The Perfection Trap
The Power of Good Enough in a World That Always Wants More
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Thomas Curran
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When did 'good enough' become the same as 'perfect'? Why does society increasingly promote ideals that are completely unrealistic? And what does it mean for all of us that perfectionism is on the rise?
In The Perfection Trap, you'll discover what's really driving the rise in perfectionism, its impact on how we learn, work, parent and relate to ourselves and each other. From the personal to the impact on the economy, grounded in over a decade of research and filled with real stories, this timely book reveals how our quest for perfection impacts our health and mental well-being and promises practical techniques and policy proposals to help us break free of the perfection trap.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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In Do Nothing, award-winning journalist Celeste Headlee illuminates a new path ahead, seeking to institute a global shift in our thinking so we can stop sabotaging our well-being, put work aside, and start living instead of doing. As it turns out, we’re searching for external solutions to an internal problem. We won’t find what we’re searching for in punishing diets, productivity apps, or the latest self-improvement schemes. Yet all is not lost - we just need to learn how to take time for ourselves, without agenda or profit, and redefine what is truly worthwhile.
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1 out of 5 stars
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I almost never leave reviews
- By keli wolfe on 03-03-22
By: Celeste Headlee
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Excellent Sheep
- The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful Life
- By: William Deresiewicz
- Narrated by: Mel Foster
- Length: 8 hrs and 34 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 464
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Excellent Sheep takes a sharp look at the high-pressure conveyor belt that begins with parents and counselors who demand perfect grades and culminates in the skewed applications Deresiewicz saw firsthand as a member of Yale's admissions committee. As schools shift focus from the humanities to "practical" subjects like economics and computer science, students are losing the ability to think in innovative ways.
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2 out of 5 stars
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skip the book read the essay
- By Amazon Customer on 05-07-15
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Wanting
- The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life
- By: Luke Burgis
- Narrated by: Luke Burgis, Sean Patrick Hopkins
- Length: 8 hrs and 54 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 818
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Gravity affects every aspect of our physical being, but there’s a psychological force just as powerful - yet almost nobody has heard of it. It’s responsible for bringing groups of people together and pulling them apart, making certain goals attractive to some and not to others, and fueling cycles of anxiety and conflict. In Wanting, Luke Burgis draws on the work of French polymath René Girard to bring this hidden force to light and reveals how it shapes our lives and societies.
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5 out of 5 stars
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One of the most important books you'll ever read
- By chris boutte on 06-14-21
By: Luke Burgis
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The Power of Bad
- How the Negativity Effect Rules Us and How We Can Rule It
- By: John Tierney, Roy F. Baumeister
- Narrated by: Paul Bellantoni
- Length: 8 hrs and 9 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 342
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Performance5 out of 5 stars 281
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Why are we devastated by a word of criticism even when it’s mixed with lavish praise? Because our brains are wired to focus on the bad. This negativity effect explains things great and small: why countries blunder into disastrous wars, why couples divorce, why people flub job interviews, how schools fail students, why football coaches stupidly punt on fourth down. All day long, the power of bad governs people’s moods, drives marketing campaigns, and dominates news and politics.
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5 out of 5 stars
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Another outstanding social psychology book!
- By Wayne on 01-06-20
By: John Tierney, and others
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Ready or Not
- Preparing Our Kids to Thrive in an Uncertain and Rapidly Changing World
- By: Madeline Levine
- Narrated by: Abby Craden
- Length: 7 hrs and 24 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 28
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Ready or Not explores how today’s parenting techniques and our myopic educational system are failing to prepare children for their certain-to-be-uncertain future - and how we can reverse course to ensure their lasting adaptability, resilience, health, and happiness.
By: Madeline Levine
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The Practice of Groundedness
- A Transformative Path to Success That Feeds - Not Crushes - Your Soul
- By: Brad Stulberg
- Narrated by: Will Damron
- Length: 7 hrs and 3 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 602
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Achievement often comes at a cost. Angst, restlessness, frayed relationships, exhaustion, and even substance abuse can be the unwanted side effects of an obsession with outward performance. While the high of occasional wins can keep you going for a while, playing into the always-on, never enough hustle culture ultimately takes a serious toll.
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4 out of 5 stars
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Not for everyone
- By Carlos Rangel on 12-30-21
By: Brad Stulberg
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Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety
- Raising Happy, Healthy Humans Ages 8 to 24
- By: Dr. John Duffy
- Narrated by: Anne Cross
- Length: 7 hrs and 48 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 413
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No parent experienced their teen years the way that children do today. This guide provides strategies and tips for actively learning the world of our children.
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5 out of 5 stars
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Every parent should read this!!
- By Kitty Kitty on 10-20-19
By: Dr. John Duffy
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The Upside of Your Dark Side
- Why Being Your Whole Self - Not Just Your "Good" Self - Drives Success and Fulfillment
- By: Todd Kashdan, Robert Biswas-Diener
- Narrated by: Jeff Cummings
- Length: 8 hrs
- Unabridged
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Overall4 out of 5 stars 790
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Performance4.5 out of 5 stars 692
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In The Upside of Your Dark Side, two pioneering researchers in the field of psychology show that while mindfulness, kindness, and positivity can take us far, they cannot take us all the way. Sometimes, they can even hold us back. Emotions like anger, anxiety, or doubt might be uncomfortable, but it turns out that they are also incredibly useful.
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1 out of 5 stars
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Boring and learned nothing
- By Taryn on 07-25-16
By: Todd Kashdan, and others
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Billionaire Wilderness
- The Ultra-Wealthy and the Remaking of the American West
- By: Justin Farrell
- Narrated by: John Chancer
- Length: 12 hrs and 26 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4 out of 5 stars 134
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Performance4 out of 5 stars 106
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Billionaire Wilderness takes you inside the exclusive world of the ultra-wealthy, showing how today's richest people are using the natural environment to solve the existential dilemmas they face. Justin Farrell spent five years in Teton County, Wyoming, the richest county in the United States and a community where income inequality is the worst in the nation. He conducted hundreds of in-depth interviews, gaining unprecedented access to tech CEOs, Wall Street financiers, oil magnates, and other prominent figures in business and politics.
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5 out of 5 stars
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Incredible! An accurate, insightful look at Teton County, Wyoming and the very wealthy in America. Scathing!
- By James D Woods on 03-11-20
By: Justin Farrell
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The Dolphin Way
- A Parent's Guide to Raising Healthy, Happy, and Motivated Kids - without Turning into a Tiger
- By: Shimi Kang
- Narrated by: Karen Saltus
- Length: 9 hrs and 26 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 31
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Performance4.5 out of 5 stars 25
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The Dolphin Way walks readers through Dr. Kang’s four-part method for cultivating self-motivation. The audiobook makes a powerful case that we are not forced to choose between being permissive or controlling. The third option—the option that will prepare our kids for success in a future that will require adaptability - is the dolphin way.
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5 out of 5 stars
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Very easy way to understand complicated subject
- By Nhat on 11-05-18
By: Shimi Kang
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Willful Blindness
- Why We Ignore the Obvious at Our Peril
- By: Margaret Heffernan
- Narrated by: Margaret Heffernan
- Length: 11 hrs and 2 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall4.5 out of 5 stars 346
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Performance4.5 out of 5 stars 274
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Margaret Heffernan argues that the biggest threats and dangers we face are the ones we don't see - not because they're secret or invisible, but because we're willfully blind. A distinguished businesswoman and writer, she examines the phenomenon and traces its imprint in our private and working lives, and within governments and organizations, and asks: What makes us prefer ignorance? What are we so afraid of? Why do some people see more than others? And how can we change?
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4 out of 5 stars
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How Not to Be the Blind Leading the Blind
- By Cynthia on 06-29-13
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- Lorenzo Coopman
- 10-14-23
Humaine and intelligent
This is really a gem. The author combines his insights and experiences and combines it to a very interesting critique about our Western material culture. I don't share all his opinions ( especially about young people.) but at least you have the feeling he would listen to your arguments. God, how nice it is to read/listen a book from one who isn't sitting in an ivory tower.
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- Torben Sauer
- 12-11-23
Waste of money and time
The first part of the book started well, setting the scene about performance management and expectation management. Sadly, the book became a rant about the education system and capitalism.
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