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You’re not here to please, you’re here to live. New research from The Female Lead shows that nearly half of women hold back their opinions just to fit in. Even more downplay their achievements to avoid being seen as too much. Sound familiar?

In this weeks episode Mum and I discuss the reasons so many women silence their voices and what it really costs us. You’ll learn why this isn’t just a mindset issue, but a nervous system and trauma pattern. We explore everything from ancestral wiring to the fear of being judged, plus how to rewire these patterns through affirmations, journaling and daily voice expression. If you’ve ever softened your truth, shrunk your power or worried you were too much, this episode is for you!

• 00:00 Introduction: Surprising Statistics on Women's Opinions
• 01:22 The Evolutionary Roots of Women's Behaviour
• 02:43 The Confidence Gap in Business
• 04:39 The Cost of Staying Quiet
• 12:17 Tools and Techniques to Speak Up
• 21:02 Conclusion: Embrace Your Voice

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• Challenge: Try the “don’t soften your truth” challenge and message us with what happened, we’ll read some on a future episode!

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Mum and I are joined by Gillian Palmer, founder of the Finance Hub (and Mum's good friend!) who shares her journey from a divorced, broke single mum to running million‑pound deals and launching her award‑winning finance company. Becoming a business owner multiple times over with no formal education, Gillian proves what’s possible when you bet on yourself. This episode is particularly empowering for women who feel it's too late or that they're not enough. Gillian emphasises the importance of facing fears, embracing change and continuously striving for personal and professional growth.

• 00:00 Introduction: Overcoming Life's Challenges
• 00:34 Gillian's Early Life and Career Beginnings
• 03:56 Building and Losing a Business
• 06:24 Transition to Finance and Personal Struggles
• 08:59 Breaking Barriers in Sales
• 12:14 Family Dynamics and Personal Growth
• 16:55 Navigating New Ventures and Setbacks
• 23:21 Breaking Financial Taboos
• 24:32 The Big Cat Sanctuary Experience
• 26:26 Personal and Professional Challenges
• 28:38 The Importance of Family Support
• 35:16 Business Evolution and Tough Decisions
• 38:38 Looking Ahead: Future Plans and Reflections
• 41:20 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways

Gillian Palmer has over 25 years of experience building, growing and selling businesses, understanding what it takes to turn ambition into action. She founded The Finance Hub and runs Lending Made Simple to help business owners access clear, honest advice and the right funding, without the jargon or the hard sell. She's all about straightforward, flexible solutions that work in the real world. People often recognise Gillian by her signature red and her personal approach. She loves building real relationships and being someone clients can count on. Outside of work, She's usually out walking Suzie (her equally red-spirited dog), catching up with friends over brunch, or wandering through Kew Gardens with her son Harvey, a horticulturist with a passion for the tropical and architectural. In 2023, she celebrated turning 50 by running two half marathons for West Kent Mind - that same energy drives everything she does.

📣Connect with Gillian:

• Website: https://thefinancehub.money/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gillian-palmer-613a051b/
• Email: gillian@thefinancehub.money

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In our latests episode Mum and I discuss life's unexpected turns and how setbacks can lead to new, rewarding directions. Through personal anecdotes, including job losses and significant life changes, we explore the concept of the 'yellow door' – opportunities that arise when least expected. We emphasise the idea that what seems like a failure could be a necessary redirection, leading to greater opportunities and personal growth. We invite you to reflect on your own 'red doors' and consider new possibilities that might come from your current challenges.

• 00:00 Introduction and Welcome
• 00:02 Reflecting on Past Failures
• 00:39 A Difficult Anniversary
• 01:30 A Day at Drift Beach Club
• 02:12 The Concept of the Yellow Door
• 05:02 Personal Setbacks and Redirections
• 12:22 The Power of Hypnotherapy
• 17:49 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

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• Ask yourself: What 20-degree pivot could reveal a “yellow door” you hadn’t noticed?

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Ever gone blank in a meeting, felt your throat tighten during a presentation or avoided saying what you really wanted to? You're not alone, and it's rarely just about “public speaking.”

In this powerful conversation, speaking mentor Chris Murphy unpacks what’s really happening when fear takes over and why most advice doesn’t get to the root of it.

We explore:

• Why “finding your voice” is less about technique and more about belief.
• The invisible narratives that sabotage your confidence.
• What really helps people shift, and it’s not fake-it-till-you-make-it.
• Why the audience’s opinion feels so personal (and how to stop letting it control you).
• How Chris overcame his own fear of being seen and learned to speak with presence

This re-release is for anyone who’s tired of holding back. If you've ever felt like your voice didn’t matter, let this be your reminder that it absolutely does.

• 00:00 Introduction and Episode Re-release Announcement
• 00:12 Meet Chris Murphy: Speaking Mentor with Depth
• 00:57 The Power of Belief in Finding Your Voice
• 01:50 Overcoming Fear in Public Speaking
• 03:28 Real-life Examples and Group Dynamics
• 05:15 Chris Murphy's Journey to Becoming a Speaking Mentor
• 07:53 Understanding and Addressing Core Beliefs
• 09:04 Presence in Action: A Transformative Approach
• 12:39 The Skill and Art of Speaking
• 17:44 The Role of Adversity and Personal Growth
• 27:22 Key Takeaways and Homework
• 28:02 Closing Remarks and Call to Action

Chris Murphy trained as a Chartered Physiotherapist in London and during that time discovered a dislike for 'public' speaking. With a mixture of sweat, shaking hands and a full body blush, he decided to make a change. Things progressed so much that in May 2020 he was a double Toastmasters UK public speaking champion.

📣Connect with Chris:

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thespeakingmentor/
• Website: www.thespeakingmentor.co.uk
• Email: chris@thespeakingmentor.co.uk

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Is hypnosis mind control? Can everyone be hypnotised? Will I lose control in a session?

This week, we're doing something special. I turn the mic on my co-host and mummma, Dolina Hendry, a certified clinical hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, to answer all the questions you’ve ever had about hypnotherapy. This is your honest, myth-busting guide to how hypnosis works, who it’s for and why it’s one of the most powerful tools for trauma healing, subconscious reprogramming and long-term change. Whether you're hypno-curious or ready to dive deeper, this one will shift how you think about the power of your own mind. Delve into the differences between clinical hypnotherapy and stage hypnosis and understand the safety, legitimacy, and effectiveness of hypnotherapy. Learn how it can help you overcome feelings of being stuck, overwhelmed or blocked by fear. The episode finishes with a guided light hypnotic trance and visualisation exercise.

• 00:00 Introduction to Hypnotherapy
• 02:00 Common Misconceptions About Hypnotherapy
• 04:28 Personal Experiences with Hypnosis
• 07:18 Understanding Hypnotherapy
• 11:06 Hypnotherapy in Medical Practice
• 14:01 Ensuring Safety in Hypnotherapy
• 17:04 Hypnotherapy for Feeling Stuck
• 18:25 Exploring Hypnotherapy Methods
• 20:09 Choosing the Right Hypnotherapist
• 21:23 Misconceptions and Strange Experiences
• 25:13 A Guided Relaxation Exercise
• 36:58 Empowerment Through Visualization
• 43:33 Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts

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• Ask yourself: What would I be doing differently if I fully believed I was enough?

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In our latest episode we have an inspiring conversation with Gemma James, the Muse Yourself podcast host who shares her journey of healing and self-discovery after experiencing tremendous personal loss. From traveling solo to pursuing entrepreneurial dreams, Gemma emphasises the power of sharing your voice, storytelling and the importance of redefining what's possible. We chat about various healing techniques, the impact of influential figures and her podcast 'Muse Yourself,' which amplifies female voices and stories of reinvention. Gemma's story is a testament to resilience, the transformative power of travel and the significance of rewriting your own narrative.

• 00:00 Introduction and Background
• 00:37 Guest Excitement and Initial Interaction
• 01:03 Coaching Experience and Group Dynamics
• 02:20 Mother-Daughter Podcasting Duo
• 03:12 Travel and Healing Journey
• 06:29 Life-Changing Decision in New York
• 09:25 Overcoming Personal Tragedy
• 14:30 Reinventing Life and Embracing Change
• 16:49 Creating a Platform for Women's Voices
• 20:37 Tools and Techniques for Healing
• 21:58 The Therapeutic Power of Podcasting
• 22:31 Exploring the Mind-Body Connection
• 23:10 Personal Stories of Grief and Healing
• 24:12 Challenges with Traditional Therapy
• 25:43 Discovering Somatic Therapy
• 26:57 The Benefits of Laughter Yoga
• 28:16 Incorporating Music and Dance into Healing
• 30:20 The Role of Hypnotherapy in Trauma Recovery
• 32:31 Influences and Inspirations
• 38:14 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Whether you’re rebuilding after a setback, feeling stuck in your next steps or learning to trust yourself again, this episode will remind you: you already know.

Gemma James is the creator and host of the Muse Yourself podcast, a global platform for women ready to rewrite their stories and reclaim their power. A self-proclaimed reinvention queen, storyteller and eternal traveler, Gemma's gift is being able to alchemize life’s hardest moments into meaning and use them as fuel to build something extraordinary. Her mission is to inspire women to liberate themselves from their past, stop holding themselves back and boldly step into the lives they were born to create.

📣Connect with Gemma:

• Find the Muse Yourself podcast on APPLE PODCASTS or SPOTIFY
• Join the exclusive Muse Yourself Substack community HERE
• Follow the show on Instagram HERE

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In our latest episode, Mum and I explore what’s really holding women back - not laziness, not lack of ambition, but subconscious beliefs around safety, worthiness and identity. Through the lens of personal stories, generational conditioning and hypnotherapy insights, this conversation is a must-listen for any woman ready to shed self-doubt and step fully into who she really is.

We discuss the journey of recognising the gap between who you are and who you are meant to be, addressing childhood limiting beliefs and the importance of reframing self-doubt to self-trust.

🎧 Listen, reflect and reclaim your power, no matter what you’ve been through.

• 00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections
• 00:18 Empowering the Reignmaker Woman
• 00:56 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Fear
• 02:28 The Journey of Self-Healing
• 03:25 The Power of Hypnotherapy
• 03:51 Breaking Free from Old Patterns
• 07:36 Transforming Self-Doubt into Self-Trust
• 11:05 The Importance of Self-Belief
• 20:39 Living by Unchosen Rules
• 22:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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• Write a letter to the version of you who learned to play small. Let her know she’s safe now.
• Ask yourself: Whose rules am I still living by?

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In this powerful re-release, I (Abi) open up about the sudden loss of my late partner Matt and the journey of healing, PTSD and transformation that followed. 7 years on, this episode remains a raw and resonant reminder that life doesn’t end with loss, and that your future self is still waiting.

Key Topics:

• Navigating sudden grief & trauma
• PTSD, panic and physical symptoms
• The healing power of support, self-reflection and change
• Moving countries, rediscovering purpose, and love after loss
• A message for anyone feeling stuck in the pain

🎧 Listen in and remember: Healing is not about forgetting.

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