Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child

Good Grief Series, Book 4

De: Gary Roe

Narrado por: Gary Roe

"A truly healing book." (Glen Lord, President, The Compassionate Friends)

Unthinkable. Unbelievable. Heartbreaking. Whatever words we choose, they all fall far short of the reality. The loss of a child is a terrible thing. Accidents. Disease. Suicide. School shootings. Murder. Natural disasters. War. No matter how or when, the death of a child (no matter what age) can shatter the heart. How do you survive this? Can you?

Best-selling author, hospice chaplain, and grief specialist Gary Roe uses his three decades of experience interacting with grieving parents to give us this heartfelt and intensely practical book. In Shattered, Roe walks the listener through the powerful impact a child's death can have - emotionally, mentally, physically, relationally, and spiritually.

Shattered unpacks the depth of this loss, describing how:

• Intense, unpredictable emotions (sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, fear, depression) can hijack us at a moment's notice.
• Our minds spin. We can't concentrate. We forget things. It feels like we're going crazy
• Our bodies get hit. Symptoms surface. Our health can be impacted. Illness can invade.
• Our souls feel crushed. Guilt shakes us. What we believe gets challenged.
• Our relationships change. Marriage, family, and friendships feel the impact.
• Our plans and dreams are shattered. The future has changed. We're in uncharted territory.

In Shattered, you will discover how you can:

Deal with the volatile, unpredictable emotions assaulting you.

• Manage the massive changes that are occurring in your life and routine.
• Move through feeling overwhelmed and begin to heal.
• Take care of yourself and your health amidst all the challenges.
• Honor your child with how you grieve.
• Love those around you, even with a broken heart.
• Navigate spiritual uncertainties and faith questions.
• Turn couple, family, and relational upheaval into personal growth.
• Support your other children in their grief and parent well through this.
• Find the people and resources you need to begin to recover.
• Decipher whether counseling or grief coaching would be beneficial for you.
• Live life as well as possible while in the midst of great pain.
• Make your child's life count in deep and powerful ways.

Shattered is not a magic pill. The death of a child cannot be fixed. But comfort, compassion, guidance, and hope can be found in this book. If you are a grieving parent or grandparent, this book is here to help. We will never be the same, but we can survive. And to some degree, we can heal. Shattered can help. Listen to this book, and let the healing continue.

Shattered was a 2017 Best Book Awards Finalist.

©2017 Gary Nolan Roe (P)2018 Gary Nolan Roe

Excellent book

This book helped me with the sudden death of my youngest daughter on 8/13/22. She was 32 years old and a mother of 3 children. She had a large blood clot in her brain that she nor I was unaware. For any parent that recently lost a child read this book first.

Practical life advice

Examples for getting through holidays and Christian message if hope which is so important I’m these tragic times.

Helpful

I struggled with some chapters as they felt as though they didn't pertain to me.
But overall it was very helpful as it hit all the emotions and feelings I've been dealing with. I just sat and cried during the whole audio.

Perfect title, Not a helpful book.

I have read several grief books and they were all great, but this one sucks. I tried to give it a chance and made it through Chapter 15. The author basically told me over and over how I was feeling and it seemed forced. There was also an unhelpful question at the end of every chapter. The chapters ended super fast to the point where I felt like I didn't gain anything from it. The narrator was horrible. I've read books that confirmed my emotions and all that, but this one does it in the most annoying, uncomforting way. It doesn't help at all. I already know how I feel. If there are tips in this book, I wouldn't know it because it was too painful to listen to the words. I definitely want a refund. I could've used my credits on something better. Finding Meaning by David Kessler was by far the best book I've read on grief amongst other authors.

very helpful information

it's amazing and tragic that Gary has experienced so much loss and grief, however those experiences have given him the ability to write and sort others who stumble into this dreadful world. great resources.

Shattered surviving the loss of a child

This book has helped me. I did all of these things. It let me know my feelings were normal and it takes as long as it takes. It was written from someone who knows. This made a difference.

Excellent, Real, I identify with it.

This was more then just a book. It is real. I lost a child and could identify with every word, thought and feelings of the book, it hit me to the core of my being. I am still going through the process and I can't wait to see where I will be through applying what I've learned and heard. Thank you.

Just What I Needed!

This was a great read! It allowed me to see that I’m not alone on this grief journey, and that my negative outlook is a natural occurrence.

I will definitely revisit this book.

Excellent Read!

This book was helpful and well put together. I was simply looking for a book to help me through the grieving process and inspired me to start a support group someday. You will not be disappointed.

This book was an answer to my broken heart’s prayer

Just 3 months ago, we lost our baby at 36 weeks pregnant, suddenly and unexpectedly without any knowledge as to what happened or why...

Life after her passing has been a whirlwind of every emotion, and a completely different crippling reality.

My spouse, 3 other children and I have been thrown into a world that doesn’t make sense, and is hard to navigate even with the support of family, friends and grief groups.

I believe this book is inspired, and has helped me so much in the weeks and months that have followed our loss- I refer to it often, especially on the hardest days.

I now know how to put words and explanations to new previously unknown emotions, and communicate mine and my family’s needs better to each other and those around us.

If you have experienced child loss, know that I am so very sorry for your loss, and that you are now a part of this “club” too.

It is a club that no one wants to belong to, but one that is full of some of the most amazing people I’ve ever met...

You are not alone in your pain, and you don’t have to grieve without help.

Gary gets it. This book is a treasure, and great resource for all of us- those who have experienced child loss firsthand, and those who want to be truly supportive and understanding of someone who has.

It’s safe, loving, enlightening and provides guidance that is hard, if not impossible to find elsewhere.

May God, and our angels continue to watch over and help all of us as we strive to heal our broken hearts...

And may Gary be abundantly blessed for his efforts in helping us find guidance in trying to do so 🙏🏻💗