Are you a hugger? Becks is, Claire isn’t (she just doesn’t feel the need all the time!)!

We spoke about:

• Our own experiences with hugging and showing affection.
• How to approach situations with children and hugging – should it be an expectation that your child hugs people?
• If not, what should you do?
• Having conversations with people about the fact your child can say no they don’t want a hug and when to do it.
• Kissing little ones and reasons we don’t kiss newborn babies (or you could kiss their feet!).
• Teaching children life skills so they know the importance of saying no if something doesn't feel right – that their body is their body and it’s OK.
• How showing affection can be done in many different ways.
• The pandemic and how we weren’t allowed to hug!
• 5 Love Languages and how helpful they are for all of us.
• The power of the Disney Hug.
• NSPCC and the PANTS rule.

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This episode was so much fun! Vern joined us from Carifit, the original baby wearing fitness programme. Cari stands for Cardio and resistance intervals and when he started the classes for new mums Vern used to wear the babies while the parents worked out - he had a light bulb moment that parents could wear their own babies to work out and it went from there!

We talked about:

• How from small beginnings the Carifit classes grew and then the baby carrier was born. (Shout out to Hannah Lowry who was one of the first mums to join Vern at a class!)
• Groupology and the science and benefits of moving in sync.
• The benefits of mood, energy and mental health from doing exercise like Carifit – it can even improve postnatal depression symptoms.
• The marvels of the women’s body and how incredible it is!
• How the Carifit caters for parents from the moment they become pregnant and how attitudes to postnatal and ante natal exercise has changed / is changing.
• Shifts in attitudes to ‘getting back in shape’ after having a baby over the years Vern has been working in this area.
• Benefits of Carifit eg no separation, no childcare required, no other people required. How Carifit works if you have multiple babies.
• Carifit classes and the App.
• How great baby wearing is in general - ”A tool for freedom and movement – wear your baby and move!”.
• Golden rules for babywearing and positioning of baby’s legs.
• Is babywearing ‘making a rod for your own back’ - spoiler alert – absolutely not, in fact research supports that babywearing will help keep your day successfully moving forward!
• Three things that Vern wishes he had been told before he had children.
• Babywearing benefits for baby’s brains!
• Shout out from Vern to Mamma Social and Blaze Trails – two highly recommended babywearing walking groups.

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July going into August is a month of birthdays and celebrations for us – starting with our business birthday at the end of July, Becks’s dog Olive’s birthday on 1st August (!), then Becks and her twins (all on the same day!), Claire’s birthday exactly a week after and then Becks’s husband at the end of August! So, we thought that this was the ideal time to look at birthdays, presents, parties and everything that goes along with it!

We spoke about:

• Why birthdays are Becks’s very favourite thing!
• Baby’s first birthdays (they don’t know..!)
• Birthday parties – for all ages and how the most important thing is making it personal for everyone and celebrating as a family together.
• Inviting the WHOLE class from school (and the associated presents!)!
• How parties can be quite overwhelming if the birthday girl / boy doesn’t like being the centre of attention.
• Present alternatives – perhaps give experiences instead (thanks @nannyanita – they are quite often better as a gift for older children).
• Parties – thanks to Mel @sleepNannymelaniehastings – who suggested picking a theme for the party to help keep focus on the party planning.
• Claire’s party project for nanny training (and her duck cake..!).
• Birthday cakes (and some of Becks’s creations for the twins’ birthdays!!).
• Birthday build up and managing expectations and emotions.
• Birthdays and multiple children – twins, triplets and more.
• Christmas and New Year birthdays.
• Party bags (no whistles please!).

Ps – following up on something we said in this episode, Ben actually pulled it out of the bag and ended up giving Amy a beautiful Pandora charm for her birthday 😊!

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