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Offploy, ex-offenders, employment opportunities, peer mentoring, social entrepreneurship, stigma, rehabilitation, community support, inclusivity

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In this conversation, Jacob Hill, founder of Offploy, shares his journey from being a prisoner to creating a peer mentoring organization that supports socially excluded individuals, particularly those with criminal convictions. He discusses the challenges faced by ex-offenders in securing employment, the stigma surrounding their past, and the importance of community support. Jacob emphasizes the need for employers to be more inclusive and understanding, and he reflects on his own experiences with prejudice and the emotional toll of advocacy work. The conversation highlights the societal impact of providing employment opportunities to those who have been incarcerated and the transformative power of second chances.

takeaways

• Offploy supports socially excluded individuals to achieve their goals.
• Jacob's journey from prison changed his perception of ex-offenders.
• The fear of prison can be more daunting than the experience itself.
• Starting Offploy was a way to repay his debt to society.
• Reputational risk is a major barrier for employers hiring ex-offenders.
• Employment opportunities can significantly reduce reoffending rates.
• Employers should focus on the individual rather than their past convictions.
• Community support is crucial for the reintegration of ex-offenders.
• Inclusivity in hiring practices benefits both employers and society
• Self-care and resilience are essential in advocacy work.

https://www.offploy.org/

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Offploy, ex-offenders, employment opportunities, peer mentoring, social entrepreneurship, stigma, rehabilitation, community support, inclusivity

summary

In this conversation, Jacob Hill, founder of Offploy, shares his journey from being a prisoner to creating a peer mentoring organization that supports socially excluded individuals, particularly those with criminal convictions. He discusses the challenges faced by ex-offenders in securing employment, the stigma surrounding their past, and the importance of community support. Jacob emphasizes the need for employers to be more inclusive and understanding, and he reflects on his own experiences with prejudice and the emotional toll of advocacy work. The conversation highlights the societal impact of providing employment opportunities to those who have been incarcerated and the transformative power of second chances.

takeaways

• Offploy supports socially excluded individuals to achieve their goals.
• Jacob's journey from prison changed his perception of ex-offenders.
• The fear of prison can be more daunting than the experience itself.
• Starting Offploy was a way to repay his debt to society.
• Reputational risk is a major barrier for employers hiring ex-offenders.
• Employment opportunities can significantly reduce reoffending rates.
• Employers should focus on the individual rather than their past convictions.
• Community support is crucial for the reintegration of ex-offenders.
• Inclusivity in hiring practices benefits both employers and society
• Self-care and resilience are essential in advocacy work.

https://www.offploy.org/

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Zelda Perkins, Harvey Weinstein, NDAs, workplace harassment, power dynamics, legal challenges, justice, settlements, advocacy, gender equality, cultural change, power dynamics, non-disclosure agreements, emotional toll, moral injury, advocacy, self-care, trauma, accountability, legislation

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In this conversation David and Naomi speak with Zelda Perkins, a prominent figure in the fight against the misuse of non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) following her experience with Harvey Weinstein. Zelda shares her journey from working at Miramax Films to co-founding the organization Can't Buy My Silence, highlighting the systemic issues of power dynamics, the challenges of seeking justice, and the emotional toll of legal negotiations. The conversation delves into the broader implications of these issues in various workplaces and the ongoing advocacy for legislative change to protect victims. In this conversation they discuss the cultural changes needed to address power dynamics, particularly in relation to non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) and their emotional toll on individuals. They emphasize the importance of accountability and the need for a shift in societal attitudes towards power and abuse. The discussion also highlights the concept of moral injury, the challenges faced by those under NDAs, and the ongoing campaign to reform the use of these agreements.

takeaways

• Zelda Perkins broke her NDA with Harvey Weinstein, sparking a movement against NDA misuse.
• The legal system often fails victims of harassment and abuse.
• Power dynamics in the workplace can lead to exploitation, especially for women.
• Money in settlements can complicate the pursuit of justice.
• The emotional toll of legal negotiations can be profound and disorienting.
• Victims often feel responsible for the actions of their abusers.
• The culture of silence around abuse needs to be challenged.
• Advocacy for legislative change is crucial to protect victims.
• The experience of being treated as 'girls' highlights the gender dynamics in legal settings.
• Zelda's journey emphasizes the importance of resilience and personal growth in the face of adversity. Cultural change is essential to address power dynamics.
• The law must evolve to protect individuals from abuse.
• NDAs can serve legitimate purposes but are often misused.
• The emotional toll of NDAs can be profound and lasting.
• Moral injury is a significant consequence of being silenced.
• Fear of legal repercussions can prevent individuals from speaking out.
• Truth is a powerful tool against oppression.
• Victims should have control over confidentiality agreements.
• Advocacy requires self-care and boundaries.
• Public awareness is crucial for cultural change.

keywords

Zelda Perkins, Harvey Weinstein, NDAs, workplace harassment, power dynamics, legal challenges, justice, settlements, advocacy, gender equality, cultural change, power dynamics, non-disclosure agreements, emotional toll, moral injury, advocacy, self-care, trauma, accountability, legislation

summary

In this conversation David and Naomi speak with Zelda Perkins, a prominent figure in the fight against the misuse of non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) following her experience with Harvey Weinstein. Zelda shares her journey from working at Miramax Films to co-founding the organization Can't Buy My Silence, highlighting the systemic issues of power dynamics, the challenges of seeking justice, and the emotional toll of legal negotiations. The conversation delves into the broader implications of these issues in various workplaces and the ongoing advocacy for legislative change to protect victims. In this conversation they discuss the cultural changes needed to address power dynamics, particularly in relation to non-disclosure agreements (NDAs) and their emotional toll on individuals. They emphasize the importance of accountability and the need for a shift in societal attitudes towards power and abuse. The discussion also highlights the concept of moral injury, the challenges faced by those under NDAs, and the ongoing campaign to reform the use of these agreements.

takeaways

• Zelda Perkins broke her NDA with Harvey Weinstein, sparking a movement against NDA misuse.
• The legal system often fails victims of harassment and abuse.
• Power dynamics in the workplace can lead to exploitation, especially for women.
• Money in settlements can complicate the pursuit of justice.
• The emotional toll of legal negotiations can be profound and disorienting.
• Victims often feel responsible for the actions of their abusers.
• The culture of silence around abuse needs to be challenged.
• Advocacy for legislative change is crucial to protect victims.
• The experience of being treated as 'girls' highlights the gender dynamics in legal settings.
• Zelda's journey emphasizes the importance of resilience and personal growth in the face of adversity. Cultural change is essential to address power dynamics.
• The law must evolve to protect individuals from abuse.
• NDAs can serve legitimate purposes but are often misused.
• The emotional toll of NDAs can be profound and lasting.
• Moral injury is a significant consequence of being silenced.
• Fear of legal repercussions can prevent individuals from speaking out.
• Truth is a powerful tool against oppression.
• Victims should have control over confidentiality agreements.
• Advocacy requires self-care and boundaries.
• Public awareness is crucial for cultural change.

In this conversation the author, Mark Stibbe shares his profound journey from a challenging early life marked by adoption and separation to his experiences in boarding school, where he faced emotional and physical challenges. He discusses the impact of shame and attachment issues stemming from his childhood, the complexities of relationships, and the vulnerability that led to experiences of abuse. Mark reflects on his disillusionment with organized religion and the transformative power of writing as a therapeutic tool in his healing process. His story is one of resilience, the search for love, and the quest for understanding and forgiveness.

https://www.markstibbe.com/

Chapters

00:00Mark Stibbe's Early Life and Adoption Journey

03:05The Impact of Shame and Attachment Issues

06:17Boarding School Experience and Second Orphaning

08:59The Role of Pets in Childhood Attachment

11:48Resilience and the Absence of Unconditional Love

14:35Vulnerability to Abuse and the Complexity of Relationships

17:33The Effects of Sexual Abuse and Guilt

20:51Navigating the Aftermath of Abuse

23:44The Need for Healing and Understanding

33:40Understanding Guilt and Isolation in Abuse

37:31The Impact of Misbeliefs and Myths on Sexuality

40:42The Role of Family Secrets in Healing

51:06Faith and Spirituality: A Personal Journey

58:08The Hypocrisy of Religious Figures and Abuse

01:02:35The Therapeutic Power of Writing and Storytelling

In this powerful and poignant conversation, Mark Stibbe shares his profound journey from a challenging early life marked by adoption and separation to his experiences in boarding school, where he faced emotional and physical challenges. He discusses the impact of shame and attachment issues stemming from his childhood, the complexities of relationships, and the vulnerability that led to experiences of abuse. Mark reflects on his disillusionment with organized religion and the transformative power of writing as a therapeutic tool in his healing process. His story is one of resilience, the search for love, and the quest for understanding and forgiveness.

https://www.markstibbe.com/

Chapters

00:00Mark Stibbe's Early Life and Adoption Journey

03:05The Impact of Shame and Attachment Issues

06:17Boarding School Experience and Second Orphaning

08:59The Role of Pets in Childhood Attachment

11:48Resilience and the Absence of Unconditional Love

14:35Vulnerability to Abuse and the Complexity of Relationships

17:33The Effects of Sexual Abuse and Guilt

20:51Navigating the Aftermath of Abuse

23:44The Need for Healing and Understanding

33:40Understanding Guilt and Isolation in Abuse

37:31The Impact of Misbeliefs and Myths on Sexuality

40:42The Role of Family Secrets in Healing

51:06Faith and Spirituality: A Personal Journey

58:08The Hypocrisy of Religious Figures and Abuse

01:02:35The Therapeutic Power of Writing and Storytelling

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In this conversation, Steve Chalke discusses the ethos and values of Oasis, (not the pop group) the organization he founded to alleviate poverty and support marginalized communities. He shares his personal journey, the challenges he faced, and the vision behind Oasis, emphasizing the importance of inclusion, understanding, and rehabilitation in society. Chalke highlights innovative approaches to youth justice, particularly through the Oasis Restore project, which aims to provide therapeutic care rather than punishment for young offenders. The discussion also touches on the significance of creating opportunities for young people and the role of accountability and leadership in charitable organizations.

Check out the links below to learn more about their work with youth justice, homelessness, education and much more.

https://www.oasisrestore.org/

https://www.oasisuk.org/

https://www.oasiscommunityhousing.org/

Author, speaker, TV and radio presenter, businessman, social entrepreneur, husband and father, Rev Steve Chalke MBE began public life as a Baptist Minister being ordained in 1981.

In 1985 he founded the Oasis Charitable Trust with a vision to build inclusive communities, where everyone has hope, feels that they matter and is given the opportunity to achieve their God-given potential. Oasis pioneers life-transforming housing, healthcare, education, church, and youth and community initiatives across the UK and the world.

Oasis works in ‘community hubs’ to provide a range of integrated and high quality services that support people holistically; educationally, physically, socially, spiritually, emotionally, economically and environmentally.

Steve has inspired numerous key initiatives in Oasis, which retain his involvement, including:

• Oasis College of Higher Education in London, in partnership with Staffordshire University, is committed to equipping and resourcing students with the skills, knowledge and understanding to improve the quality of life for their families and communities;

• Oasis Community Learning, has opened over 40 primary, secondary and all-through schools around the UK, and is committed to education and holistic community regeneration;

• Oasis Church in Waterloo, London, the first of a new network of UK churches which includes others in Bristol, Croydon, Enfield, Grimsby, Salford and Southampton;

• Stop The Traffik, a global coalition working in nearly 100 countries and with tens of thousands of activists around the world campaigning to end people trafficking. Steve was a United Nations Special Adviser for community action against human trafficking;

• People’s Parliament, which creates a place of debate, discussion, interaction and partnership for voluntary organisations with the aim of building more effective relationships between the government and the third sector.

In 2018, Rev Steve Chalke received the Spirit of London Award for the most amount of money raised for charity by an individual at the London Marathon, when he completed the 2011 race. He raised an incredible £2,330,159.38 for the Oasis UK charity.

In this conversation, Steve Chalke discusses the ethos and values of Oasis, (not the pop group) the organization he founded to alleviate poverty and support marginalized communities. He shares his personal journey, the challenges he faced, and the vision behind Oasis, emphasizing the importance of inclusion, understanding, and rehabilitation in society. Chalke highlights innovative approaches to youth justice, particularly through the Oasis Restore project, which aims to provide therapeutic care rather than punishment for young offenders. The discussion also touches on the significance of creating opportunities for young people and the role of accountability and leadership in charitable organizations.

Check out the links below to learn more about their work with youth justice, homelessness, education and much more.

https://www.oasisrestore.org/

https://www.oasisuk.org/

https://www.oasiscommunityhousing.org/

Author, speaker, TV and radio presenter, businessman, social entrepreneur, husband and father, Rev Steve Chalke MBE began public life as a Baptist Minister being ordained in 1981.

In 1985 he founded the Oasis Charitable Trust with a vision to build inclusive communities, where everyone has hope, feels that they matter and is given the opportunity to achieve their God-given potential. Oasis pioneers life-transforming housing, healthcare, education, church, and youth and community initiatives across the UK and the world.

Oasis works in ‘community hubs’ to provide a range of integrated and high quality services that support people holistically; educationally, physically, socially, spiritually, emotionally, economically and environmentally.

Steve has inspired numerous key initiatives in Oasis, which retain his involvement, including:

• Oasis College of Higher Education in London, in partnership with Staffordshire University, is committed to equipping and resourcing students with the skills, knowledge and understanding to improve the quality of life for their families and communities;

• Oasis Community Learning, has opened over 40 primary, secondary and all-through schools around the UK, and is committed to education and holistic community regeneration;

• Oasis Church in Waterloo, London, the first of a new network of UK churches which includes others in Bristol, Croydon, Enfield, Grimsby, Salford and Southampton;

• Stop The Traffik, a global coalition working in nearly 100 countries and with tens of thousands of activists around the world campaigning to end people trafficking. Steve was a United Nations Special Adviser for community action against human trafficking;

• People’s Parliament, which creates a place of debate, discussion, interaction and partnership for voluntary organisations with the aim of building more effective relationships between the government and the third sector.

In 2018, Rev Steve Chalke received the Spirit of London Award for the most amount of money raised for charity by an individual at the London Marathon, when he completed the 2011 race. He raised an incredible £2,330,159.38 for the Oasis UK charity.