Summary

In this episode, Gail Evans discusses the importance of inner child and shadow work in personal growth and relationships. She shares her journey from being a musician to becoming a detox coach and healer.

Gail emphasises the connection between the inner child and the shadow, and the need to embrace and heal both. She highlights the impact of parenthood on personal growth and the reflection of the inner child in intimate relationships.

Gail also discusses the fear of not belonging and the role of ego in protecting the inner child. She emphasizes the importance of self-parenting and reconnecting with the wonder child within.

Gail and Alan discuss various aspects of parenting, self-discovery, and relationships. They explore the shift from punishment to encouragement in parenting, the limitations of the 3D paradigm, and the importance of community in self-discovery.

They also delve into the impact of past lives on present relationships and the healing that can come from challenging relationships. Gail emphasises the need for authenticity and relational healing in order to experience deep inner growth and alignment with oneself.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

02:15 Journey to Inner Child and Shadow Work

05:44 The Impact of Parenthood on Personal Growth

07:13 Reflecting Inner Child in Intimate Relationships

09:04 Parenting and Inner Child

11:24 The Fear of Not Belonging

13:42 Healing the Inner Child

16:29 The Wonder Child and Ego

24:05 The Role of Ego in Protecting the Inner Child

26:07 The Hulk Analogy for Ego

29:07 The Filter and Attracting Relationships

32:30 The Dentist Analogy for Shadow Work

35:02 Parenting and Projection

38:57 Allowing Children to Explore Their Own Paths

39:17 Embracing Authenticity and Natural Self

39:50 Parenting and Meeting Things We Don't Like

41:30 Moving from Punishment to Encouragement

42:23 The Paradigm Shift in Parenting

43:43 Finding Balance in Parenting

44:20 Understanding the 3D Paradigm

45:30 Explaining the 3D Paradigm

46:41 Moving Beyond the 3D Paradigm

48:08 Discovering Unknown Parts of Ourselves

50:14 The Importance of Community in Self-Discovery

52:47 The Limitations of Escaping to Find Oneself

54:22 Learning from Challenging Relationships

56:09 The Impact of Past Lives on Present Relationships

58:17 Finding Healing in Difficult Relationships

01:00:29 Breaking Free from Hero and Savior Roles

01:01:07 Overcoming the Need to Prove Oneself

01:03:40 Healing Wounds in Relationships

01:06:22 The Challenges of Intimacy and Relationships

01:09:36 The Importance of Relational Healing

01:13:05 Being Authentic from the Beginning of Relationships

01:14:00 Relationships as Deep Inner Work

Contact info Relationship Revolutions is presented & hosted by Alan Watts Alan is a Life Coach, Specialising in Relationships working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Alan's socials & website Links can be found on his ⁠⁠⁠link tree www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

Gail Evans

Gail Evans is an Empath and Intuitive who has worked as a Soul Alignment Coach for the last seven years accessing her clients inner child and guiding them through subconscious reprogramming to release their family karma and conditioning.

Gail prides herself in delivering you the very best tools to help you develop your conscious awareness, switch on your super power and reconnect to your soul voice to help you to become a fully realised & empowered version of yourself!

https://www.facebook.com/gail.evans.soul.coach

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gail-evans-b3b61640/

Summary In this episode, Alan interviews Kate Nichols, an alcohol freedom coach, about the relationship with alcohol and addiction. They discuss the impact of alcohol on intimate relationships, parental relationships, friendships, work, and business.

Kate shares her personal journey of overcoming her unhealthy relationship with alcohol and the benefits she experienced after quitting. They explore the addictive nature of alcohol and how it can amplify moods and emotions. They also discuss the power of association and conditioning in shaping drinking habits.

Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness and the ability to question and change one's relationship with alcohol. In this conversation, Kate shares her personal journey of overcoming alcohol addiction and the impact it had on her family relationships. She discusses the turning point that led her to seek help and the importance of setting boundaries and taking responsibility for her actions. Kate also highlights the process of finding sobriety and the positive changes it brought to her relationships. She emphasises the need for authenticity and self-care in dating and relationships, encouraging individuals to be true to themselves and prioritise their own well-being. Takeaways Alcohol is an addictive substance that can control and amplify moods and emotions. The power of association and conditioning plays a significant role in shaping drinking habits. Quitting alcohol can lead to various benefits, including improved relationships, physical health, and emotional well-being. Changing one's relationship with alcohol requires self-awareness, clarification of beliefs, and a transformation in mindset. Alcohol addiction can have a significant impact on family relationships, leading to feelings of neglect and resentment. Inspiration to change can come from unexpected sources, such as witnessing the negative effects of addiction in others. Setting boundaries and taking responsibility for one's actions are crucial steps in the journey to sobriety. Replacing alcohol with healthy habits and finding new ways to enjoy life can lead to greater happiness and fulfilment. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 01:32 Background and Career 07:01 Alcohol as an Addictive Substance 10:24 The Cycle of Drinking and Chasing the Buzz 13:07 Alcohol and Mood Amplification 15:36 Alcohol as an Artificial Substance 22:36 Desire for Alcohol and Overcoming It 25:52 Benefits of Sobriety 28:08 Changing Relationship with Alcohol 30:31 Association and Influence on Drinking Habits 31:51 The Impact of Alcohol on Family Relationships 33:15 Inspiration to Change 34:33 Choosing Alcohol Over Family 36:55 Setting Boundaries and Taking Responsibility 39:31 The Journey to Sobriety 43:07 The Turning Point 45:31 Impact on Relationships 49:20 Challenges and Changes in Friendships 51:28 Replacing Alcohol with Healthy Habits 56:21 Advice to Teenage Self 01:00:59 Finding Happiness and Authenticity

Contact Info

Relationship Revolutions is hosted by Alan Watts, a life coach who specialises in relationships, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Alan's website and socials can be found on his link tree www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

Kate Nichols

Website: https://freedomaffect.com/
Moderation Freebie https://freedomaffect.com/moderation
Am I an Alcoholic Freebie: https://freedomaffect.com/amianalcoholic

Summary

In this conversation, Liz Harrington, The EFT Coach, shares her journey of healing and personal growth after going through a divorce. She emphasizes the importance of inner healing and how it impacts relationships. Liz also discusses the challenges of divorce, including the emotional and financial aspects.

She highlights the need for support and understanding for men going through divorce. Additionally, Liz provides insights into navigating new relationships when children are involved.

This conversation covers topics such as blending families and co-parenting, the importance of money mindset, money mindset and divorce recovery, gender roles and relationships, assessing compatibility and seeking help, the stigma of divorce, cultural differences, and challenges faced by Asian women.

The conversation also mentions a book titled 'Money, Marriage, and Motherhood: How Not to Get F*cked Over, What You Can't Afford Not to Know.' In this conversation, Liz Harrington, The EFT Coach, discusses the importance of money, marriage, and motherhood in relationships. She emphasises the need for future-proofing relationships through financial planning and equal contribution to pensions.

Liz also highlights the positive aspects of divorce and the opportunity for growth and healing it can provide. The conversation explores the impact of mobile phones on relationships and the challenges faced in modern relationships.

The conversation concludes with the importance of doing inner work and healing before entering into relationships.

Takeaways

Inner healing is crucial for having a healthy relationship after divorce.

The healing journey is ongoing and requires continuous self-reflection and growth.

Divorce can be emotionally and financially challenging, and it is important to seek support and guidance.

Men often face a lack of support and understanding during divorce, and it is important to address this issue.

Divorce can be a positive experience, providing an opportunity for growth and healing.

The excessive use of mobile phones can negatively impact relationships and hinder genuine connection.

Balancing income and responsibilities is crucial for a successful partnership.

Doing inner work and healing before entering into relationships can lead to healthier connections.

Chapters

05:41 The Importance of Inner Healing

08:11 Healing Generational Wounds

11:52 The Healing Journey and Relationship Patterns

14:27 The Healing Process as a Game

23:04 The Lack of Support for Men in Divorce

26:43 Navigating New Relationships and Children

33:52 The Importance of Money Mindset

36:26 Money Mindset and Divorce Recovery

41:23 Gender Roles and Relationships

44:10 Assessing Compatibility and Seeking Help

51:18 The Stigma of Divorce and Cultural Differences

59:21 Challenges Faced by Asian Women

01:00:00 Book Title: Money, Marriage, and Motherhood

01:00:22 The Importance of Money, Marriage, and Motherhood

01:01:18 Future-Proofing Relationships with Financial Planning

01:02:29 Balancing Income and Responsibilities in a Partnership

01:03:55 The Gift of Divorce

01:05:48 The Impact of Mobile Phones on Relationships

01:07:44 Challenges in Modern Relationships

01:09:09 The Negative Effects of Technology on Relationships

01:13:09 The Importance of Emotional Support in Divorce

01:16:25 The Future and Mission of Helping Others

01:18:22 Advice to Younger Self: Speed Up the Healing Process

01:19:51 Healing Childhood Wounds and Generational Healing

Contact info

Relationship Revolutions is presented & hosted by Alan Watts

Alan is a Life Coach, Specialising in Relationships working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Alan's socials & website Links can be found on his ⁠⁠link tree⁠⁠

Liz Harrington

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizharringtontheeftcoach/

https://www.facebook.com/lizharringtoneft

www.theeftcoach.com

Summary

Beckie Martin shares her experience of living on the road with her family in an RV. She discusses how the idea of living on the road went from a dream to a reality after watching a YouTube video. Beckie talks about the challenges of living in a small space and the process of downsizing.

She emphasises the importance of communication and finding balance in relationships. Beckie also highlights the impact of life on the road on her daughters' education and personal growth. She shares her experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic and the varying restrictions in different locations. In this conversation, Beckie shares her experiences of living on the road with her family.

They discuss the confusing COVID-19 rules and restrictions they encountered, as well as the positive aspects of their travels, such as meeting new people and creating lifelong friendships. They also talk about defying societal expectations and living life on their own terms.

Beckie emphasizes the value of traveling for self-discovery and learning about different cultures. She offers advice for dating and relationships, including the importance of not speaking negatively about your partner behind their back. Overall, the conversation highlights the transformative power of travel and the connections it can foster.

Takeaways

Living on the road in an RV requires downsizing and managing possessions.

Communication and finding balance are key to maintaining relationships in a small space.

Living on the road provides opportunities for personal growth and expanding one's perspective.

The COVID-19 pandemic presented unique challenges for those living on the road. Confusing COVID-19 rules and restrictions can be frustrating and nonsensical.

Traveling allows for meeting new people and creating lifelong friendships.

Living life on your own terms and defying societal expectations can lead to personal fulfillment.

Traveling provides opportunities for self-discovery and learning about different cultures.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:03 Dreaming of Life on the Road

04:49 Considering Alternative Living Arrangements

05:55 Challenges of Living in a Small Space

07:03 Managing Possessions and Shopping Habits

08:20 Accumulating Stuff and Downsizing

09:06 The Impact on Relationships

10:13 Finding Balance and Communication

16:04 Challenges of Going with the Flow

19:06 Impact on Children and Education

22:14 Expanding the Bubble and Challenges

23:11 Experiences during the COVID-19 Pandemic

24:34 Confusing COVID-19 Rules

25:05 Meeting New People on the Road

26:34 Having Conversations and Making Connections

27:45 Living Life on Your Own Terms

29:12 Creating Lifelong Friendships

30:13 Defying Societal Expectations

31:32 The Value of Traveling and Self-Discovery

33:37 Working and Traveling in Australia

35:03 Finding Ways to Make Traveling Possible

36:11 Meeting People from Unexpected Places

37:08 Learning about Different Cultures

38:38 The Smallness of the World

40:47 Trusting Your Gut and Overcoming Fear

43:45 Advice for Dating and Relationships

46:32 Connecting with Beckie

Contact info

Relationship Revolutions is presented & hosted by Alan Watts

Alan is a Life Coach, Specialising in Relationships working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Alan's socials & website Links can be found on his ⁠link tree⁠

Or email directly to relationship-revolutions@theloveengineer.rocks

Beckie Martin

Instagram:

www.instagram.com/we.will.figure.it.out

YouTube:

https://youtube.com/@We_Will_Figure_It_Out?si=NO98mgWZ5SaiEf3T

Or Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/wewillfigureitout?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Sumary

In this conversation, Alan interviews Ian Bickle from Rewired Eating. They discuss Ian's background in the culinary industry and his journey to becoming a personal trainer and nutrition coach. They explore the importance of having a healthy relationship with food and the dangers of diet culture.

They also touch on the impact of social media on body image and the need for individuals to define their own worth beyond physical appearance. The conversation concludes with a discussion on relationships and the importance of self-reflection and personal growth.

In this conversation, Ian Bickle discusses his journey in bodybuilding and how it impacted his relationships and relationship with food.

He emphasises the importance of recovery after extreme dieting and the need to regain balance in physical and mental health. Ian also highlights the dangers of comparing oneself to others on social media and the importance of self-acceptance and self-love.

He advocates for a personalised approach to nutrition and the importance of understanding one's own intuition and values. Ian encourages individuals to seek coaching and therapy when necessary and to prioritise their overall well-being.

Takeaways

Having a healthy relationship with food is important for overall well-being

Diet culture can be harmful and lead to disordered eating

Body image issues are prevalent in today's society

Self-reflection and personal growth are key to healthy relationships

Defining one's worth beyond physical appearance is crucial Extreme dieting for bodybuilding competitions can have negative effects on physical and mental health, including loss of periods, thinning hair, fatigue, and loss of libido.

The recovery process after extreme dieting is often overlooked and involves regaining balance in physical and mental health, including cognitive function, libido, and overall well-being.

Comparing oneself to others on social media can lead to body image issues, disordered eating, and unrealistic expectations.

A personalised approach to nutrition, based on individual intuition and values, is essential for a healthy relationship with food.

Coaching and therapy can be valuable tools in helping individuals navigate their relationship with food and improve overall well-being.

Guest info :-

Body builder turned healthy eating coach Ian Bickle,

Www.Rewiredeating.Co.Uk

Find out if you have a healthy relationship with food with Ian's complimentary scorecard.

Https://www.rewiredeating.co.uk/scorecard/

The Host :-

Alan is a life coach, who specialises in the area of relationships, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Alan also works with couples in crisis to turn their relationship around and bring deeper connection, more passion, understanding and intimacy.

Alan can be found on all FB, Instagram, Ticktok and linked in.

Links can be found on his link tree www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

Or email directly to relationship-revolutions@theloveengineer.rocks

Summary

In this conversation, Arneen, a dating and relationship coach based in New Zealand, discusses the dating culture and challenges in the country. She highlights the relaxed and slow-paced nature of dating in New Zealand, as well as the limited dating pool.

Arneen also explores the influence of Maori culture on relationships, emphasising the collectivist and family-oriented values. The conversation delves into the concept of men as prizes and the importance of managing expectations in dating.

The impact of personal growth and environment on relationships is also discussed, along with the need to look beyond the idealised image of a knight in shining armour. The conversation explores the projection of ideal partners and the importance of looking beyond these projections. It delves into the impact of upbringing and society's conditioning on relationship expectations.

The desire for safety and security, as well as the need to feel seen and special, are discussed. The concept of knights in shining armor and the tendency to overlook important qualities in partners are examined.

The conversation also addresses the impact of masculine energy in relationships and the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies. It challenges stereotypes and superficial expectations, and highlights the importance of understanding men's desires and emotional capacity.

The conversation concludes by emphasising the appreciation of natural beauty and authenticity, as well as the intentions behind chivalrous gestures. In this conversation, Alan & Arneen discuss the impact of modern dating and the role of dating apps. She shares her personal journey to becoming a relationship coach and highlights the importance of self-discovery and personal growth in building healthy and meaningful relationships.

Arneen emphasises the need for deep conversations and early exploration of values and boundaries in relationships. Overall, the conversation highlights the challenges and opportunities in navigating the world of dating and relationships in the 21st century.

Takeaways

Look beyond projections and explore the depths of a person's character.

Balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships for a healthy dynamic.

Understand men's desires and emotional capacity for better communication and connection.

Self-discovery and personal growth are essential for building healthy and meaningful relationships.

Having deep conversations early on in a relationship can help avoid wasting time on incompatible partners.

Chapters

06:02 The Kiwi Way of Dating

07:46 The Man Drought in New Zealand

13:19 The Perception of Men as Prizes

14:36 Managing Expectations in Dating

25:03 Knowing Who You Are in Relationships

28:08 The Impact of Environment on Relationships

32:07 Looking Beyond the Knight in Shining Armor

34:02 The Importance of Looking Beyond Projections

35:21 The Impact of Upbringing and Society's Conditioning

36:17 The Desire for Safety and Security

37:23 The Need to Feel Seen and Special

38:28 Overlooking Important Qualities in Partners

39:01 The Impact of Masculine Energy in Relationships

40:04 The Importance of Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies

43:13 Differentiating Between Healthy and Toxic Relationships

50:33 Challenging Stereotypes and Superficial Expectations

52:25 Understanding Men's Desires and Emotional Capacity

54:09 Appreciating Natural Beauty and Authenticity

57:09 The Intentions Behind Chivalrous Gestures

58:06 The Impact of Modern Dating

01:13:34 The Influence of Dating Apps

01:21:20 Deep Conversations and Early Relationship Exploration

01:26:53 The Importance of Self-Discovery and Personal Growth

Alan Watts - The Love Engineer.

Alan is a relationship coach, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Alan's socials can be found on his link tree