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Trauma and resilience relating to Prince Harry and Baby Reindeer. In this episode Caryl interviews therapist and author Sally Baker on her new book, "The Getting of Resilience from the Inside Out," where we relate this to people in the news.

We dive deep into how this relates to Prince Harry outraging the Royal family with his tell-all autobiography "Spare," plus mental health aspects of Baby Reindeer's Richard Gadd (the stalked) and Martha (the stalker).

**Guest Introduction:**
Sally Baker is a senior, licensed, and accredited therapist based in London with over 20 years of experience. Specializing in helping people feel broken or stuck, Sally uses techniques like hypnosis, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), and other related therapies. She is also a media commentator on mental health and well-being.
Her website: https://www.workingonthebody.com

- Sally shares a personal story from her childhood, where she was sexually abused by two older boys.
- Sally explains how childhood trauma affects mental health, self-worth, and relationships. The judgments we make about ourselves during trauma can impact us for years.

- To help clients, Sally uses techniques like EFT, Orpheus Mind Technologies, and hypnosis. These methods help clear the trauma before reinforcing positive beliefs.

**Prince Harry and Celebrity Mental Health:**
- The discussion shifts to Prince Harry, who has openly discussed his mental health struggles and mentioned EMDR therapy. Sally emphasizes that mental well-being requires ongoing management, not just one-time fixes.
- Celebrities often discuss mental health in isolation, but resilience and well-being are daily practices involving good nutrition, sleep, and avoiding toxic substances.

**Richard Gadd's Baby Reindeer:**
- Sallysays Richard Gadd's portrayal of a survivor of abuse in Baby Reindeer, highlighted self-blame, guilt, and hypersexualized behavior -- common responses to unresolved trauma.
Stalker Martha's compulsive behavior is typically a distraction from facing her own life's shortcomings and traumas.

**Steps to Healing and Resilience:**
1. Acknowledge and interrupt the negative inner voice.
2. Develop and trust your intuition by pausing and reflecting before making decisions.
3. Check if emotional reactions are proportionate or triggered by past events.

**Book Information:**
- Sally's book, "The Getting of Resilience from the Inside Out," is available worldwide via Amazon and her website, https://www.workingonthebody.com.
- The book is recommended for anyone feeling stuck or self-sabotaging, offering insights and direction for therapeutic work.

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The shock of visiting her father in prison changed Sarah Edwards' life forever because she chose a career as a Probation Officer to help others caught up in the prison system.

But then she got burnt out and now focuses instead on coaching other professionals to escape the mental jail of judgement and self-recrimination keeping them from success.

It's all in her book "Success on Probation: A Step-by-Step System to Reform Your Life and Release Yourself from the Mental Jail" where she shares a process to help people break free from their mental prisons and avoid burnout based on her experience as a prison Probation Officer.
She also shares what ecstatic dance and reflective writing mean for herself and those she coaches.

### Key Points:
- **Introduction:**
- Caryl welcomes Sarah Edwards, talking about her book *Success on Probation* and her journey from trauma to resilience.

- **Sarah's Background:**
- Saw her father taken to jail when she was a teenager.
- Felt the shock and emotional pain of having to visit her father behind bars.
- Became interested in understanding crime and rehabilitation.

- **Career Path:**
- Started working as a probation officer in the UK and primarily worked with people involved in the criminal justice system.
- Focused on individual rehabilitation by directing a change of habits and cognitive-behavioral intervention techniques known as CBT.

- **Key Insights:**
- The impact and effect of the root causes of crime, including family structure, beliefs, lifestyle, and opportunities.
- The difficulties of working with stubborn probationers.

But then she hit rock bottom and burnout. One way out was learning the following:

- **Ecstatic Dance:**
- Sarah learned about ecstatic dance as a way to prevent burnout and rediscover the body.
- Talks about the transformative journey through free-form dance and how it helps mental health.

- **Reflective Writing:**
- The importance of journaling and reflective writing as a means of listening to oneself and processing emotions.
- Explains how this practice supported her in making massive life decisions and living her truth.

- **Writing the Book:**
- Encouraged by a mentor to write her book during the pandemic.
- Shares the process of writing and self-publishing *Success on Probation.*
- Delves into the impact of this book on her career and how it led to a TEDx talk.

### Connect with Sarah Edwards:
- **Book:** *Success on Probation* —[Amazon worldwide]
- **Course:** *Soothe Your Soul* (6 weeks)
- **Community:** No More Burnout (Facebook Community)

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Shirin Etessam, author of transformative book, "Free to Be." shares her journey of self-discovery and healing, emphasizing the importance of play in overcoming life's challenges.

Key Points:

• Introduction to Shirin Etessam:
  • Shirin's background in the film and media industry.
  • The pivotal breakup that led to her soul-searching journey.
• The Journey to Writing "Free to Be":
  • She felt "dead inside" despite outward glamorous success.
  • The six-year process of rewriting her life's story ( distilled into six weeks in the book).
• The Writing Process:
• Overcoming the "monkey mind" and internal gremlins to stay focused on writing.
• Structured approach: Committing to writing a chapter a month, working with editors, and testing exercises with a focus group.
• Daily Purge and Morning Routine:
  • Importance of the "daily purge": A six-minute exercise to clear negativity and declutter the mind.
  • Different forms of the daily purge, including writing, dancing, and outdoor activities.
• Week-by-Week Breakdown of "Free to Be":
  • Week One: Decluttering and detoxing the mind.
  • Week Two: Taking care of and protecting the heart.
  • Week Three: Detoxing the body and resetting the relationship with it.
  • Week Four: Embracing play as an essential part of life.
  • Week Five: Finding your true north and understanding the difference between soul and spirit.
  • Week Six: Rewriting your story from the inside out.
• The Importance of Play:
  • Play as an unintentional yet essential activity for creativity and emotional well-being.
  • Examples of play: Dancing, playing with pets, exploring new places, and engaging in creative activities.
  • Encouraging listeners to identify their "play personality" and incorporate play into their daily lives.
• Practical Applications and Spiritual Wellness:
  • The continuous journey of self-discovery and the importance of integrating spiritual wellness into daily life.
  • Shirin's mission to redefine spirituality as spiritual health and wellness, distinct from religious connotations.

Connect with Shirin Etessam: https://shirinetessam.com/

• Find Shirin's book "Free to Be" on Amazon and other platforms. It’s a six-week guide to reclaiming your soul.

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