Brothers, Sisters, Strangers

Sibling Estrangement and the Road to Reconciliation

De: Fern Schumer Chapman

Narrado por: Gabra Zackman, Fred Sanders

A warm, empathetic guide to understanding, coping with, and healing from the unique pain of sibling estrangement

"Whenever I tell people that I am working on a book about sibling estrangement, they sit up a little straighter and lean in, as if I've tapped in to a dark secret."

Fern Schumer Chapman understands the pain of sibling estrangement firsthand. For the better part of 40 years, she had nearly no relationship with her only brother, despite many attempts at reconnection. Her grief and shame were devastating and isolating. But when she tried to turn to others for help, she found that a profound stigma still surrounded estrangement, and that very little statistical and psychological research existed to help her better understand the rift that had broken up her family. So she decided to conduct her own research, interviewing psychologists and estranged siblings as well as recording the extraordinary story of her own rift with her brother - and subsequent reconciliation.

Brothers, Sisters, Strangers is the result - a thoughtfully researched memoir that illuminates both the author's own story and the greater phenomenon of estrangement. Chapman helps listeners work through the challenges of rebuilding a sibling relationship that seems damaged beyond repair, as well as understand when estrangement is the best option. It is at once a detailed framework for understanding sibling estrangement, a beacon of solidarity and comfort for the estranged, and a moving memoir about family trauma, addiction, grief, and recovery.

©2021 Fern Schumer Chapman (P)2021 Penguin Audio

Reseñas de la Crítica

“Moving...Chapman’s at her best when speaking about the vulnerability required of both sister and brother to repair their relationship. This reflective tale both captivates and educates.” (Publishers Weekly)

“Fern Schumer Chapman is a superb writer. In this stunning family memoir, she fearlessly probes the 40-year estrangement from her brother and chronicles their uneasy road to reconciliation. Along the way, she deftly weaves in pertinent social science research, capturing the voices and insights of hundreds of people suffering from sibling alienation. Brothers, Sisters, Strangers deserves to be read and discussed for years to come.” (James B. Lieber, Pulitzer Prize-nominated author of Friendly Takeover)

“A primer in mending familial fences blended with an affecting memoir.” (Kirkus Reviews)

Essential for any Possibly-Estranged Family Members

This book is amazing. It’s heartfelt, inspiring, looks clearly at the pain of falling away from family (specifically siblings). Interwoven with robust, scientific research on the subject from academia of therapy, the personal story of the author (a professional therapist, I believe) and accounts the author collects for research for this book. I found it very insightful, helpful, instructive and overall validating of the approach I have attempted to broach in my own situations.

The author mentions that the few researchers that focus on Sibling Estrangement state that they consider it a current epidemic. When I reflect on my own life, my own connections, their stories, I can see this may be true- I have known at least one or more persons in any social sphere that seems to be estranged from their sibling. This book may help us understand how to heal thoroughly, regardless of whether we’re the one cut off, or cutting off, or witness to the cut.

Beautifully written and deeply insightful

This is a fascinating first-person account of a traumatic, decades-long sibling rift, It is also a practical, well-researched resource on sibling estrangement and an excellent guide for those seeking reconciliation. The author writes movingly of the painful family history she and her brother share and the journey they each make to overcome it. Brothers, Sisters Strangers is both a remarkable memoir and an examination of the debilitating shame and emotional damage caused by sibling estrangement.

So relatable!

This is a great listen if you are experiencing estrangement from a sibling. Wonderful narration as well.

tough topic, very well done and needed

I loved this book. it helped me to step back and view my estrangement from a new lense and come to a place of healing, even apart from reconciliation. thank you for sharing your story, for providing great questions to consider and for being part of my own journey. I'm glad God brought this book to me

A helpful guide to understand unhealthy family dynamics

It provided me with an appreciation
for how complicated family systems become when one or both parents avoid the uncomfortable work of resolving their own issues and, without thought, allow the vast scope of intergenerational dysfunction to roll right into their children’s life. It’s difficult to accept how any parent is blind to imposing the same inescapable pain they suffered onto one or more of their children. But this brand of abuse happens all the time, especially by parents who have children as a means to make their child their emotional caretaker. I understand more clearly how the parent's deficits and immaturity will convey and transfer their angst onto their children to bear, thus causing division among the siblings. It’s difficult to accept a parent's refusal to take their child’s reality has mirrored their own childhood. In my case, I’ll never hear my mother accept any ownership of her misguided decisions. And my mother will continue to avoid responsibility and refuses to discuss it.

Imsightful.

Helped me understand some if my own family dynamics. Touching story of the authorized and her brother.

Validating

I have so much to say, but I dont know what yet, other than I'm grateful this book exists & the woman that wrote it is an angel.

Sisters and Brothers

I found this book to be very informative and helpful. As the oldest of five very different and complicated siblings, I feel this book will help me navigate these relationships.

great book for sibling relations

great way of showing personal outlook as well as an arrangement of differnt possibilities and situations to learn from.

An Inspiring Story

“Brothers, Sisters, Strangers” is an inspiring story of how the author and her brother mended their relationship after decades of being out of touch. Anyone who has experienced issues with family will get a lot out of this book.