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How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
- Understanding the Why and How of Being a Chronic People Pleaser and How to Get Your Life Back Build Healthy & Lasting Relationships
- Narrated by: Lorna Dailey
- Length: 3 hrs and 35 mins
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How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
Are you a People Pleaser? Do you always find yourself saying YES? Would you like the confidence to hold better personal boundaries?
Then my book is for you!
So, you said no, but you paid the price for it. The nagging voice that says, "You should have said yes," coaxes you to treat your brother with kindness and respect. Again, you may ignore the voice. Indeed, that's what this book is about – managing your behaviors and overcoming pleasing others.
So why do you do it? Could it be that you really don't know how to stop? You've been doing it since you were a kid. I'm sure you remember the sadness, loneliness and anger you felt when you were growing up. Perhaps your parents gradually became emotionally absent. Maybe the situation changed after the divorce or death of a sibling or spouse.
You've probably spent your whole life catering to the needs of others and secretly feeling resentful.
You may have been involved in a codependent relationship and knew that something wasn't quite right, but you weren't sure exactly what it was. Previously, you may or may not have realized the depth of your childhood trauma. Now you do know.
Now you can decide to change.
Are you willing to do inner work like boosting your self-esteem, saying no and enjoying your own company?
It won't be easy, but you can do it.
Apply cognitive behavioral therapy techniques. Pray or meditate. Perhaps most importantly, express yourself. Raise your voice or pick up a crayon. Grab a pen or plant a flower. Let your thoughts be known.
Your time is valuable.
So, you need to set boundaries and tell people what you want and need. While you may value other people's opinions, you're perfectly capable of making decisions on your own.
Assert yourself in a relationship and within a group. Ask for feedback so you can grow personally and professionally. Whatever choices you make for yourself, don't feel guilty and never apologize for the beautiful, self-assured person you've become.
My book will teach you to do exactly that. If you're a chronic people pleaser, then you need this book!
- Defining People Pleasing
- Pleasing Versus Helping
- Childhood and The Making of a People Pleaser
- What is Trauma?
- Dealing with Untreated Trauma
- Understanding the Causes of Interpersonal Pain
- Combating Destructive Thought Processes
- Signs of a Codependent Relationship
- Treatments and Solutions for People Pleasing
- Signs and Solutions of People Pleasing
- Sociotropy, The Scientific Study of People Pleasing
- Three Elements of People Pleasing
- What is a Personality Dimension?
- The Real Reason for Women's Depression
- The Link Between Personality and Depression
- Healthy Interpersonal Relationships
- Difference Between Loneliness and Being Alone
- How to Boost Self-Esteem and Confidence
- Assertiveness Versus Aggressiveness and The Importance of Assertiveness
- Tips for Gaining Feedback
- Guilt and People Pleasing
- Maladaptive or Unhealthy Guilt
- Signs of Guilt and Dealing with Anxiety
This book also makes a great gift for that special loved one who might need to hear this advice (you know who!).
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