Episodios

  • Coping with Everyday Life
    Mar 12 2025

    This episode starts by exploring the feelings and sentiments of a bruised and battered leadership team - and their discovery that they had something to celebrate.

    Life throws us curved balls every day. For most (read "Normal Crazy People"), the automatic way in which the thinking mind reacts only magnifies life's everyday challenges, making dealing with them all the more difficult.

    For starters, in this episode, we celebrate coping. When we cope with a challenge - or, to put it in proper terms, when we rise to a challenge and deal with it - we provide ourselves with an important opportunity to encourage ourselves to move forward in our lives.

    Coping produces Perfect Moments. And, yet, coping is just the beginning.

    When you take control of your state of mind, when you stop thinking and start acting, when you "go beyond caring", you're ready for real action. And every, however small, demonstration of real action encourages us to "trust the process".

    This "process" is one where, by taking control of our state of mind, we become action heroes - no more thinking and overthinking, no more making the simple complex, no more questioning our ability to change our lives. We just do.

    And, when we just do - starting with coping - we learn to trust a process that is, in fact, a process in developing our ability to trust ourselves.

    There's an inner you that you can trust implicitly - explicitly. This inner you rises from within when you rise to the occasion of the here and now.

    It's time to liberate that inner you.

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    32 m
  • The Waste of Worry
    Mar 5 2025

    Imagine investing your attention, focus and energy in what you don't want to happen.

    You don't need to imagine - it's something that comes naturally to the normal crazy mind - it's called worry.

    And only an idiot would go there. But, we're all idiots until we take responsibility for what's going on in our head and take control of our state of mind.

    In this episode, we explore how thinking leads to over-thinking, how wondering leads to worrying, we explore the delusional dangers of positive thinking and, obviously, we consider the detailed instructions on how to take that responsibility and control that leads to an end of worry, an end to stress and the beginning of an everyday experience of everyday life that is... a joy to behold.

    We explore how taking control of your state of mind is actually simple, an easy task: you don't have to fight the thoughts in your head that lead to worry, you don't even have to fight the 1.8m years of evolution that designed your mind to err in the negative.

    You simply have to allow yourself be. And, to do that, you can simply use the everyday tasks at hand to... change your life beyond recognition.

    And, oh, beware of red BMWs!

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    39 m
  • Finding Flow and Peace of Mind
    Feb 26 2025

    You don't find flow, nor peace of mind... they find you.

    In this episode, we explore how to allow this happen - it is, as the very title of this whole podcast would suggest, a process of letting go.

    Before we get into that, though, we explore what flow is, in actuality, in practical terms and we explore the nature of peace of mind and its implications.

    We learn that, with peace of mind, comes an understanding, an experience of not having a care in the world. And we learn that, with flow, not only do we discover that we can do what we need to do effortlessly, we discover that we can do things that we never imagined ourselves doing or being capable of doing.

    We discover how to live the kind of life our heart desires, without having to work hard to get there or, perhaps, without having to work... at all.

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    30 m
  • You Create Your Life
    Feb 19 2025

    This episode's title holds true, whether you're a normal crazy person or someone who has taken responsibility for your own state of mind.

    What's going on within creates what you achieve and experience - it has nothing to do with anyone else but you.

    If you're a normal crazy person, your everyday life is the result of a mass hallucination, a mass hypnosis driven by programmed, patterned, repetitive thought, which leads to a programmed, patterned, repetitive life - no wonder, when using our minds this way, we feel stuck, fearful of change and stressed (and much more besides).

    Normal, shared, hallucinogenic thought creates an assumed reality that enough people share to provide us with the "comfort" that it must be OK. It's not.

    Being the creator of your own life, as you are, you must ask yourself this key question:

    "What kind of life do I really want to create for myself?"

    This is actually a simpler question to answer than you might think. And this is one of the key questions that we address in this episode. I hope this discussion will enable you settle on the answer that you know (normal people don't know that they know!) to be the best answer for you and yours.

    But, then, this episode goes on to explain how to create the life that's best for you and what results you can expect.

    Worth 35mins of your time!

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    35 m
  • How to Boost Your Productivity
    Feb 12 2025

    I really don't like the title of this week's episode because we're talking about so much more...

    First of all, we bust a few productivity-boosting myths: like you should do the (apparently) important things first or you should do the task you'd prefer not to have to do at all before you do anything else; like you should have a "To Do List" or have a plan or, God help us, an Action Plan; like multi-tasking, otherwise known to cognitive psychology as trying to half do a load of things badly simultaneously. Ah... Myths!

    More importantly, this episode provides you with a step-by-step Blueprint that will boost an awful lot more than your productivity.

    Because, essentially, we're talking about focus and flow in this episode. And we're talking about the importance of focus and flow in everything - focus is not just a work thing, obviously.

    Allied to that Blueprint is an exploration of "compartmentalisation" - actually another aspect or attribute of Flow.

    In short, this episode is longer than usual (bit of a paradox there!) because there's so much in it - so much that will change your life.

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    37 m
  • How to Boost Your Self-Esteem
    Feb 5 2025

    Another misleading episode title - because there's nothing that you need to boost!

    Self-esteem is about how you think about what you think about who you think you are. How many steps removed are we from reality?

    It's only our "Conceptual Self" that thinks it needs bettering, buttering-up, bolstering. The various tips that you'll find online about boosting your self-esteem are thoughts about thoughts.

    And, as we know from previous episodes, we are at our best when we are not thinking. We are when we are not thinking.

    So, do we need to stop thinking? And how much effort will that take? Is it even possible?

    No, you don't need to try to stop something, you need to start being something... real. You simply need to come to your senses to actually feel who you really are - that way you'll stop thinking about it, stop thinking about yourself.

    And, when we stop thinking, we start living. And that's a game-changer.

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    30 m
  • Quick Tips for Dealing with Stress
    Jan 29 2025

    Actually, the title of this week's episode is a little misleading - after all, why do you need to deal with something that, in reality, isn't there.

    Yes, whilst everyday life is full or pressure and challenge, stress is imaginary, in the mind of the beholder.

    That doesn't make stress any less life-destroying, literally. Everyday stress kills, like death by a thousand cuts. Everyday stress damages the cardiovascular, digestive and immune systems - but not, not ever, beyond repair.

    You can choose to rid your life of stress today - you don't even have to image something different from your imaginary stress, you just have to come to your senses.

    In this episode, we explore how two-step cognitive appraisal triggers stress - in other words, what's happening to you doesn't trigger your stress, what you think about what you think is happening and how you think you might be able to handle it... all that thinking is what triggers your stress and, in the process, makes what might be a small, everyday challenge, feel like a life-threatening situation.

    All this is automated but that does not mean that there's nothing that you can do about it.

    On the contrary - the small steps that you must take to rid your life of stress are as easy and as natural as breathing in and out.

    And ridding your life of stress is only the beginning because, once free of that thought-fuelled downward spiral, you're free to start living the kind of life you're meant to be living, one that's filled with perfect moments.

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    29 m
  • Peace of Mind and Opportunity
    Jan 22 2025

    Regardless of your individual circumstances, there is one thing that I know you're looking for (because everyone's looking for it)... peace of mind.

    Now, before we go any further, I do know some people who are not looking for peace of mind because they've already found it - they're owners of The Psychology of Success Online Program. You'll find details of that in the link in your podcast player!

    Anyway, back to this episode. When you experience peace of mind, even for a moment, everything changes because your perspective is altered and, once experienced it cannot be unexperienced.

    With peace of mind comes presence and presence is not just attractive, it's creative.

    In this episode we explore how we effortlessly encounter opportunity when we're present - opportunity that your thinking mind could never imagine happening. I've picked a perfect client story to illustrate the point.

    With presence comes an understanding that, in this moment (which is the only place and time that you can do what you need to do to get to where's best for you), all is well, you don't have a care in the world.

    And that's liberating.

    And, when you're liberated, anything's possible or, actually, the best's just going to happen.

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    34 m