Episode 9 Show Notes

Today’s guest in the studio is Dr. Renea Butler King, a friend, colleague, and fellow sojourner for equitable systems for the families and children she serves. As we settled into routines for school and work, we wanted to focus on support for families in the community. We know the phrase it takes a village to raise a child, but let’s delve deeper into what the village is composed of. It's a community, of committed and dedicated people who are brave to create spaces for connection, vulnerability, and open and honest dialogue.

Today’s Episode Overview:

Introduce the theme of the episode: the importance of family in the community, especially for African American families.

Explain that this episode will explore stories, learnings, and joys that come from being supported and acknowledged within our communities.

PART 1

The Role of Family in the Community

Family as a Foundation:

Discuss how families of color often serve as the bedrock of their communities, providing strength, support, and resilience.

Share stories or examples of how family bonds extend beyond the immediate household and into the larger community.

Cultural and Historical Context:

The historical significance of family in communities of color, drawing on cultural traditions, collective resilience, and the passing down of values.

The role of extended families, chosen families, and community elders in preserving cultural heritage.

Closing Thoughts

Reflection:

The richness of the tapestry of our lives is comprised of the relationships that nurture and grow us.

The power of reflection on who I am as an individual begins my identity formation. Investing in myself.

Storytelling: What do I tell? How do I craft my story

What is the tapestry of my life?

Call to Action:

Begin to share and write out your own story.

Reflect on what it means to be a family in the community.

What is the tapestry of my life?

Seek professional support as you unpack your story.

Show notes for In the Background of Life with Kelly Ramsey Episode 9

Oklahoma Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse

https://oklahoma.gov/odmhsas.html

2200 N. Classen Blvd. Ste 2-600

405.248.9200

People’s Institute for Survival and Beyond

https://pisab.org/

University of Oklahoma-Anne & Henry Zarrow School of Social Work

https://www.ou.edu/cas/socialwork

Iyanla VanZant

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IThxT – Renea L. Butler-King

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Casey Family Programs

https://www.casey.org/contact/

2001 Eight Ave., Ste 2700

Seattle, WA 98121

206.282.7300

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In this episode we talk about Balancing work and Summer trips with the family

Summer Trips with the Family

Discover something new about your kids. What are their favorite things are?

Everyday moments are what matter most.

How are you taping into your children’s interest?

Slow down and enjoy the journey. Make a pit stop on road trips to see the sights and experience new places.

On your journey, keep everyone in mind to include activities that everyone can engage.

What travel tools do you need as you travel? What’s a necessity? What creature comforts do you need?

Plan your rest breaks and pit stops.

Play car games on the road and create your own games. Be sure to keep the memory by capturing it in photos or writing.

Library Experiences from Childhood to Adulthood

What am I reading now?

Life in Five Senses by Gretchen Rubin

All of our experiences in life should engage our hearts and minds.

References mentioned in the podcast

Erin Ramsey https://erinramsey.com/

Big Roots Farm https://bigrootsfarm.com/

Join us for our next podcast where we talk about effective

Routines and Back to School Tips.

Life Connection Activity: Reengage your senses

Make a list of your five senses

On the left hand side of the page, write down one thing you want to engage in.

How do my senses engage in the activity you have chosen?

If you discover, that a sense is not fully engaged start focusing on strengthening that sense with other activity.

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Our Production Team: Possibilities Podcast Team

Executive Producers: Possibilities Podcast Platform

Producers: Bridgette and Santiago

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In this episode we talk about Summer Fun: Memory making through the Years

How do we balance work life and Summer fun? Join us for ideas to engage your family during the Summer months.

Podcast Highlights:

Bringing our childhood experiences of Summer into our family plans.

Engaging activities to keep the family connected

Support your children through all the stages of childhood by engaging them with activities created just for them.

Visit your local libraries

Oklahoma Metropolitan Library System https://www.metrolibrary.org/

Pioneer Library Systems

https://pioneerlibrarysystem.org/get-started/library-cards

Keep learning fun by setting up learning spaces at home.

Create family outings for the whole family to enjoy

Write a list of things you want to do this summer.

Pick a journey to experience and go for it.

Prevent Summer slide by using some resources to keep learning going https://www.scholastic.com/parents/books-and-reading/raise-a-reader-blog/summer-slide.print.html

Kiwi Co. Activities for all ages

https://www.kiwico.com/kiwi

Roadtrips

Cooking with kids

LIFE CONNECTION ACTIVITY

Try three things a week from your list

Post a snapshot on your social media with hashtag #childhood_summerfun

Let's stay connected, follow us on social media:

Website- https://www.developpeople.org/

Clubhouse – In the Background of LIfe

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Twitter: @developpeople

Instagram: @developpeople

Facebook: @developpeopleinc

Our Production Team: Possibilities Podcast Team

Executive Producers: Possibilities Podcast Platform

Producers: Bridgette and Santiago

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Welcome to my podcast, I’m Kelly Ramsey CEO of Developing People, Inc. sharing inspiration about life, parenting, living with intention, and sharing stories about how it all happens in the background of life.

In today’s episode Kelly revisits her journey map and shares lessons learned and the impact of the relationships in her life that support her and celebrate her identity.

Our identity is carefully defined by how we show up in relationships with others. Deciding to show up authentically defines the quality of our relationships.

In relationships, consider who we show up as and how we interact with those we treasure most.

Mutual friendships and relationships yield fruit that remains. At the roots, we nourish one another and provide nutrients to cause us to flourish. This nourishment is what we don’t see in the forefront of our lives but it’s what supports healthy relationship development. A celebration of 25 years of marriage is a vivid picture of how we are rooted in love and care for each other. Our tree is producing a harvest because of the constant care and attention to the soil of our lives through the seasons of life.

Let’s keep nurturing our relationships with one another, and see the benefit of our care and attention to each other.

Today’s Action Steps:

Place a circle around the relationships that you treasure the most. How do you continue to fuel the relationships you circled? Looking at those relationships creates action steps toward the goal you have set for yourself.

References:

For more on Kelly’s story of living through divorce and redefining her life as a wife and mother. You can check it out here: Loving and Living After Tragedy: Stories of Restoration and Renewal by LaTara Bussey https://a.co/d/0MdNLDX

You can learn more about Kelly's expertise here:

https://www.developpeople.org/

You can find all My Favorite Podcast episodes here:

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We have a purpose and are knitted together from the beginning of time in our mothers’ womb. The destiny that unfolds is held in the relationships we embark on from childhood to adulthood. Our understanding of who we are as individuals in the context of our families and community shapes us.

This episode will explore the following topics:

Creating Supportive Relationships

Connecting our Journey of Parenthood to our own childhood

Relationship development

Our identity

In Family and the home

In Community - School, Workplace, and Social settings

Milestones and Celebrations

Cultivating Relationships

Key learnings:

Our identity is connected to our purpose in life.

How we are affected by one another determines how we interact with each other in relationships.

Responsibilities of being in a relationship with one another

Partnership in parenting with our children

Cultivating relationships and actions to affect change.

Action Steps:

Create a map of your life from childhood to adulthood and identify key moments at each stage. What did you notice about yourself in your map? What were traits that were present in the beginning? If there are changes in your identity from the beginning, what are they?

Make a list of all of your relationships that you are in currently, and those relationships that you are serving others in. Examine your list of relationships to notice any patterns in who supports you, and how you support others. Journal your thoughts, and determine how to cultivate those healthy relationships.

Today’s episode shares a few highlights from Ellen Galinsky’s book The Six Stages of Parenthood. Join us for a rich discussion about the imagery of parenthood and the parallel process of child development and the stages of parenthood.

Our topics today will discuss parenting through the stages of your children’s development

,the parenting journey and the first stage of the Six Stages of Parenthood by Ellen Galinsky

Parenting is a journey. Including ourselves in the journey. Raising our children.

We partner with parents as we move through the stages of development with children.

The Image-making stage - What will it be like as a parent?

Natural child-birth process

Adoption

Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

Cultural Influences

Our Story of Parenting

My childhood story

Creating a Legacy

Communities to Support our parenting journey

From an image to a reality

Passing on a servant leadership legacy

Our matriarch: Alester Easter Taylor a legacy of servant leadership

Action Steps:

Look for the things you want to see more of in your parenting journey

What brings me joy today?

The A to Z Parenting Conference was a great success! We are planning our next conference on October 26, 2024 at Rose State College. Join our mailing list, to stay updated and join our Facebook community to stay engaged.

Join our host, Kelly Ramsey as she shares her journey of motherhood and reflects on 17 years of mothering her first born child. Parenting is a journey full of milestones and moments. Have you considered that the milestones include the children's milestones as well as your milestones as a parent.

Here are a few highlights of the Podcast:

Celebrating the milestones of our journey

Moving from one destination to anther, having a vision for what is and what is to come

Vision draws us to the intentions of our journey.

Milestones

Milestones are markers to help us navigate our path and ensure we are on the right path.

Milestone: A significant event or stage in life.

Celebrating how far we’ve come.

Childhood milestones

Parenting milestones

How do you capture milestones in your life? Photos, verbal storytelling,

At the end of each podcast we encourage you to take what you hear into action. Here are your Action Steps for today's podcast:

1. Capture the Milestones

2. Give yourself grace on your journey

3. Be a lifelong learner with your children

Resource Links shared in today's podcast:

Parenting Resources:

Six Stages of Parenthood https://a.co/d/5gFSFjP

The Breakthrough Years - https://ellengalinsky.com/book/the-breakthrough-years/

Mind in the Making - https://www.mindinthemaking.org/

As your children grow and develop we are on the journey as parents as well. The journey encompasses everyday moments and lessons we will use throughout the journey.

Today's episode holds the stories of the background of our lives as parents in our later years. We will be sharing our journey to motherhood, divorce, barreness, miscarriage, parenting in your 40's, and having joy on the journey.

Mothering as a journey that encompasses both the emotional, physical, and spiritual development is the focus for today's episode. Living with intention by using journaling as a tool to. caputre our everyday experiences.

Ideas shared in this episode:

*journaling as reflection

*capturing everyday moments with photography

*enjoying the journey

*Support in community

Links to resources:

A to Z Parenting Conference May 18, 2024

Joyful Parenting

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/a-to-z-parenting-conference-joyful-parenting-tickets-856392241247

Join our A to Z parenting community on Facebook

You can learn more about Developing People, Inc. here:

http://www.developpeople.org

Thanks for listening! We'll be back next month with Part 2 of our series on Motherhood where we talk about celebrating milestones.