See What You Made Me Do

The Dangers of Domestic Abuse That We Ignore, Explain Away, or Refuse to See

By: Jess Hill

Narrated by: Larissa Gallagher

We fear dark alleys, when in truth, home is the most dangerous place for a woman. Of the 87,000 women killed globally in 2017, more than a third (30,000) were killed by an intimate partner, and another 20,000 were killed by a family member. These statistics tell us something that's almost impossible to grapple with: it's not the stranger in the dark women should fear, but the men they fall in love with.

See What You Made Me Do is not only a searing investigation, but also a dissection of how that violence can be enabled and reinforced by the judicial system we trust to protect us. It carefully dismantles the flawed logic of victim-blaming and challenges everything you thought you knew about psychological abuse and emotional abuse relationships, while shining a spotlight on domestic violence awareness and abuse awareness.

This is a book about love, abuse, and power. It's about turning our stubborn beliefs and assumptions inside out and confronting one of the most complex issues of our time. Through the eyes of survivors and perpetrators, Hill has wandered into the horrific underworld of domestic abuse. Now is the time for us to see what is hiding in plain sight.

Contains mature themes.

©2020 Jess Hill (P)2022 Tantor

Read this book!!!

Finally! This was the most validating and thorough book describing the nightmare I went through.

Fantastic research

Full of really important research. I especially liked how she connected colonialism and patriarchy/misogyny/domestic violence towards women and children.

Well researched, well written. Invaluable read!

I love that the author included accounts, statistics, and models from across the globe. She amalgamates a complex topic beautifully in a digestible and understandable format.

This should be required reading for everyone

This book is educational, interesting, and very important. See What You Made Me Do and The Gift of Fear should be required reading for everyone.

Gripping, Enlightening, and Gut-Wrenchingly Horrific

It's still so baffling (and a true indictment on society's failure) that so many people (particularly people in positions of power/authority) are still so ignorant regarding domestic abuse. Books such as this one and Lundy's "Why does he do that" should be required reading for every cop, judge, custody evaluator, and anyone else in positions that involve making decisions regarding abuse cases.

This is never any more clear than when you hear the horrific views spewed by people like the psychologist and custody evaluator discussed in chapter 9 of this book, contrasted against the stories of the victims they sent back to their abusers and isolated from those trying to protect them. The views so comfortably held by these people churn my stomach even worse than some of the abusers.

Great book. Definitely recommend. I do, however recommended caution if you're not in the right headspace to read/listen to brutally candid discussions of abuse.

Very disappointed!

I was enjoying this book until the narrator said that our former President Trump fit into the category of these abusers. He may have been like this in the past, but I’m choosing to believe he has wanted to change for the better. I was not thinking this book was going to go political. For this matter, I’m choosing to not finish it.

grossly detailed descriptions of abuse

when are we going to realize that we don't need to perversely describe details of abuses endured? at least give us a warning and tell us how far to skip ahead.