What if the biggest challenges in your life weren't meant to break you....but to relaunch you?

In today's episode, I sit down with Hilary DeCesare - coach, speaker, and creator of the 3HQ Method - for a deeply honest conversation about what it really takes to rise again in midlife.

From her own vulnerable story of starting over to the tools she uses to help women reconnect with their power, Hilary brings both heart and fire.

She even takes me through her signature 'Tune-In' process live on the podcast - and yes, it works.

If you've ever felt stuck, lost, or like you're getting in your own way, this episode is your sign. There's a path forward, and it doesn't require perfection - just presence, alignment, and a little courage.

Plus, Hilary is offering listeners an exclusive 50% off code to her Relaunch Into A Rich Life Event, happening this September! Details inside the episode and linked below.

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Register for Fed Up to On Fire - June 19th

Pre-Order my book, The Selfish Year: The Power of Putting Yourself First

You fed up yet?

Good. That means the fire's here.

In this solo episode, I take you deep into a recent moment where I finally said enough - and buried the version of me who kept mothering everyone but herself.

I walk you through the raw energy behind my new free live event, Fed Up to On Fire, and I soft launch the mantra that's reshaping my movement:

Thank You. Fuck You. I'm Free.

You'll learn how to alchemize frustration into fuel, how to ride the wave of your own rage without drowning in it, and why being fed up isn't a breakdown - it's the beginning of your rise.

If you've been swallowing your truth, people-pleasing your way into exhaustion, and waiting for permission to be selfish, this is your invitation.

Let it burn.

CLICK HERE to join Fed Up to On Fire. June 19th.

This isn't a wellness chat about sobriety.

This is a full-body transmission from inside The Altared State - my 30-day ritual of choosing presence over performance, power over numbing, and pleasure that doesn't need permission.

In this unfiltered episode, I walk you through Days 1 to 6 of the journey. From moss to molasses, from mocktails to jalapeno clarity. I talk about the shame women carry around craving intoxication, and the radical act of becoming the substance we've been reaching for.

If you're tired of outsourcing your aliveness, if you're ready to burn the rules, feel the power, and live at full volume - this one's for you.

It's raw. It's real. It's a little unhinged.

Welcome to The Altared State.

I want to hear what stirred in you.

Email me at valerie@valeriejonescoach.com and tell me what this brought up.

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Hey Selfies,

This one's for the woman who stayed too long.

The woman who confused disappearing with devotion.

The woman who swallowed her truth and called it maturity.

In today's episode, I'm not holding back. I'm calling out the lie we were sold about love, and what it means to reclaim every wild, holy, selfish part of you.

We're talking:

• Self-abandonment vs real love
• The truth about staying 'loyal' when your soul is dying
• Why compassion isn't an excuse for self-betrayal
• And the moment everything shifts when you say: 'I am mine.'

This episode might hurt a little. And then it will free you.

Hit play. Then share it.

Because we don't gatekeep liberation around here.

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In this week's episode I'm joined by feminine business coach and founder of the Earth Flow Method, Jennifer Whitaker, for a grounded, soul-shifting conversation about coming home to your feminine energy.

We explore why so many women stay stuck in their masculine - pushing, hustle, productivity, responsibility - and what becomes possible when we slow down, sync with nature, and allow the wild abundance that's been waiting for us.

Jennifer shares how the rhythms of the Earth are more than metaphors, they're a direct line to your magnetism, your wisdom, and your wealth. She breaks down what seasonal living looks like, how to get out of hustle mode, and offers daily practices that reconnect you to your feminine flow.

If you've ever felt burned out, overextended, or disconnected from yourself - this conversation will feel like a breath of forest air.

Connect with Jennifer:

https://jenwhitaker.kartra.com/page/SacredRituals

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One hundred episodes ago, I hit record.

I didn't know where it would lead - only that something in me had to break free.

Today, it's not a celebration.

It's a summoning.

This episode is the line in the sand.

The mirror.

The match.

The moment everything changes - not just for me, but for you.

Inside this transmission, I speak to the woman who's ready to stop shrinking, stop performing, and stop waiting for someone else to give her permission.

Because you were never broken.

You were just buried.

And now...you're being called back.

The Summons begins May 19.

Seven sacred transmission. My voice in your ear. No fluff. No formulas. Just the truth your soul remembers.

You don't need more information.

You need initiation.

The portal opens soon.

But you already feel it, don't you?

Answer The Summons

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Claim your space. Burn the rulebook. Become the woman your past self never saw coming.

If you feel drained, depleted, and like no matter how much rest you get, you're still exhausted....you're not alone!

You're not tired because life is hard.

You're tired because you're stuck performing.

Performing as the nice girl.

Performing as the easygoing woman.

Performing to keep the peace and please everyone.

This is women's burnout hiding in plain sight - and nobody's talking about it.

In this episode, I reveal the real reason you're so exhausted (spoiler alert: it's not your to-do list), how 'being nice' is slowly draining your energy, and how to stop people pleasing so you can reclaim your power.

You'll learn:

• Why performing makes women invisible and miserable
• How the good girl identity keeps you stuck in burnout
• What to do to stop being nice and start being real
• How to recover your energy and step into your selfish era
• You don't need more rest. You need to stop performing.

If you're exhausted and over it, this episode will show you how to break free and start living for YOU.

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In this bonus episode, I'm coming to you with sand in my suitcase and rebellion in my bones.

Let's talk about the guilt we feel when we rest. The fear that if we stop, everything will fall apart. The lie that our worth is tied to our productivity.

For years, I couldn't stop.

Raising kids. Building a business. Surviving heartbreak. Rebuilding after divorce (twice). Hustling for my worth every damn day.

And when I finally had space? I didn't know how to exist inside it.

I'm sharing the truth behind what it took for me to feel safe doing less, and why my vacation isn't just a 'break'...it's a power move.

• Why rest feels dangerous for high-achieving women
• How scarcity and survival conditioning keep us overworking
• The nervous system regulation I had to to to tolerate white space on my calendar
• Why I'm sliding into vacation mode like the CEO I am
• And how this is the Selfish Woman Lifestyle: rest without guilt, joy without justification.

This isn't just a vacation. It's what happens when a woman heals.

So pour yourself a drink, get cozy, and join me for a conversation about reclaiming your time, your peace, and your power.

Leave a review and share this with a woman who never stops. She needs to hear this.