• your girl got hacked | the happiest sad person podcast
    Jun 25 2024

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    Episode #39 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

    Join me, Alessandra, as I explain how on earth I was hacked in the year of our lord, 2024. Yep, you heard that right. I talk about how I'm trying to learn something from this whole experience and how I maybe manifested it by accident. (Whoops:( ) It's really a take on trying to make lemonade from some nasty lemons.

    So, take a listen and commiserate if you too are going through it -- or get some relief that you're not in my situation.

    As always, it's a choose your own adventure experience.

    Also, feel free to report my hacked accounts to help a girl out. They are linked below! :)

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    Things mentioned in the video:

    Facebook Manufacturing Outrage

    What it Takes to Get Back an Account from Meta

    Facebook Perhaps Guilty of Stoking Civil Unrest Abroad

    Meta -- The Tech Monopoly

    Meta Layoffs, Including Customer Service

    Optimistic Nihilism

    Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn

    Gone Girl Movie

    High Taste/Low Skill Quote:

    “Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, I wish someone told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know it's normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story. It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through."
    ― Ira Glass


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  • showing up is the first step | the happiest sad person podcast
    Jun 11 2024

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    Episode #38 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

    Join me, Alessandra, as I open up about my desire not to film today and my futile addiction to perfectionism (always to my own detriment). I also give my own spin on the notion that the grass is not greener on the other side and how social media makes me feel behind and depressed.

    It's really an ode to the idea that there's nothing more hollow than fulfilling someone else's dreams.

    So, listen to this pod -- and then go get those dreams, girl! [or guy, ambition don't discriminate here] !!

    As always, email suggestions to 11jacobsa@gmail.com.

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    Things mentioned in the video:

    Why We Procrastinate About The Things We Care About

    The Addiction of Seeking Perfection

    Using Anger as Motivation

    Humans Need to Belong (Sometimes to Our Detriment)

    Kinship Altruism

    Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst by Robert Sapolsky

    Introduction to Genetics and Evolution Coursera Class

    Rich Roll Podcast Clip about Showing Up on the Hard Days

    The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

    Joey Diaz On Rogan

    Richard lewis & Larry David -- A Match Made in Purgatory (in the best possible way)

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    28 mins
  • adulthood ain't the bees knees | the happiest sad person podcast
    Jun 5 2024

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    Episode #37 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

    Join me, Alessandra, as I discuss designing my own hodgepodge syllabus for my life-long education plan (or at least for the foreseeable future). I also muse on the sadness that is adulthood, how we "childify" America, and how to find the simple joys as a grown-up -- for me it naturally involves dry erase markers.

    It's a perfect combo of social commentary and self-betterment, what's better than that? :)

    Things mentioned:

    75 Hard
    Impressionist Paintings of Leisure
    History of Leisure
    Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins
    Goggins on Leadership
    Rogan and Goggins the First Time Around
    BUD/S & Seal Training
    The Compound effect
    Keats' "When I have Fears That I May Cease to Be"
    Masterpieces of World Literature Class
    Goethe book I Bought
    Harvard Classics and Their Lore (including both the good and the bad)
    Goggins' Cookie Jar
    David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell
    Acromegaly and Goliath
    Diseases in the Bible
    The American Child Conundrum
    The Over-parenting Crisis You Probably Haven't Realized is a Problem
    The History of the Protestant Work Ethic and Puritanical America
    The Origins of Pull Yourself up by Your Bootstraps
    Existential America Returning Perhaps?

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  • life is one loooong hallway | the happiest sad person podcast
    May 26 2024

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    Episode #36 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

    Join me, Alessandra, as I embrace the unemployed yet somehow constantly busy life of a creative. I also muse on Harrison Butker's commencement speech and how repulsive I find that way of thinking and how to potentially use existentialism as the salve -- spoiler alert, it always comes back to existentialism.

    Just like for another YouTuber it always relates back to tuberculosis. :)

    As always, email suggestions to 11jacobsa@gmail.com.

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    Things mentioned in the video:

    Scrivener

    The Stamet's Stack

    Soul Boom by Rainn Wilson

    The Baháʼí faith

    Dwight Schrute's Descriptive Personality Statistics

    The Office’s Rainn Wilson on meaning and happiness

    Harrison Butker's Speech

    The Religious Battle Behind Harrison Butker’s Culture-War Speech

    TikTok I filmed responding to Harrison Butker's speech

    Carl Jung Archetypes

    An Interesting Idea in Gender Existentialism

    Beauvoir | an overview

    The Importance of Crop Diversity

    Beyond the Binary in Nature

    Beyond the Binary in Nature 2

    Simone de Beauvoir Books

    The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir

    A Hero's Journey Makes you an existentialist -- and Happier?

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  • just busy chopping wood & carrying water | the happiest sad person podcast
    May 15 2024

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    Episode #35 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

    Join me, Alessandra, as I discuss being unemployed whilst keeping up my spirits -- and keeping myself busy. I end with an excerpt of my book that connects to the conversation, and I promise it relates. :)

    As always, email suggestions to 11jacobsa@gmail.com.

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    Things mentioned in the video:

    Libby Library App

    Books by Eckhart Tolle

    Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs

    Transcendental Meditation

    The Satanic Verses by Salman Rushdie

    What happened to Salman Rushdie, all from a book


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  • our modern world limits our experience of love | the happiest sad person podcast
    Mar 25 2024

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    Episode #34 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

    Join me, Alessandra, as I discuss the limitations of love our modern society has created -- but I tried to end it with some tangible suggestions for actually fixing the problem. My rule to live by: You can't complain about something unless you're actively trying to work on it.

    As always, email suggestions to 11jacobsa@gmail.com.

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    Things mentioned in the video:

    The Atlantic Babysitter Article

    Over-parenting article 1

    Over-parenting article 2

    The Five People You Meet in Heaven Book

    The Importance of Third Places

    Cul-de-Sacs in America

    A More Walkable Community


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    00:00 - 01:1

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  • depression mode -- what are we all doing here, bro? | the happiest sad person podcast
    Mar 19 2024

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    Episode #33 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

    this was filmed a month ago

    Join me, Alessandra, as I document a bout of depression mode in my life. It is a bit of woe mixed with, hopefully, some optimism at the end. Always a bit of happy entangled with a whole lot of sad.

    As always, email suggestions to 11jacobsa@gmail.com.

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    Things mentioned in the video:

    Social Contract Theory

    How to Revamp the Social Contract in our Modern World

    An interview about bullshit jobs

    Bullshit jobs book

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    19 mins
  • i'm trying to get rejected 100 times in 2024 | the happiest sad person podcast
    Feb 8 2024

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    Episode #32 of The Happiest Sad Person Podcast.

    Join me, Alessandra, as I try to repair my relationship with rejection and seek out getting no's in the wild. It's regular therapy alongside rejection therapy in 2024.

    As always, email suggestions to 11jacobsa@gmail.com.

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    Things mentioned in the video:

    Changes by Jax Anderson Lyrics:

    Scared to Start by Michael Marcagi Lyrics:

    Ohio by Stephen Markley

    The Architecture of Happiness by Alain de Botton

    The B3 Chair

    John Ruskin's Essay "On Restoration"

    The story of the British Bicycle Racing Team & Marginal Gains

    Identity and the Concept of Change

    Cal Newport Video that includes deciding upon your values

    Atomic Habits by James Clear

    The Sopranos

    Severance

    CitiesX: The Past, Present and Future of Urban Life

    How Your Nervous System Works & Changes | The Huberman Lab Podcast

    Rejection Therapy Ted Talk

    100 Days of Rejection Videos Playlist

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    00:00 - 01:19 Intro
    01:20 - 05:58 What I've been listening to
    05:59 - 20:58 What I've been reading
    20:59 - 22:05 What I've been watching
    22:06 - 24:50 What I've been learning
    24:51 - 31:15 seeking rejection
    31:16 - 39:20 Quotes & outro
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    39 mins