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  • 94: Disorganized Attachment In Dating And Relationships With Thais Gibson

    94: Disorganized Attachment In Dating And Relationships With Thais Gibson
    Aug 30 2024
    Sitting down with Sabrina today is Thais Gibson, co-founder of The Personal Development School, which focuses on attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant (or disorganized). She and Sabrina talk about the different attachment styles to lay the groundwork for this conversation. Secure attachment develops when a caregiver is attuned, leading to fulfilling relationships. Anxious attachment often arises when parents are loving but absent, leading to fear of abandonment. Dismissive avoidants experience emotional neglect and struggle with feeling trapped. Fearful avoidants grow up in chaotic environments, resulting in conflicting desires for love and connection while fearing them. Thais shares her experience with disorganized attachment, where strong feelings of love triggered fear, causing her to shut down and push people away. Sabrina and Thais emphasize the importance of understanding attachment styles, showing empathy for internal struggles, and maintaining clear, kind communication. In relationships, anxious and avoidant types can work together if both are willing to grow and communicate effectively. Healing disorganized attachment involves reprogramming core wounds, understanding personal needs, and learning self-regulation and healthy boundaries. The journey is challenging but transformative.

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    53 mins
  • 93: Taking Things Personally

    93: Taking Things Personally
    Aug 23 2024
    In today’s solo episode, Sabrina dives into why people take things personally and how to stop doing so. She shares a personal story about being ghosted and the person later reaching out to apologize to emphasize that a lot of the time, it’s about the other person and not you. Sabrina talks about how taking things personally often stems from assuming something about the other person, which can trigger core wounds and childhood experiences where you might have blamed yourself. This reaction can serve as a way to either shift blame or control the narrative, but it ultimately hinders your growth. To overcome this, she advises slowing down, being curious, and practicing self-awareness to better understand your own emotions. Understanding your attachment style and cognitive biases can also help, as they influence how you interpret others' actions and events. Sabrina highlights the role of the amygdala in emotional responses and how social rejection can feel like physical pain due to its evolutionary roots. Ultimately, she encourages listeners to focus on their self-worth, establish healthy boundaries, and not let others dictate their value, reminding them that self-worth comes from within, not from external validation.

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    44 mins
  • 92: What It Actually Means To Be In A Secure Relationship With Julie Menanno

    92: What It Actually Means To Be In A Secure Relationship With Julie Menanno
    Aug 16 2024
    Julie Menanno is on the show today, sitting down with Sabrina to talk about the interplay of attachment and relationships. Julie emphasizes that healthy relationships aren't about accommodating each other's insecurities or avoiding triggers but about engaging in mutual growth and healing. She and Sabrina challenge the narrative that one must lower their expectations or avoid partners who trigger them. Instead, they advocate for using those triggers as opportunities for personal and relational growth. A crucial part of building a secure relationship involves self-work—being emotionally balanced, recognizing and regulating your own emotions, and being able to reach out for support when it’s needed. Julie highlights the importance of feeling seen and heard in a relationship, as well as the need for both partners to be committed to growth and co-regulation during conflicts. Drawing from her own experience, she shares how communication, expressing needs, and working through challenges together have been key to maintaining a strong relationship. Today’s conversation underscores that a secure relationship, while more comfortable, requires ongoing effort, self-awareness, and the ability to repair and grow together, especially in the face of life's inevitable stresses and traumas.

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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • 91: Rejection, Abandonment, And The Origin Wound With Vienna Pharaon

    91: Rejection, Abandonment, And The Origin Wound With Vienna Pharaon
    Aug 13 2024
    On this week’s episode, Sabrina chats with Vienna Pharaon, a licensed family and marital therapist. They delve into the concept of origin wounds and explore how childhood experiences shape our lives and influence our relationships. Vienna talks about how unresolved pain often manifests as patterns in our daily lives, and urges us not to get stuck in the past but to acknowledge and understand it. Origin wounds can stem from issues of worthiness, trust, belonging, prioritization, and safety, and recognizing these can help us heal. Sabrina and Vienna highlight the importance of examining the roles of our caregivers in our upbringing, noting that even those who were less involved can cause significant pain. Healing involves grieving and witnessing these wounds, allowing us to make different choices. Understanding how our childhood affects our present relationships, particularly how fear of abandonment and rejection play into these core wounds, is crucial. Vienna advises against comparing our pain to others, affirming that even without major trauma, our wounds are valid and deserve attention. She and Sabrina also discuss how these wounds impact our self-worth and the way we relate to others, suggesting that by addressing and understanding our behaviors and patterns, we can break destructive cycles and build healthier relationships.

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    58 mins
  • 90: How To Heal After A Toxic Relationship And How To Find Yourself With Ginger Dean

    90: How To Heal After A Toxic Relationship And How To Find Yourself With Ginger Dean
    Aug 9 2024
    Ginger Dean joins Sabrina to discuss toxic relationships, healing, and personal growth. Ginger, who experienced an abusive marriage, emphasizes the importance of understanding one’s role in recurring unhealthy relationships to reclaim power and avoid rationalizing red flags. Healing involves recognizing and changing dysfunctional behaviors learned in childhood which is crucial for addressing specific issues. Emotional awareness and open communication are fundamental, as is setting boundaries and asking questions early in a relationship to ensure compatibility. They highlight the necessity of self-validation, maintaining a fulfilling life outside of dating, and rebuilding self-trust. Recognizing when to leave unhealthy relationships is essential for achieving genuine happiness and health. Ginger and Sabrina stress that personal growth involves making decisions aligned with one's values and being willing to walk away from bad behavior. They caution against the need for external validation, especially from random strangers on the internet, and encourage a focus on self-compassion and understanding one's history to break the cycle of dysfunction. Ultimately, trusting oneself and making informed, self-honoring decisions are key to thriving after toxic relationships.

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    1 hr and 3 mins
  • 89: Why You Overthink And How To Stop

    89: Why You Overthink And How To Stop
    Aug 2 2024
    Sabrina shares her journey with overthinking, explaining that it often arises from the brain's attempt to protect us through fear and coping mechanisms learned in childhood. This process involves the amygdala's fear response, which can shut down the prefrontal cortex, causing further overthinking and misinterpreting neutral signals as negative in dating, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy of rejection. To combat overthinking, Sabrina suggests identifying triggers and recognizing patterns, practicing mindfulness, engaging in brain-stimulating activities, and using cognitive behavioral therapy to reframe negative thoughts. She emphasizes validating feelings while learning to trust oneself, noting the difference between overthinking and intuition. Overthinking can cause analysis paralysis, fear of rejection, negative self-talk, unrealistic expectations, and inhibition of spontaneity, eroding self-confidence and preventing authentic interactions. By addressing root causes, fostering self-compassion, and being curious about triggers, individuals can manage overthinking, enjoy relationships, and show up more fully in their lives without constant fear of negative outcomes.

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    48 mins
  • 88: The Spark, Closure, and Debunking Dating Myths With Britt Frank

    88: The Spark, Closure, and Debunking Dating Myths With Britt Frank
    Jul 26 2024
    In a discussion debunking dating myths, neuropsychotherapist Britt Frank and host Sabrina explore how the brain is involved with these false ideas. They challenge the myth that knowing why someone behaves a certain way will fix a relationship, emphasizing the importance of personal emotional responses over external explanations. They also address the misconception that triggers are others' responsibilities, suggesting that personal reactions need self-examination. The idea that being single will solve problems is debunked, encouraging curiosity about triggers instead. The duo highlights that texting doesn’t necessarily indicate relationship intentions, stressing the need for contextual understanding and balanced brain chemistry in early dating stages. Finally, they discuss that people don’t change for others unless it aligns with their core values, and adults can't truly be abandoned but can be left, advocating for personal agency in relationships.

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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • 87: Performance Anxiety and Navigating Mental Health With Victoria Garrick Browne

    87: Performance Anxiety and Navigating Mental Health With Victoria Garrick Browne
    Jul 19 2024
    Join Sabrina as she delves into a powerful conversation with Victoria Garrick Browne, a former college athlete turned mental health advocate and podcast host. Victoria shares her journey of struggling with mental health during her athletic career, including how she initially ignored her feelings and gaslit herself to push through. It wasn't until a teammate encouraged her to seek counseling that she began to understand and address her depression. They discuss the importance of authenticity and the challenges of maintaining mental health, emphasizing that it is a continuous effort. Sabrina and Victoria talk about how they have learned to navigate touchy or triggering topics with their partners in a way that leads to supportive conversations. Diving into practicality, Victoria shares advice for improving mental health that she found helpful. This includes establishing healthy boundaries and routines. Both Sabrina and Victoria highlight the significance of understanding and supporting your partner, and taking the time to help them support you.

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    1 hr