thirty-five-year-old spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process, which launched her on a mission to bring compassion, grace, and validation to thousands, while simultaneously establishing an exit from what she termed the Waiting Room. Christina holds a master’s degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is currently finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art). Her grief work has been featured on ABC News and in Women’s World, the Washington Post, and the White House Blog.

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine coaches Gloria, who grapples with balancing anxiety and confidence. Gloria's core wound stems from childhood abandonment, which causes her to feel unsafe in expressing herself fully, especially in public settings. Although she has a supportive partner and is pursuing trauma-informed coaching, her fears of rejection and failure in her new career keep resurfacing. Christine helps Gloria navigate her anxiety and step into her confidence by guiding her to detach from the narrative she tells herself about being "too much."

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle with balancing anxiety and confidence in your personal or professional life?
• Is your core wound rooted in abandonment or rejection, making you feel unsafe in being your authentic self?
• Do you talk yourself out of pursuing something because of fear of rejection or failure?
• How do you react to feedback or criticism? Do you internalize it or use it as a learning tool?
• Are you ready to step out of your story and into your authentic power?

Gloria’s Key Insights & Aha Moments:

• Gloria recognizes that her fear of rejection ties back to childhood wounds of feeling abandoned and "too much."
• She acknowledges that despite her current partner being emotionally supportive, her fear of public speaking and judgment continues to manifest.
• Christine helps Gloria realize that her story of always being in "fight or flight" is not her reality, and she has made more progress than she gives herself credit for.
• By shifting focus from her fear to her strengths, Gloria can step into confidence.

How to Get Over It & On with It:

• Practice emotional grounding and self-affirmation to challenge the narrative of being too much or too anxious.
• Use movement or expressive outlets like dancing to release anxiety and reconnect with your true essence.
• Reframe nervousness or anxiety as a natural response to stepping outside of your comfort zone, not as a sign of incapability.
• Trust that confidence grows through action, even when you feel nervous—courage is built by doing the hard thing.

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!