Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast. I’m your host Lori Lee.

Can we agree that our thought habits basically build our worlds? How small we stay, how big we become, what we allow, what we don’t allow, how much we sacrifice, how hard money is to come by, etc. etc. these type of thought habits are the spaces we function from. In today’s show we are talking about thought habits, with the expert Amy Kemp, author of “I See You.”

Stay tuned for my in-depth conversation with this certified Habit Finder coach who has worked with literally hundreds to help people see how our habits impact our lives and how we can replace unhealthy thought habits with more healthy ones.

Amy Kemp not only coaches, but she also gives workshops, speaks on stage, and has now released her new book: I See You. I’m excited to sit with Amy to learn and share as we talk about this powerful piece of our lives - our habits. So let’s hop right in.

Amy, Welcome to the show.

Please join us on the audio program to hear our discussion about the following:

At the start of your book you share this wonderful story of meeting with a woman for the first time, a woman who, as you had coffee shared her career path, her accolades, her successes. A woman who looked to have everything together. When she asked why you had asked her to lunch, you said, “Because I see you. Because I really see you.” Which brought the woman to tears. - WHAT DID YOU MEAN BY “I REALLY SEE YOU?’

What does a certified Habit Finder Coach do?

What are some of the most oft seen habits you see that do not serve people?

What habits do you replace those with?

Boundaries - Let’s talk about thought habits and boundaries. (Let her speak) In your book you quote Prentis Hemphill and her definition, “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.”

In your book you ask a questions, “Wht if everything we want and are trying to create depends on only 1 thing: how connected we are to the source from which all things come?

Do you believe this and why?

Let’s get back to habits - If you had one tool that you have seen really make a difference in helping people realize which habits are holding them back what would it be?

How do we change unhealthy habit? Tell us the story of “Respect the mile.)

Share with us what you have to offer: your coaching, your book, where listeners can find you.

How to find Amy Kemp and the Habit Finder Tool:

Website: Amylynnkemp.com

Insta: @amykempinc

Email: amy@amylynnkemp.com

Often times our habits are something we aren’t even aware of. I certainly do not believe I am aware of all of mine. In fact I am aware of very few of mine. I hope our conversation with Amy Kemp, today, has given you a gentle awareness - a reminder of how important it is to understand the habits - THE AUTOPILOT - we are allowing to run our lives, to create our worlds. To live intentionally - which is what this show is all about - is to be aware, and to make choices, actively.

Blessings to you and yours. May you see your habits as they truly are and use your power to shift what you wish to shift, to respect the mile you are currently running. Until the next show - Live beautifully and with heart. See you in two weeks.

Welcome to the LYS Podcast. These quick chats are written around an idea that stands out to me that I want to chat with you about. Something that we can discuss in under 15 minutes that will hopefully be as interesting to you as it was to me.

Todays is about how our lives are not one big story, they are made up of a bunch of smaller stories - lots of beginnings, middles, and ends. And I especially want to talk a little about the messy middles.

Tune into the audio for this quick chat that I hope will give a little reprieve if you’re stuck in a messy middle, some hope if you’re at the end of something you didn’t want to end, and maybe some excitement at what new beginnings may be around the corner.

This week I read an email from Mary Alice Arthur, a story practitioner that I had on the show on episode 217 where we talked about “What is the most important story in the world.” Her email really hit home with me and I wanted to share it with you.

Today we’re talking about how we like to think of life as one big story, but in reality life is made up of a bunch of shorter stories - There are new beginnings, new adventures, new experiences, new starts. And there are other stories in our lives that are ending - the end of a project, the end of a job or a relationship, the death of someone or something. But the part I want to talk most about is the MESSY MIDDLE. The messy middle strikes me right now because it’s such an uncomfortable place where we often don’t know what is going to happen next. How will we find our way through? There is a lot of unknown.

One of the ways you can tell you’re in the Messy Middle, Mary Alice says, is that things don’t make sense any more. What you used to do isn’t working. Things feel out of control.

This was comforting to me to acknowledge that confusion may be part of the process of living because I must be in the messy middle of a lot of things. Menopause is upon me and the “me” I used to know is no longer the “me” that is here. My body is weaker, my skin is less resilient, my energy and drive have abandoned me. I’ve been really struggling with not recognizing who I am. Really struggling. So when I read her ideas on the middle, I thought, “Oh, I’m in the messy middle. I don’t know how this is going to turn out because I don’t have it figured out yet. I haven’t figured out hormone adjustments. I haven’t come to grips with a slower self. I haven’t relaxed into acceptance yet. Perhaps it’s not the end of the world as I know it, it’s just the messy middle.”

I’m also at a loss as how to deal with my adult children who are struggling with depression and existential crisis. Nothing I do helps them. I’m at a complete loss and it’s painful. I must be in the messy middle.

We’re looking at a variety of financial investments. The pieces aren’t coming together as fast as I’d like. It’s dragging on. I guess we’re in the messy middle.

Mary Alice asks the question: What do you do when you’re in the messy middle? She suggests that sometimes the best thing to do is simply make a move. Get your hands dirty.

I think this is great advice. I probably like it so much because it gives us power. I have a number of thought quotes at my desk. They say things like: “Yes…and” This saying reminds me that when something happens the best move is simply to acknowledge it and then decide the next best move.

The next sticky note thought on my desk says, “Get curious about new ways of doing things.” The next one says, “Follow your intuition.”

The pattern here is that all these reminders are about taking action. We won’t get any where - we’ll stay exactly where we are if we don’t push on the gas. So push on the gas and steer as corners come up, but just sitting...

How to get a Seat on your Adult Kids’ Board of Directors.

Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast! I’m your host Lori Lee and today we are talking about the complexity and balance of interacting with and influencing our adult children.

My guests today are Emily and Erik Orton, You’ll remember them from Episode 133 - Seven at Sea, where we talked about the year they took their 5 kids and lived on a sail boat.This was one of my all-time favorite episodes because I so loved the things Erik and Emily shared.

I’m very excited to have them back on the show! But I’m also excited because I’m personally having a hard time getting on the board of directors for my adult kids - or in other words, I’m not having a great deal of success having any influence with my adult children. How do they still think I have nothing to share with them….???? What am I doing wrong?

Stay tuned as we get to talk shop with Erik and Emily as they share their expertise they have developed and share through their business The Awesome Factory.

Erik + Emily Orton - Erik is an Emmy Award-winning writer and producer. Emily is an educator, author and public speaker. Their life design framework mutes fear and accelerates growth. They are parents to five kids raised in Manhattan, where Erik worked on such shows as Wicked, Les Miserables and The Phantom of the Opera. When their kids were 6-16 years old, Erik and Emily bootstrapped life aboard a fixer upper sailboat in the Caribbean. They sailed as a family from St. Martin back to New York City. Their memoir about the experience (Seven at Sea) is a New York Times Top 10 Travel book. After life on the boat, they continued to travel the world with their children through Europe, the South Pacific, Africa, and across North and South America in planes, trains, boats and vans. They are the co-founders of The Awesome Factory, a coaching and travel adventure company that leads retreats and sailing adventures all over the world.

Emily and Erik - Welcome back to Love Your Story!

TUNE INTO THE AUDIO DISCUSSION TO HEAR THE THOUGHTS ON THESE AND OTHER IDEAS:

1. Lets start with your story. That introduction gave everyone a super quick look at the adventures of your past decade, but I’d love to have you share some of the highlights you’ve had with your family - particularly those that have helped you build relationship with them in a way that they now give you a place on their board of directors.
2. You coach and direct a great deal regarding empty nesters and dealing with adult children. How did you metamorphose into this space of expertise?
3. Let’s jump right in - I attended an entire evening presentation on this topic, with you, so I know there is lots to talk about. How do we get on our adult kids’ board of directors?
4. What kinds of things do you have coming up and where can people find you?

Finding the Ortons:

Here is the link to The 100 Year Grid:

https://www.theawesomefactory.nyc/100

They tell all about how to use it in episode 18 of their podcast - What Could Go Right?

The 100 Year Grid – How to Visualize Your Whole Life on 1 Sheet of Paper

Welcome to the LYS podcast. Today is a Quick Chat - 1 inspirational idea in 15 minutes or less. We are talking about I AM Statements and being creators. (insert applause reel)

The other day I was listening to Oprah’s Super Soul podcast and her interview with pastor Joel Osteen a pastor from Houston, TX that is a very popular up and coming pastor. It aired on Sept 20 2022 if you want to catch it.

They were talking about how you become what you believe. And, what we believe is what we tell ourselves - so the whole show was about the power of the statement “I AM”

And of course, this is the same thing as…..what story am I telling myself about myself. Today we’re talking about I AM statements, stay tuned and let’s reprogram any mean lingering voices.

People - IT COMES DOWN TO THE SIMPLE THINGS.

My son and I think about the world differently. He tries to unwind the mysteries of the universe. The other day he was incredibly excited because he found a scientific video showing how eternal life could happen scientifically. He showed it to all of us - thrilled to have found something that made sense to him, but it wasn’t striking home for me. I thought about our different approaches to life. As we’ve discussed things over the past year, I’ve realized that complication drives him, but for me when I am trying to learn or comprehend or progress, I love simple. I have found that in my religion, in my way of being, in my growth patterns I love simple tools or simple concepts to focus on..

For example. Instead of looking at the entire doctrinal cannon of my church and feeling frustrated that I’m not good at all of it. I love just working on love. Sometimes I’m good at it and sometimes I’m not, but I know if I get that down or even make progress on it, that it’s one of the things God tells us is most important. And, love really bleeds into everything, forgiveness, healthy self-love, charity, service, etc. So there is plenty to do, but instead of living in overwhelm I work on love.

So, I mention this because the “I AM” statements are such a simple way to realize how you are setting the tone for your life.

It starts when you wake up in the morning.

Start with gratitude - I am grateful for…..there is always something - hot water, a warm bed, health, a good friend, my dog, a great sweater, my kids…… Train yourself. Open your eyes and say thank you or I’ve got this, or I AM confident, I am creative, I am disciplined, I am focused.

What is the difference in the start of your day if you start with:

I’m fat, I’m not attractive, I’m unlucky, I’m a bad parent, I’m not enough, I’m so tired, I’m not worthy….vs. I’m grateful, I’m all over this, I’m excited to see what happens today, I’m making this a great day, I am going to have some great interactions today. I’m getting healthier everyday.

For me - those two create completely different days! Completely different.

Paster Joel say, “Whatever follows “I Am” will come looking for you.” - What do you think of that idea? If you get to choose what chases you down in the world - well, then I’m inspired to put some good things out there because that’s what I want chasing me.

Your life is how you see it - that is a fact. So talk a second and thing about what follows “I AM” for you?

If you want to know where you’ll be in 5 years, stop and pay attention to what follows “I AM” in your own mind….

So let’s talk about how we shift these….

You don’t have to go to the extreme when changing these. Oprah shared an example of a day she was really tired. As she kept saying “I’m so tired” she got more and more tired. Then she caught herself

Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast. I’m your host Lori Lee.

Last year one of the favorite episodes was my interview with Dr. Amanda the money doctor. Money is a really big part of our lives, so of course people want to learn and de-mistify how to get it, how to grow it, how to remove blocks to it.

So 2024 delivers as well. Today Kristen Wonch, a wizard with numbers and one of a handful of women to land a highly coveted role of structuring multi million dollar deals as a commodities trader, is here on the show to talk with us about choosing with intention the life we want and then building the numbers around it. Her Money Mastery Method is the world’s first to teach women to master the art of earning efficiently, spending smart and investing intentionally, while rewiring subconscious money beliefs from the ground up. That’s all big stuff. So, stay tuned and get richer.

Kristien - Welcome to the LYS Podcast

Join us on the audio to listen to our discussion on topics like:

1. You went from $100,000 in debt to being a global money coach. Can we start with your story about how you turned that around?
2. Let’s talk about creating our life on purpose - money is often a big part of that. How do you coach someone through this process?
3. What about this process where you determine the life you desire and then build the numbers around it?
4. What is an unbudget?
5. Let’s talk money blocks. How do you figure out if you have money blocks and what they are?
6. What do you do with them once you’ve identified them?
7. What are the top 3 things you advise women to do in their financial lives?

Find Kristen Wonch at:

Free Investor Secrets Revealed Workshop:

https://www.kristenwonch.com/investor-secrets

Kristen@kristenwonch.com

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Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast. I’m your host Lori Lee and today you are here for a Quick Chat - that’s one inspirational idea in 15 minutes or less.

Today chat is: Every Problem is a thought problem.

It’s a bold statement. But a true one. And one that sets us free. One that puts us in control, most of the time.

So stay tuned as we discuss how much power ACTUALLY have, and how to solve the problems.

Since you are a listener of the Love Your Story podcast I’m going to make the assumption that we are on the same page on the topic of taking responsibility for the pivotal role our thoughts play in shaping our realities. Basically - our thoughts OR stories that we create in our minds create our realities - are we on the same page there? There are 7 Billion realities going on out there…

Ok. With that said, I want to start out with the quote by Byron Katie. She says, “It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.”

In other words, “Every problem is a thought problem.”

Let’s put me in the hot seat. 2023 was a rough year for Realtors and lenders. The higher interest rates meant that for a great many of us the clients buying and selling slowed down. I primarily blamed my slow year on this situation, but here’s another angle - a slower year allowed me to travel more. It gave me more time to reach out and renew and develop relationships with my data base - my past clients. Which part do I want to focus on? Was it a problem or an opportunity? Problems don’t have to stay problems, they can become opportunities if we choose to shift our thoughts.

In the realm of personal development and self reflection this idea invites us to scrutinize the nature of our challenges by recognizing the subjective nature of them. By understanding and claiming that situations and ideas only hold the power we allow them to hold.

Another example - if I come from a family where being a part of a certain religion is tantamount to being right with God and the world, then if I step away from that religion my social construct - family, friends, and members of that congregation may collapse around me, or cause people pain. On the other hand, if there is an acceptance among those people that everyone find their own way in the world, in a way that each individual feels is best for them, then the suffering ceases to happen.

Or, if respect is really important to me, as it is to most type A personalities and I am disrespected, I will/can feel a lot of resentment, anger, frustration, maybe even embarrassment about this, whereas someone for whom that is not an important thing may hardly notice it, or may not feel disrespected in a similar situation. In other words - situations are subjective. Problems are subjective.

My mother used to get really upset when her family parties didn’t unfold as she had expected - her expectations weren’t met and she’d often cry before the night was through - she learned to let go of those expectations and go with the flow as the years went by, but this is a good example of a person creating pain for themselves and then learning how to adjust their thoughts in a way that created less pain for them.

Now let’s combine this with the idea that “everything happens for me, not to me.” With the combination of these two ideas a powerful shift occurs. A shift that can redefine the way we navigate life’s complexities.

Katie’s assertion is that our thoughts about our circumstances themselves contribute more to our issues than do the circumstances themselves.

This is an important thing to realize...

Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast, I’m your host Lori Lee.

Have you ever met someone that brimmed with confidence? I can tell you that there is an energy behind confidence. There is a way you hold yourself, a mindset of expectation that doors will open for you, a presence that actually opens those doors.

There are so many powerful concepts - gratitude, love, allowing, accountability - but today we’re talking about confidence. I’m excited about this because we haven’t talked about confidence before, been coached in confidence before and WE DON’T WANT TO SHORT CHANGE THIS INCREDIBLE MINDSET.

Today I have Chrstina Lecuyer on the show - Voted one of the top Confidence coaches, this former professional golfer and TV host now works with an extensive ist of cientele from around the world. .

Tune into the audio program for a little coaching.

What does confidence look like?

How do we get it if we don’t have it?

Where do we start and how do we use it?

Confidence is defined as a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities.

Our guest today - Christina, battled low self-confidence, an eating disorder, and tying her worth to external validation, Christina was able to turn her life around to create her dream life and a multi six figure business. She uses the same tools she used for herself to help hundreds of clients to create their own profit and success. Through her signature “Decision, Faith & Action” framework clients have not only brought their own dream life into reality, but many have gone on to create multi six and seven figure businesses in the process. I guess we can tie confidence in ourselves to success in business, but I think it propeturates success in all areas of our lives.

Let’s see what Christina says. Join the audio to hear our conversation about:

1. Christina's story: Who were you when you were battling with this low self-esteem and what caused the eating disorder, and how did you evolve and transition out of that?
2. Let’s talk about why confidence is important.
3. Isn’t this a topic almost everyone could use a little coaching in?
4. If you don’t feel confident in yourself? If you’re one of those who hugs the walls, or doesn’t risk, or prays nothing bad will happen because you may crumble under it….how do you start to step into more confidence? Maybe give us a little coaching here:
5. What are some of the stories of people you’ve coached, some of the transformations you’ve seen?

To find Christina:

christina@christinalecuyer.com

www.christinalecuyer.com

1 on 1 Confidence coaching - You're One Decision Away from the Life of your Dreams.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.”

I share this quote because if you haven’t stopped to consider all the tough stuff you’ve navigated, do. Stop and think about it, and realize that when the tough stuff comes along, you make it through. You’ve done it before, you can do it again. This recognition builds confidence in our resiliency, which helps us live with less fear.

And one more quote: Dale Carnegie said, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get...

Bridle Up Hope

Every once in awhile I run across a story with lots of miracles. Stories, where for some reason, God, the Universe, Fate seems to really be backing up a person or a project. Today we are looking at one of those. We’re going to sit around this technological camp fire and listen to a story about how a young girl passing away from depression created a program that’s backed by miracles.

We’re talking with Nicole Holgreen, the executive director of Bridal Up Hope out of Alpine, Utah, a Rachel Covey Foundation.

Tune into the audio to hear how this foundation that was created after Rachel Covey’s suicide, to support the mental health of girls and women through equine assisted learning - yes - hanging out with horses - how this program finds itself in “ a tidal wave of miracles.”

This is a story of depression and support. It’s a story about the bond between a girl and her horse and it’s a story about hope, healing scars, transformation and miracles in a time when we sorely need them.

Nicole Holgreen is the Executive Director of Bridle Up Hope. She has led an incredible team to expand this organization and its mission to 13 locations worldwide. Nicole oversees the Alpine, Utah Headquarters and the 100 weekly lessons for women and girls here. Nicole is devoted to Bridle Up Hopes's mission to inspire hope, confidence, and resilience through equestrian training and The 7 Habits written by Stephen Covey. Nicole is a Provo, UT. girl and she and her husband Jared have four children and one grandson.

Nicole - Welcome to the LYS Podcast

Join us on the audio program to hear our conversation about:

1. I want stories - when you and I were talking awhile back we filled a couple hours with stories of the miracles that have supported Bridle Up Hope in it’s opening to the world, and even that supported getting you here.
2. Nicole shares her story - Where were you in life when you started crossing paths with Bridle Up Hope?
3. Can I get some specific miracle stories - the ones that stand out to you - that have made Bridal Up Hope possible.
4. Let’s talk about the girls and women that have come here. How many do you serve? Can you share some of your favorite success stories? How have you watched them become empowered?
5. Let’s talk about Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits. What are they and how do they help the girls and women
6. What do you see for the future of Bridle Up Hope?

If someone wants to come to you for service where do they find you OR If someone wants to open a location on their own property - help expand this 1000 barn goal, who do they contact?

Nicole Holgreen

Executive Director of Bridle Up Hope

1141 Watkins Lane

Alpine, UT. 84004

https://www.bridleuphope.org/

Mental health is maybe one of the world’s largest challenges right now. How wonderful that there are highly productive programs that save, that support, that help us navigate this devastating path during this crucial time. This is a story of making a difference, a story of miracles and lives saved.

If you know any women who may be struggling with mental health issues, or if you want to be involved by opening your own Bridal Up Hope non-profit franchise, I hope you’ll share this episode and reach out.

Have a wonderful week, and remember to create your best life with full intention. Listen to back episodes for all the best tools and mind training to help you to create your best story. We’ll