The Parallel Parenting Solution

Eliminate Confict with Your Ex, Create the Life You Want

De: Carl Knickerbocker JD

Narrado por: Joe Scalora

The Parallel Parenting Solution was written for people who want to eliminate the unnecessary drama of co-parenting with a high-conflict ex—particularly in the wake of a hard-fought divorce battle. Co-parenting does not have to take a toll on mental health, deplete your finances, compromise your values, or threaten your safety. For those experiencing the effects of trendy-trendy co-parenting as a living hell, your experience is valid. We’ve been there and lived it. But have no fear.

There is hope, and it’s called parallel parenting. It’s based on the premise that all parties can achieve the highest outcomes for themselves and their families when they are free to work in parallel, rather than being thrown into the chaotic emotional enmeshment soup that is trendy-trendy co-parenting. Understanding the exploitative and conflict-producing fantasy known as trendy-trendy co-parenting as sold to us by the divorce industry vultures is as important as understanding the down to earth tactics of how to deal with your high-conflict ex. This book will teach you both.

Families who want to heal after a divorce should not start with pie-in-the-sky expectations. They should start in reality.

The Parallel Parenting Solution comes straight out of lived experience, extensive research and coaching, and is written as a direct solutions manual for those of us who have to deal with narcissistic and high-conflict exes. The book is intentionally direct and solutions-driven because those of us who have lived with such exes know that we’ve already wasted enough time and life and energy on them. It’s time for solutions. It’s time for immediate change.

©2021, 2022, 2023 Carl Knickerbocker (P)2023 Carl Knickerbocker

Great easy to implement solution

Very good content. Would love to have a chapter on optimal parenting plans for children with special needs. Is there some type of modified parallel parenting? Raising child with special needs does require trust and high degree of honesty from both parties while parallel parenting does not. Especially when child is non verbal and unable to tell a parent that something wrong went on in another’s parent home.

INCREDIBLY strong fundamental and technical advise!

I'm not one to write reviews, unless something is either really good or really bad. And to be honest, I found some of the early chapters and material to be rather fundamental and/or redundant, however that's also because I've studied it so much previously (wish I was still ignorant and could get all my time back).

I was exclusively looking for brass tax solutions for coping with a highly covert, deeply malignant, and diabolically motivated NPD (specifically); and how that deeply disturbed individual creates harm and damages to my children's emotional welfare (intended to harm me). This is where I was looking for expert advise and wisdom.

Highly toxic HCP's specialize in creating very complex situations littered with nuances that are almost always missed by the Family Courts and the Community, and often by Custody Evaluators, who don't recognize or comprehend the extreme difficulties and deeply challenging emotions that are exacerbated by the horrific abuse and games that are deployed.

The Author is CLEARLY competent in this space and gave very detailed methods for coping with those crazy behavior patterns. His granular depersonalization methods and comprehensive explanations were totally practical, while simultaneously being invaluable. Needless to say, appropriately addressing and/or coping with these finite behaviors demands a unique skill set and specialty that covers a very wide array of serious problems. There are plethora of rabbit holes to go down in this area and many nuances problems that are created by the incessant and exhaustive actions of these mentally ill, disordered HCP's.

The Author is very seasoned and highly capable of helping Coach his Reader's through these challenging experiences by offering efficient and practical tools that anyone could apply and benefit from. I cant thank you enough for providing your book and allowing so many families to benefit from your great wisdom and work. You may not even realize how critically important your help is for our entire family.

Most of us have NEVER been trained to deal with mentally disturbed and highly disordered HCP's and we truly had no idea that we attached or married one. It all may make plenty of sense to you (after studying these disordered people for so many years), but most of us have never dealt with these levels of disorders in our lives and really need help to get through this crazy time. I would have never anticipated that someone I married would deploy such ugly shenanigans and lies, hurting her own children.

Thank you for helping provide the coaching and the comfort to allow me to shift my focus back to giving attention to creating positivity in our lives again and realizing that focusing on their problems only undermined mine and my families positivity and happiness again...

*ENERGY FOLLOWS ATTENTION *

my new Mantra. 🙏

brief and full of great advice

This approach really set my mind at ease in allowing for healing in both homes, each on their own way and with their own values, as long as safety isn't at issue. I felt so encouraged about the positive impact on children to be part of different homes/values and the adaptability that brings.

It’s the most relatable and fathomable guideline

I wish I had known about this book much earlier into my separation so that I would’ve spared myself much headache from anger.

Staep by step plan of action

How so many of the examples of situations absolutely sounded familiar to my situation!

Was recommended by GAL

I enjoy this entire book. Very informative and factual. To what I have experienced as a parent. Do yourself a favor a listen to this book and follow it!

Excellent Information

Description and benefits of Parallel Parenting were excellent. Would really like tips on how to initiate or even legally implement, considering you are working with a high conflict parent.

Parenting style

Very good book looking forward to implementing this style of parenting as I start this new journey

Bitterness masked by obvious advice

Read this if you blame others. Treat your ex with respect and give them freedom to be them as a parent. The author just labels them as horrible. Unnecessary.

Okay, but not worth the money.

there was a lot of repeated message over and over just saying the same thing chapter after chapter. There was repeated bashing of the legal system and lawyers. He was the pronouns used through the entire book which I feel was a poor choice to only use one. there was helpful info in the book but I don't feel it was worth the money.