The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy

Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go

De: Lola Phoenix, Kathy G. Slaughter LCSW

Narrado por: Lola Phoenix

'Invaluable' RACHEL KRAMER BUSSEL

'Refreshingly honest, comprehensive and realistic' MEG-JOHN BARKER

Embarking on a non-monogamous relationship can be a daunting experience, opening old wounds that cause anxiety, fear and confusion, something Lola Phoenix knows about all too well.

In this all-you-need-to-know guide to exploring non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships, Lola draws upon their years of experience in giving advice and being non-monogamous to provide guidance for every stage of your journey, helping you to prioritise your mental health and well being along the way.

Beginning with advice on starting out - such as finding your anchor, figuring out your personal reasons for pursuing non-monogamy, challenging your fears and practicing self-compassion - the book proceeds to cover the emotional aspects of non-monogamous relationships, including dealing with jealousy and judgement, managing anxiety and maintaining independence, as well as practical elements such as scheduling your time, negotiating boundaries and managing your expectations, all accompanied with activities for further exploration.

Whether you are new to non-monogamy, or have been non-monogamous for years, this insightful and empowering book will provide you with the emotional tools you will need to live a happy non-monogamous life.

©2024 Lola Phoenix (P)2024 Hodder & Stoughton Limited

Love this focused intro to opening relationship options

Lola’s conclusion to the book just left the most beautiful taste in my mouth. I loved the way this book tackled so many of the different anxiety inducing aspects of trying on different relationship styles other than monogamy. But I also ADORED the perspective on monogamy and really, Lola did such a wonderful job covering so many potential perspectives and needs that I can’t imagine anyone would read this book and not take something positive away from it.

good poly book

while the author could have demonstrated some credibility with relevant anecdotes, it is a good ENM resource

Excellent book

Intelligently written; helped tremendously in contemplating how to explore an alternative approach to relationships and love

anxious and trying

it was nice to know I'm not alone in anxiousness and that I don't have to shove down those feelings.

vulnerability and transparent narrative

thanks for your transparency. thanks for your vulnerability. thanks for the encouraging words of mental Healthcare.

how relevant that anxiety is more about self.

helped open my mind to how conditioned I was from society. that everything pushes a narrative to what society deems appropriate.

Must-read for everyone

I firmly believe this one should be titles The human being guide's to human relations, period. I think Lola's advice will (should?) resonate with anyone and everyone trying to relate better to others and oneself. I'm so thankful for having stumbled upon her podcast and books. Can't get enough!