The Narcissist Borderline Relationship Dynamic: Why Men with NPD and Women with BPD Attract Each Other

Transcend Mediocrity, Book 16

By: J.B. Snow

Narrated by: D Gaunt

Length: 19 mins

Publisher's summary

Excerpt:

"You might wonder what makes me qualified to write about these topics. I will share with you that I have first-hand life experience in all of the topics that I write about. Unlike a mental health professional, I have lived and breathed many of the difficulties that you are going through now. I have largely overcome childhood trauma, persevered, and found the peaceful place that I am in today. I have researched the topics that I write about for nearly three decades. I can provide a good amount of wisdom to you, so you don't have to search high and low for all of the answers. Let's dig in.

Ever since the DSM scale to differentiate personality disordered individuals was created, there have likely been relationships between men and women who have narcissistic personality-disordered and borderline personality-disordered personalities. It might seem that this dynamic duo shouldn't last, or shouldn't get together at all, but there is a lot of evidence that these relationships can and do work for a number of couples, who are quite happy in their unions.

The reasons this duo initially comes together can be quite interesting."

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Dynamics

I was hoping to hear some kind of reference to a skills book or tools the couple could use.
I am desperate to see my marriage work. But trying to get a narcissist to see they are a narcissist is my hurdle.

Short

I was hoping for a longer book. I didn't look at how many pages when I purchased it so I am the one at blame. overall I learned some things. I did like the narratives voice. Didn't sound to much like a robot 😊

An Interesting Take on NPD and BPD

THE NARCISSIST BORDERLINE RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC

Author: J.B. Snow

Type of Book: Audiobook - Unabridged

Narrator: D. Gaunt

Length: 19 minutes

Genre: Non-Fiction, Self-Help, Psychology

Release Date: July 2, 2015

Publisher: J.B. Snow Publishing

Rating: 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐

* I received a free copy of this audiobook in exchange for an honest review.

Definitions:

BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder

NPD - Narcissist Personality Disorder

This audiobook delves into the phenomenon of "Borderline Personality Disordered women and the Narcissistic Personality Disordered men who date or marry them."

What causes BPD?

"The female likely lived in an emotionally invalidating environment. She was born with a sensitive temperament and subsequently grew up in an environment where her parent was largely self-absorbed."

If a child grows up feeling that their needs are not important, it can result in the child having BPD.

What causes NPD?

If a child grows up feeling that he is the center of his/her parent's world and can do no wrong, and is put on a pedestal by his/her parents, this type of childhood trauma may result in NPD.

According to the author, she "...has first hand life experience in all of the topics that [she writes] about." She says that "... unlike a mental health professional, [she has] lived and breathed many of the difficulties that [sufferers of these disorders] are going through now. [She has] largely overcome childhood traumas. Persevered and found the peaceful place that [she] is in today." She has researched these topics for thirty years.

This audiobook is similar to another audiobook I listened to in the same genre. According to author J.B. Snow, every problem men and women have can be traced back to their childhood and how they were treated by their parents.

While I do believe that a traumatic childhood will obviously adversely affect a person's life, I also believe that some people use their upbringing as an excuse for their own poor behavior when they did not have especially difficult childhoods. I guess I am a bit of a cynic. I think people need to "man up" and take responsibility for their own behavior.

However audiobooks like this one do offer some great advice on relationships. I just don't think that advice is limited specifically to people with NPD and/or BPD. For example, the author states that when couples are dealing with their in-laws, they need to be on the same page and present a united front. This applies to every marriage.

The narrator, D. Gaunt does a terrific job with difficult subject matter.

This audiobook is extremely short (only nineteen minutes long) which I believe limits the amount of knowledge that is gained. Listeners do not get enough detailed information or enough tips on coping mechanisms for this audiobook to be truly effective. It is for that reason that I rate this audiobook as 3 out of 5 stars ⭐⭐⭐

Inadequate

The content was superficial and lacked insight. The author failed to adequately define or describe the disorders.