We all know that feeling when something doesn’t sit right, but we shrug it off, telling ourselves, “It’s not a big deal.” Yet, over time, those little moments of unspoken frustration build up, slowly shrinking our emotional bandwidth until we snap over the tiniest thing. Whether it's a parent feeling taken for granted or a struggling teen wondering why they’re the only one doing all the hard work, resentment can do a lot of harm when left unchecked.

In this episode, Seth and I tackle the tricky topic of resentment, how it sneaks up on us as parents and what we can do about it before it takes over, as well as the resentment our struggling teens might feel, especially those who have been in treatment.

“A lot of my resentment comes from an unrealistic expectation that I have of somebody else that I have not yet expressed.” - Seth Gottlieb

The truth is, resentment often grows from unspoken expectations and emotions. I share my journey of being the passive parent until my resentment boiled over, and Seth explains why teens, too, feel resentful when they’re the only ones expected to change or feel like they’re the only ones putting in all the work.

In this episode on resentment between parents and teens, we discuss:

• How resentment builds and why we often ignore it until it’s too late;
• The importance of being emotionally honest with ourselves and our loved ones;
• Why struggling teens may feel resentment towards us, especially those who have been in treatment;
• How resentment can be an indicator that you’re not staying true to your values as a parent;
• Strategies to prevent resentment by communicating expectations clearly and consistently;
• And much more!

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🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

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Related podcast episodes:
102. Why Your Teen Isn’t Acting Like an Adult
66. How To Bring Up Backburner Issues With Tanya Hale

And remember parents, the change begins with us.

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We are all wired to avoid uncomfortable feelings. We instinctively shy away from discomfort, parents and teens alike. Whether it’s solving a problem for our kids, distracting ourselves from uncomfortable feelings, or we’re trying to save the day, we often act to avoid the tension. But here’s the hard truth: our teens need to experience that discomfort in order to grow. In this episode, Seth and I explore why learning to sit with emotional unease, both for ourselves and our teens or young adults, is key to developing resilience and problem-solving skills.

As parents, it’s all too easy to step in and “rescue” our kids when they’re struggling. But where’s the line between helping and enabling? Is stepping in actually saving them from distress, or is it preventing them from learning how to handle their own emotions? I share a story from one of my clients about how a teen’s persistent pushback led the parent to second-guess their boundaries, ultimately giving in to avoid discomfort. It’s a common trap, but real growth happens when we, as parents, can sit with that unease a little longer than our kids, helping them build the skills they need to handle life’s emotional challenges.

In this episode on learning to sit with discomfort, we explore:

• How long can you tolerate emotional discomfort before feeling the need to act?;
• The fine line between helping and enabling your child;
• Why sitting with your own distress can help your child develop problem-solving skills;
• The importance of modeling emotional resilience for your kids;
• How to balance support and structure when parenting teens.

Listen now to learn how to help your teen build emotional resilience and problem-solving skills by managing your own discomfort first!

Need support?
🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

You can support the show by:
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And remember parents, the change begins with us.

Got a question or something to share? You can always send me a message by clicking here. I'd love to hear from you!

Co-parenting is hard - there’s no sugarcoating it. In an ideal world, both parents would align perfectly on every decision, from phone use to curfews to navigating friendships. But, as Seth and I explore in this episode, that’s often not the case.

One of the biggest challenges I often see as a parent coach is when one parent holds firm boundaries while the other is more loose. It can feel like a tug-of-war, and the fear of "losing" your child to the more relaxed parent is real. But here’s the thing: I’ve consistently found that when healthy boundaries are set (and consequences stuck to) with kindness, compassion, and understanding, your child, teen, or young adult will still enjoy being around you.

You don’t have to undermine your co-parent to uphold your values, and you don’t have to be afraid of the different influences your child is getting from the other parent. Let’s take a deeper look at all of this in today’s episode!

In this episode on co-parenting challenges, we discuss:

• Why you don’t have to be afraid of ‘losing’ your child to the other parent by setting more strict boundaries;
• How to uphold your value system without undermining the other parent;
• The damaging effects of speaking negatively about the other parent or dismissing their boundaries;
• The natural reaction of our brain to blame others and how to turn the reflection back on yourself;
• And much more!

If you ever think to yourself:

• "What do I do if my ex undermines my parenting?"
• "How can I co-parent without putting my child in the middle?"
• "Why does my ex always get to be the fun parent?"
• "Am I losing my child to the other parent by setting strict boundaries?"
• "What’s the best way to co-parent when we don’t agree?"
• "How can I co-parent without conflict?"

…then this episode is for you! Let’s dive in!

Need support?

🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

You can support the show by:
Leaving a review
Subscribing to the show

And remember parents, the change begins with us.

Got a question or something to share? You can always send me a message by clicking here. I'd love to hear from you!