Husband, Liar, Sociopath

How He Lied, Why I Fell For It & The Painful Lessons Learned

De: O.N.WARD

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

Could you or someone you know be married to a sociopath? The author of this book was, but it took her twenty years to figure it out. She wrote this book to make sure the same thing doesn’t happen to other people. Onna thought the classmate she married was her Prince Charming—kind, honest, loving, and intellectually vibrant—but she was wrong. That “spark” she felt wasn’t true love, it was a trap—custom designed to ensnare her. Onna’s repayment for investing twenty years into her marriage and unwittingly providing her husband with a façade of normalcy was ongoing gaslighting and chronic emotional assault, all twisted and framed so she would attribute them to her own apparent shortcomings. By the time she understood what was really happening, her emotional, physical and financial health were in peril. Why did her husband do it? Because that’s what sociopaths do. Sociopaths are far more common than most people imagine. To help others recognize the subtle warning signs that they might be in the crosshairs of a well-camouflaged sociopath, Onna shares her story while detailing the techniques her ex-husband used to control her behavior and erode her self-esteem. She also explores the psychological research regarding why such methods are so effective, why it is hard to understand what is happening while you are in the situation, why the cumulative effect is so ruinous, and, more importantly, why you must escape if you suspect you are in a similar situation. This insightful, cautionary tale is a must read for men and women alike.

I live the same hell of life with a sociopath too. Listening to this book felt like I was listening to my story.

A must read for every woman who is in a relationship or wants to be in a relationship. Sociopaths and psychopaths are not only criminals that take lives by crimes that are visible. They are covert criminals.

Heartbreaking & Enlightening

Very relatable. Unfortunately, very knowledgeable on the depth dove in order to uncover the light at the end of the tunnel.

Finally someone gets it— well done, thank you

Well written and sadly spot on— anyone who’s lived or is living through this type of relationship, my prayers are with you and you’re not alone. Slowly, it gets better.

Too close to home for many of us

I just want to thank the author for courageously sharing her heart wrenching story. For many of us hearing about the subtle ways in which Paul subtly and not so subtly broke her sense of self down via gaslighting, financial abuse, intermittent reinforcement as well as many other tactics was not just a cautionary tale but a reminder of how horrifically common this is.

Even if we manage to escape these prisons, these men will not leave us alone and we all too often go deep into debt trying to protect our kids and ourselves via the courts who shamefully enable and even enhance the sociopath's abuse for years upon years.

I hope you were able to get back to Vermont and are finally out from under the thumb of that wretched creature. I hope he and men like him will one day be forced to reckon with the damage they have caused in their path of destruction, but realistically that notion feels more like a pipe dream than anything else.

This book is so important for women who are wondering why they feel like something is wrong in their marriage but can't put their finger on what that "something" is. It is also important for those of us who need to know that we are not alone and that what we are experiencing is very, very real.

The story

Wonderful book for understanding sociopaths and the aftermath of being involved with one. RUN for your life.

My husband is another Paul!

This book looks like it may be, the only validation I ever get for what I’ve been through. Spot on with the Triangulation, Gaslighting and Poor him pitty parties… 1) He really is an A** and I kick him out of the apartment 2) He then threatens to kill himself, brings on the ‘crying’ when he asks to speak to our 6 yr old daughter > making her feel bad and cry 3) When I don’t give in to his performance, INSTANT VERBAL ATTACK on my character, my past mistakes, etc. 4) Withholds all financial support and avoids his financial responsibilities 5) goes silent for a couple days, and then texts “I love you” or “I’ve been crying for days” or “I can’t believe you can just give up on us without ever trying” ~cycle begins again~ WORSE CASE OF GROUNDHOG DAY EVER!!! But not a sole can understand, validate or aid in your healing if they have not gone through this crazy making twilight zone black hole relationship. Thank you SOOO much for each word you wrote in this book! -Britni

Must read for all women

This was such a great explaination of narcissistic/sociopathic abuse. Working in the mental health field, I wish all young women were required to read this book in school!

recommend

this book has so much great information and examples. a must read if your dealing with an unevolved human predator/narc-i-sissy sociopath and divorce.

Genuineness of the author. I identified with her life.

Excellently written and easy for anyone who has dealt with this type of spouse, to relate to the author’s marriage and struggles. Unfortunately, this type of relationship happens way too many times to a lot of us.

Highly Recommend

Thank you to the author for sharing her story. I learned a lot from the book.