Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex

What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You

There's no question about it: your children are the most important thing in your life. But if you have gone through a messy divorce, your relationship with your children may become strained if you have to deal with a toxic ex. Your ex may bad-mouth you in front of the kids, accuse you of being a bad parent, and even attempt to replace you in the children's lives with a new partner. As a result, your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressed - and you may feel powerless.

In Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex, a nationally recognized parenting expert offers you a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn to avoid the most common mistakes of co-parenting, how to avoid "parental alienation syndrome", and effective techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters an open and honest response. In addition, you'll learn how to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts between you and your ex-spouse.

©2014 Amy J. L. Baker and Paul R. Fine (P)2016 Tantor

Critic reviews

"Genuinely helpful, this guide tackles a sensitive problem and shows how to diffuse it with accepted and proven psychotherapeutic practices." ( Publishers Weekly)

Super helpful

The narrator was good and sounded almost too perfect. =) I enjoyed listening and this is a great read for those divorcing but also as a great refresher for those with young kiddos and a need for quality co parenting tactics. It serves as a powerful reminder for me to just see the situation with love in my heart and cog skills as steering the course.

good information

trying to see the future in what this coparenting situation may look like... at least i feel like I'm more prepared for things to go wrong.

Supplemental Source

I found some parts of the book useful providing a decent foundation for a range of coparenting issues and could relate to most of it as both a child and a parent perspective that are supported by other parenting literature, but some parts are questionably biased and missed the realistic approach it seemed to be aiming for. Overall it served it's purpose as a reflective tool and a reminder of how to approach some specific situations, but I would use it as a supplement to other research on the topic rather than a main resource.

Excellent inspiration and insight.

This is a very direct, helpful book for a difficult and emotional subject. It is written with clarity and a positive focus. I’m very grateful that this title was available when I needed the resource.
Thanks.

A Must Read For Parents of Alienated Children!

After listening to this book, you will FULLY understand why your child(ren) is acting toward you. Before this book, I had a million unanswered "Why's". Now, I know. I didn't know how much I needed this book!

AMAZING! EXACTLY ON POINT!

This is the best book if come across that remains unbiased between the male vs female parent. As someone with a VERY difficult ex, I couldn’t be more thankful that I found this book! Immediately after hearing each concept I have been able to identify ways my ex is trying to alienate me. I have even able to more accurately log the info for future court hearings but better yet, counteract the behavior our kids show that is a result of their other parent’s toxic behavior! #DadsMatter

I recommend for anyone who is having a tough time.

I recommend for anyone who is having a tough time with their ex in order to protect the relationship with the children.

Yuck.

This has very little to do with co-parenting and more about children in general and how to parent. Didn’t like. Title is not much of what the book is about.

Wow!

This book was spot on with my life the last 6 years since my divorce, I had NO idea I was responding the wrong way until I ended up in court on an emergency custody hearing order for things that never ever happened, now I realize the brainwashing was years in making. I'm definitely kicking myself for not getting this book years ago when I knew my ex was telling my kids horrible untrue things about me :-(

Easy to Follow

Very light read. Is definitely a how to guide with examples, scenarios and take away points/coping skill advice. Great audible for multitasking.