Competition in relationships can build you up—or break you down. In this episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the hidden effects of competition in relationships. They share real stories, challenge the “zero-sum” mindset, and explore how healthy support and playful competition can make couples stronger. You'll learn how your self-belief influences how you show up for your partner—and what to do if you feel held back instead of lifted up.

Show notes:
(2:32) Childhood experiences with toxic competition
(4:46) Monopoly and the wake-up call
(6:49) Zero-sum thinking in relationships
(8:38) When support turns into control
(10:24) Building a growth mindset together
(13:54) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(16:03) Abundance starts with self-belief
(20:24) Why do you struggle to celebrate your partner
(24:26) Outro

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Do you ever turn to your friends before your partner when something big happens? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down why so many couples feel like they can’t talk about certain things—and what to do about it. They share powerful stories and explain the three things every relationship needs to feel emotionally safe. Whether you're struggling to open up or want to build a deeper connection, this episode offers simple, heartfelt guidance to help you grow together—not apart.

Show notes:
(4:32) What is psychological safety?
(6:29) Responsiveness in relationships
(10:13) Why even delayed replies can harm the connection
(13:32) Co-regulation and emotional support
(16:40) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(18:05) Why do we turn to friends instead of our partner
(20:13) Avoiding judgment when your partner opens up
(25:09) How to offer real emotional support
(31:31) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -
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___________________________

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they reveal a powerful tool that helps people worldwide determine whether they’re being mistreated or experiencing something more profound. They walk through the 10 most common signs of mistreatment and how even well-meaning partners can cause harm without realizing it. You’ll also learn how your past may affect what you tolerate now—and what to do if your heart, mind, and gut don’t agree. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this episode will help you recognize red flags early and give you the clarity to take the next step.

Show notes:
(2:18) What is the mistreatment scorecard?
(4:06) Green, yellow, red: Growth skittles and top 10 mistreatments
(7:38) Why your gut often knows first
(10:29) Small mistreatment can lead to abuse
(11:54) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(13:31) Rational lies: Why we stay too long
(17:05) Unseen mistreatment
(20:13) Growth comes from honest scoring
(22:52) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us at Relationship Talks #46 on Thursday, April 17th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Create More Quality Time with Your Partner” -
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/J3vhhpWCSyOJPKvwTGWLWg#/registration

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___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!