Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

The Power to Survive and to Escape from the Covert and Emotional Abuse of a Narcissist Toxic Relationship. a Survival Guide to Understanding When to Go Away or Stay

By: Hope Utaram

Narrated by: Leigh Ann Haga

Do you want to discover how to safely escape from toxic parents and people? A guide to how to take back your life? If yes, then keep reading….

The primary objective for the narcissist is power. This isn’t accidental. The abuse is intentional, and the goal is domination. Remember, they will do what they need to do to feel superior to others, especially those with whom they have some relationship, in order to further shield their own feelings of inferiority.

According to Dr. Greenberg, narcissistic relationships tend to follow a three-stage pattern of abuse, beginning with what she calls “chasing the unicorn.” In this stage, the narcissist sees the object of his love as the perfect mate and will do anything to have them. This could also be called “love bombing”, as it is similar to the tactic used by some cults to draw in new members.

The narcissist will often offer suggestions and ideas for things they’d like to see changed, like hair, clothing, exercise, personal habits, job, or any number of other things. The abuse aspect of this stage usually begins when the narcissist starts hearing the word no.

Now he’s disappointed (remember all those other disappointing relationships?), and with a narcissist that can be a very difficult thing because they don’t react to disappointment the way others do. Normal disappointment tends to be marked by an acceptance that the other person either doesn’t want to make the change or cannot make the change. Either way, we recognize that the other person has a right to be themselves, and we can love and accept them as they are or not....

That’s not the way the narcissist sees it, which brings us to the third stage: “devaluation”. Narcissists take the sort of disappointment that the rest of us would get over quite personally. They take the refusal as an insult, a criticism that they cannot tolerate rather than an assertion of the other party’s right to be who they are.

This leads to anger, fights, and emotional abuse as the narcissist begins to devalue the other person in various ways. By now, friendly suggestions have turned to blunt criticism, but as this devaluation process progresses, that blunt criticism becomes increasingly insulting and demeaning. Even worse, what had once been said behind closed doors goes public, usually in front of family and friends.

This pattern of growing hostility and verbal abuse continues to grow until it becomes the primary way the narcissist interacts with their partner. Cruelty becomes the norm, fighting escalates, and physical abuse becomes a real possibility. It is important to recognize that it takes two people willing to engage in this behavior, so you don't have to participate anymore. Anyone can suffer from narcissistic abuse syndrome - women, men, adults, children, young, or old, it doesn’t matter. Nor does it matter how smart you are, how “grounded” you think you are, or how well you think you can “read” people. Why? Because narcissists are masters of deceit and manipulation, so anyone can be made a victim and suffer abuse at their hands. Those that do are likely to develop some level of narcissistic abuse syndrome.

In this book, you will learn more about:

• Defining narcissistic behavior in simple terms
• Overcoming negative personality traits
• Understanding your thinking
• Choices and self-discovery
• Narcissism in families
• How you got this way
• Unlearning unhealthy patterns
• Choose a new way of thinking

And more

©2020 Hope Utaram (P)2020 Hope Utaram

Great information to help you heal from narcissist

Reading through this book was like reading my own biography. This book gets to the heart of narcissistic abuse and the how it effects you for a lifetime. I'm finally on my healing journey. Thank you Hope

Awesome

It took me a while to realize I was with a narcissist, I knew something was wrong but I didn't want to admit it. I finally broke free but was horrified at the idea of relapsing.
This book helps you remember what really happened, especially when you can only remember the good things.

This book helped in ways I never knew would happen

I felt this book answered some unanswered questions I had about the control my husband had on me for 15 years. It explains why I was able to just walk away with no contact at all. It gave me permission to feel a bit addicted to this lifestyle, but also had good suggestions on how to move on.

Five Stars

Excellent observations on the behavior of narcissists and their victims. The author writes from her own experiences and her advice and comments are very insightful. The advice on how to recover from codependency is worth much more than the price of the audiobook. I recommend this audiobook

This is the best audio i have heard

This audiobook inspired me to start making positive changes for my future and allowed me to begin my healing journey. I recommend this book

Very helpful

I have cried reading this book. The author pointed out many of my own flaws, as well as the wrongs that has been done to me to cause them. I have never felt so seen and evaluated in my life.

Provides greater understanding / hope

Short & simple—helps removes horrific self-blame and outlines hope recovery; good to ease my mind 7 days post-escape