• The Possibility For Healing
    Jul 17 2024

    This week’s session highlights a conversation with Freddie after making his first attempts to contact his estranged son. Although his son was not interested in speaking with him Freddie shares what he learned from his efforts. He plans to continue trying and believes that being persistent will eventually lead to a stronger relationship. Elliott shares his perspective and emphasizes the importance of allowing someone to apologize and heal. He encourages Freddie's son to listen to his father's attempts at reconciliation and consider the possibility of healing and growth in their relationship.

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    To participate, send a DM to @BlackEffect to confirm your spot. Don’t miss this chance to experience therapy in a new way!

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    55 mins
  • Creating a Shared Vision for the Future
    Jul 10 2024

    Today's episode begins with thoughts on the importance of mental health in BIPOC communities and how the current political climate affects mental health. The fear and anxiety caused by political changes and the rollback of rights are highlighted. The conversation then transitions to a therapy session with Jay and David, where they discuss the future of their relationship. They explore topics such as their shared vision, co-parenting, and the possibility of marriage. The importance of being mission-driven and having clear goals is emphasized.

    Jay and David explore the idea of marriage and how it would change their dynamic. Jay expresses her desire for David to show her that he is serious about their future together, while David acknowledges the need for behavior changes and stability.

    The episode ends with Elliott expounding on how solution-brief therapy affects brain chemistry and the importance of recognizing patterns and making intentional changes.

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    Celebrate BIPOC Mental Health Awareness Month with us! On Wednesday, July 17th, Elliott Connie will host a special live event on The Black Effect’s Instagram, featuring guided conversations on mental health within BIPOC communities.

    To participate, send a DM to @BlackEffect to confirm your spot. Don’t miss this chance to experience therapy in a new way!

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    1 hr and 12 mins
  • Seeing The Evidence Of Positivity
    Jul 3 2024

    In this conversation, the principal themes discussed are the importance of finding a therapist who understands one's cultural background, the dynamics of gender roles in relationships, the need for self-care and self-love, the role of trust in therapy, and overcoming obstacles and achieving goals.

    Elliott and Jay discuss the importance of giving oneself grace and focusing on one's accomplishments rather than flaws. They explore the impact of negative thoughts and the need to shift focus to positive aspects of life. They also emphasize the importance of setting boundaries to protect one's energy and mental health.

    The episode concludes with a question for listeners to reflect on their achievements and traits that have led to their success. Giving power to the positive evidence available to counter doubt or negative thinking.

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    1 hr and 1 min
  • The Journey of Forgiveness
    Jun 26 2024

    This episode explores the importance of men expressing their emotions and the need for safe spaces to do so. It also delves into the four different styles of attachment and how they impact adult relationships.

    This week’s session highlights a heartfelt discussion with Jay and Freddie that includes the impact of drug addiction and the importance of grace and accountability. It’s a beautiful conversation of forgiveness, understanding, and learning new things about one another.

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    1 hr and 6 mins
  • Time Does NOT Heal All Wounds
    Jun 19 2024

    The conversation highlights each family member and the importance of prioritizing discomfort and making decisions aligning with the person one wants to be. It emphasizes the need for self-reflection and distinguishing between self-reflection and judgment. We also explore the importance of visualization and focusing on future goals to direct the ideal outcome for our lives.

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    40 mins
  • Restoring Self Worth After Trauma and Addiction
    Jun 12 2024

    In this episode, we will be focusing on Jay and Freddie and the challenges they have ahead.

    Freddie opens up about his past addictions and the fear of reconnecting with his nine children.

    While Jay is learning how her childhood has affected her positive outlook on life and her self-value.

    Jay discusses her current state of well-being, describing it as neutral. She struggles to recognize and embrace positive experiences, often perceiving them as neutral. Elliott challenges her to shift her perspective and notice the positive changes in her life. They discuss the importance of focusing on the good and choosing to be excited about positive experiences. Jay reflects on her role as a mother and the pride she feels for her children. Elliott encourages her to extend the same focus on the good to herself and others in her life. They explore the impact of shifting perspectives and choosing to focus on the positive.

    Freddie reflects on his contentment in life and the challenges he faces in maintaining relationships with his children. He explores ways to show love and care to his kids through little gestures and spending quality time with them. Fredrick shares his personal journey of transformation and overcoming addiction. Elliott encourages Fredrick to take accountability and make amends, emphasizing the need for persistence and consistency. They conclude by discussing the healing process and the potential for personal growth.

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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • Family Therapy: Life is What You Notice
    Jun 8 2024

    The Black Effect Presents... Family Therapy!

    In this episode Jay and David have separate sessions that both revolve around the theme of personal growth and self-improvement. They also explore the concept of rediscovering one's true self and finding happiness and fulfillment in life.

    The conversation is divided into two main chapters: 'Jay's Journey to Personal Growth and Being Present' and 'David's Desire for Consistency and Understanding How to Live with Grief.'

    During Jay and Elliott’s session, Jay expresses her desire for change and a clear strategy to move forward in her life. We learn more about the separation from her partner David and the importance of being happy and the difference it would make despite all and current circumstances. Elliott encourages Jaylin to take small steps towards change and to pay attention to the clues that she is moving closer to being her true self

    The conversation with David highlights the need to overcome obstacles and maintain a mindset of resilience. Elliott and David discuss the power of remembering and honoring their loved ones who have passed away, and how it can inspire them to be their best selves. Elliott asks David what would be different if he were to acknowledge his ascended loved ones and realize the opportunity remains to make them proud.

    During both of these sessions and moving forward, Elliott will challenge the family members weekly to inspire them to start living as the best version of themselves irregardless of life’s perpetual challenges.

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    59 mins
  • Mastering Inner Peace
    Jun 5 2024

    In this episode, Jay and David have separate sessions that both revolve around the theme of pivoting and the power of seeing opportunity within unexpected changes.

    The conversation is divided into two main chapters: Mastering Peace and Joy and Seeing the Opportunity.

    In this session with Jay, she discusses her experiences and emotions related to her partner moving out and potentially returning. She initially felt relief and empowerment when her partner left, but the situation changed when he lost his job. Jay expresses her desire to focus on herself and be at peace, but she struggles with the decision of whether to let her partner come back. The conversation explores the idea of being independent of one's environment and finding inner peace regardless of external circumstances. Jay also discusses her belief in a supreme being and the influence of her upbringing on her perspective. Elliott and Jay also explore the power of reminding oneself of God's presence and plan and the impact it has on reducing stress. The conversation delves into the poem Footprints and its significance in finding solace. Jay reflects on moments of peace and joy in her life, including childhood memories and experiences in Puerto Rico. They discuss the importance of taking care of oneself and how it can lead to empowerment and a sense of inner peace and joy.

    David discusses his recent job loss, his current situation, and his plans for the future. He shares his approach to staying positive and productive, as well as his focus on self-improvement and relationship dynamics. David discusses the changes he's making in his life to repair his relationship with Jay, emphasizing the importance of consistency and taking action. He shares his triggers for change and his commitment to maintaining a new routine. The conversation delves into his past experiences with making significant lifestyle changes and the impact of these changes on his relationship with Jay.

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    1 hr and 9 mins